Positive Visualization

[CHUBBRUBBKARA]

Well gang.... you know what they say... Successful people use positive visualization as a tool for success. Since this board is pretty dead (Is everyone on vacation?) I thought we could all share how we visualized ourselves once we lose the weight. I'll start.

I play these scenarios in my mind over and over:

Walking and not sweating like a lil piggy. Going to amusement parks etc... and being happy to be in pictures.

When I see relatives after a long time, I visualize them seeing me and being surprised and saying how wonderful I look. And I visualize being more attractive than some of them.

Right now I'm a stay at home Mom, but I visualize myself getting a decent job and no one knows I was ever heavy.

Most of all...... I visualize just being able to go out and not have people stare at me and look at me funny thinking I'm a fat ---. I want to go out in public and have no one notice me at all.

What do you visualize?

Kara

Lot's more but that's a start.

[Yakara]

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Walking down the street and having heads turn.

Seeing people that I used to work with and their reactions to my changed look.

Playing with my kids in the park and being able to run around for hours with them.

Going on a vacation with my 'old man' and wearing the skimpiest thong that I can find. (And being okay enough with my body to do that.

GOING SHOPPING! That is the best one I think. I can try on anything in the store and everything fits!!!! (And looks good)

-Yakara

[Kate113]

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I visualize myself being able to actually FIT in those rides at the amusement park.

Walking up a steep hill and not having to stop 3 times on way up because I'm winded.

Putting on a bathing suit and not having people stare at the fat girl.

Wearing shorts in public when it's 100 degrees outside and not feeling bad about it.

Being able to find clothes that fit me without having to go to the big girls store or the plus size section.

Going to my high school reunion and everyone doesn't recognize me because I'm literally half the person I used to be.

[killerbombshell]

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Getting back to the weight I was the last time I did Atkins seriously, 139, and blowing right past it.

Being able to go to parties, social events, etc and not wonder if people think I'm "the fat girl."

Wearing shorts! (something I literally have never, ever done out of severe leg hatred)

Wearing cute little bikinis!! Bikinis!!

Having a sexy Halloween costume

[CHUBBRUBBKARA]

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I cant totally hear you girls when you talk about wearing shorts. And when I have worn them (which I never ever ever do anymore) I get chubbrubb, hence my name.

I have to agree with everything else too. I can't wait to go swimming and not be embarrassed.

Anyone else?

[LookingForward]

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I've obtained several of these goals already, much to my happiness, but here's what I visualized going into this WOL...

• my fat-obsessed in-laws treating me like a human being and STOPPING with their comments and questions.
• wearing a bathing suit, going to the beach without feeling like (and looking like) a beached whale.
• doing the things I always loved doing, but gradually stopped doing because I was either too embarassed or too out of shape to do them.
• biking for FUN again.
• being able to move my body out of harm's way in an emergency (my aunt was in one of the towers on 9/11, and if she'd been my size and as out of shape as me, my guess is she would NOT have made it out of the building). That was a real wake-up call for me!
• playing with my little 2-year old neice without being winded or out of energy after 2 seconds.
• becoming a "normal" size before my little 2-year old neice is old enough to remember her big, fat aunt.
• running into old friends when I go back home for a visit, without being mortified by having them see me.
• being comfortable meeting my husband's coworkers. I've avoided it since we met, because of embarassment and fear! (and we've been together 10 years!)
• NOT dreading every social event that comes along, NOT trying to formulate an excuse to get out of everything that comes along (family reunions, etc.) because I'm so horrified by my weight and know that if I show up I'll just be put in an embarassing situation (what if they want to walk more than 20 feet at a time?)
• RE-visiting all the wonderful and amazing places I've been in my life but was too out of shape to truly enjoy (Colorado hiking, Hawaii waterfall trails, Alaskan wilderness!)
• fitting COMFORTABLY into a movie theater seat!!!!!!!!!
• fitting COMFORTABLY into a seat on an airplane!!!!!!!!!
• fitting into the "normal" chair when I go to the hair salon. They don't point it out of course, but they have a chair they use for bigger women when they wash/rinse hair that only has an arm on ONE side. ALL the others have arms on both sides. They also have "larger" drapes for people my size.
• believe it or not, I have to dream about fitting into the arm chairs in my dining room. When company comes over, it's a little awkward because as the hostess I'm expected to sit at the end of the table, and I simply don't fit!
• shopping, even at a mall IF I desire, without the fear and embarassment of how winded I got when I would walk for any distance, and without having to rest. (I haven't been to a mall in about 6 years!)
• buying clothes without fear and dread. Trying on clothes in the NORMAL size ranges for the first time since I was 18.
• better sex!
• occasional, innocent flirting by strangers, again.
• enjoying being in photographs, again.
• dressing sexily again.
• feeling CONFIDENCE again.
• having energy again, being happy being "on the go".
• IF I decide to go back to work, starting a job where people never know I was gigantic before, and would be surprised to know it.
• being happy in my own skin. Feeling flexible and free for the first time in more than a decade.
• hiking again.
• camping again.
• living longer, and better, enjoying myself and my LIFE from now on!

[CHUBBRUBBKARA]

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Looking forward! Ditto to all except replace neice with son! I have not met my husbands coworkers either..... LOL.... They sometimes ask him if he's sure he's really married or if he's secretly divorced. I imagine that most of us on here have similar thoughts or should I say identical. It was a relief to read your post. I don't feel so alone.

Kara

[changing]

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I'm visualizing being able to find a sportsbra that actually fits.

Also, not getting horrible heat rash every summer near my thighs and under my chest.

Being able to run 3 miles.

[BenandHallesMom_1]

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• Definitely wearing a bikini
• Spending Saturdays at the lake (in the bikini) with my family
• Working out in cute work out clothes (not baggy pants and oversized T's)
• High School Reunion...I really want jaws to drop!
• Shopping, Shopping, Shopping! (not in plus size dept. of course)
• Enjoying ALL outdoor activities

Well, there's my list. I can't wait! Thanks for the great "visualization exercise"! I think we get so focused on the short term things that we forget the big picture. That's what is great about this WOL...do it one day at a time and it will happen!!

[tkdhabidah]

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hmmmm...so many things...here's a few, okay, more than a few...

-To never hear another person say "you have such a pretty face...."
-To play, really play with my kids
-to shop in regular, trendy stores for cute clothing
-to swim without shorts over my suit
-to be the "hot wife" at my husband's fire department parties
-to avoid heart patient status
-to be intimate with the LIGHTS ON!!!
-to wear sexy lingerie and heels and actually look sexy
-to be free of back fat!
-to wear shorts and tank tops
-to finally master a flying cement break in tae kwon do and actually be able to leave the ground
-for my hubby to be able to pick me up
-laying out in a bathing suit, not shorts and a tshirt

I could go on and on, but I guess I will stop there. Great Post, thanks!
kristi

[CHUBBRUBBKARA]

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Ditto.


Kara

[choeve]

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I love this thread!!!!!!!! So much to strive for and look forward to.

Shopping for regular size in a regular store
Taking my daughter to 6 Flags and fitting in ALL of the rides
Not always being the biggest person in the room
Being able to run which I have never been able to do my whole life
Going to the beach and not fearing Green Peace is going to come and try to put me back in the water. LOL
Being able to go and visit old friends and not staying away because the last time they saw me I weighed 100 pounds less
Feeling confident at work and not being the phantom employee that always hides in her corner
Wear sleeveless clothes
And most of all living to see my daughter grow up, get married and have kids of her own some day

[pladd04]

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This is a great thread but you guys have already said just about everything I could think of.....(thinking....)

I have not been skinny since I was like 4 yrs. old. I just can't wait to know what it feels like to be skinny.

Seeing the look on my ex's face
Watching the jaws drop when my friends and family see me
To be able to shop at Fredricks of Hollywood >sexy thigh high stockings<
To finally make my hubby's wish come true and do a strip tease for him and feel good about it.
To bend over to tie my shoe without being out of breath when I stand back up.
To not feel like the fat ugly duckling when I out with friends.
To get flirty looks instead of "EWWW.. what a cow" looks
And to NEVER EVER hear again "You would be so pretty if you lost some of that weight"
To never hear my kids tell me my belly shakes like jello
To be known as just a good dancer, not "that fat girl is getting jiggy wit it." GRRRRR.....
To be healthy enough to run and keep up with my ADHD 6yr. son.
To live a longer better happier life.

Sorry if I repeated anything.