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So the other day, I was going through my neighbors movie collection, retrieving the movies that she borrowed and never returned. While I was at it, I was also going to borrow a few movies from her. I found this one called "The Secret" and threw it in the stash.
Today I decided to put a movie on while I worked on BF's V-Day gift. I perused through and found "The Secret" and realized it was some sort of self-help DVD. But it was kind of cool looking, not anything corporate like annoying, so I thought I'd throw it in while I worked on my BF's V-Day gift. Not being one for self-help type stuff, I figured what the hey, maybe there will be a little message somewhere in there that I will like to ponder.
Up started this sort of dramatic self-help astral like theme of "the secret" that people from Einstein to Plato knew that the DVD promises to share with you. It's not selling anything, so I assumed the DVD itself was the sell. I was listening as I worked on the picture frame and found that it shared some basic principles that I've carried with me most of my life. Just things on how to succeed, making things come to you. It's like an hour long DVD, but I'll touch up on some of the fine points because I think it's interesting enough to share.
A long time ago, I was dating this guy, we'll call him John, who wasn't good with kids. Being that I have a son who was 7 at the time, it was rather trying. He wasn't bad with kids, he just didn't know how to relate to them much. We were just having fun dating, so I didn't put too much thought into it. Well, over time, he found the regular kid things that my son does (you know kids, they never shut up, are messy, silly, etc.) more and more annoying. John and my son got along fine, but soon I found John's tone went from curious spectator to annoyed participant. Behind closed doors, he'd start asking things like, "Why does he (my son) constantly interrupt us when we are trying to talk? Doesn't he understand that that is rude?" Then his tone went from annoyed participant to active disliker of my child. It hurt because I'd grown to love him. I just didn't feel it was that big of a problem until I realized that breaking my own heart was the only way to solve it.
Anyway, I digress...my very insightful cousin said something that awakened me to so many things that I never realized. He said, "Felicia, whatever you focus on, grows. It seems to me that John is just really focused on the "annoying" aspects of your son, so it just keeps getting bigger and bigger to him. He can't see your son any other way now"
Well, that was about 3 years ago. John and I are still great friends, even though our friendship is now dwindled down to the telephone. Thankfully, he will not date a woman with children again! I used to think that men were bleepholes when they say they don't want to date a woman with children. NOW I know that all that means is that thankfully, they are HELPING us dodge a HUGE bullet! LOL.
So...what really struck me during that ordeal was what my cousin said about whatever you focus on growing. How true it is in so many aspects! I realized how so many times myself, whenever I focused on an aspect of a person's personality, that part stood out paramount above all other things about them. Causing me to have to suffer through annoyance and even anger.
This movie, the Secret, had writers, authors, entrepenuers, psychologists, doctors, feng shui experts, and all sorts of spiritual type of people explaining the same, exact thing. Your FOCUS having the power to bring positive and negative things to you, and how it relates to the law of attraction, the strongest power in the universe.
It talked about basically that very same ideal of focus and growth. It talked about how people who constantly complain of sickness are constantly sick. People who constantly complain about money problems are always in debt. People who constatnly complain about dating problems constantly have them. How true this is....
I know we've all had our problems in life--abuse, dysfunction. Most of us have suffered bad, even unbearable things. Some come out strong and survive, some seem to lay in their misfortune and add to it their whole lives. I went into foster care when I was 15 and loss my family as a result. I went through tragedy, just like most everyone out there. But ever since I was little, I always imagined better things instead of dwelling on all the bad stuff I had seen. Luckily for me, this instinct was a natural one. I knew that one day I'd be grown up and could do what I want and control my life and the people in it and it would all go away. I envisioned myself happy, independent, creative, traveled, cultured, social. At age 5, I thought of these things, dreamt of these things all the time. Yet I was simply a shy, introverted girl living in a shack in Fresno, Ca, suffering through grave familial dysfunction. I was lightyears away from the reality that I dreamt about. But I wanted it, imagined it, focused on it my whole youth. And now, here I am, living that lifestyle I dreamt of. I didn't go into drugs or gangs, and no man has ever laid a finger against me. I beat all the statistics. I truly believe with all that I am, that it was my unstoppable imagination that got me through to where I am. My focus on a good future, exploration of possibilities, the adventures I would have.
The other thing this DVD talked about was how lending your thoughts to the bad things only perpetuates them. It applied to things such as support groups, counseling, all of the stuff we are designed to believe helps us. According to "the secret", lending your thoughts to any subject, desire, need, and even the things that you DON'T want attracts those very things to you energetically and spirtuatlly. Thoughts have a frequency, and that frequency resonates into the universe and it finds it's like frequency that comes right back to you. For example, if you go to your mailbox everyday thinking about all the bills coming through, they will keep coming through. If you try to think about a check coming to the mailbox or a letter from an old friend, it will come to you.
I liked how it said that the universe should be seen as your Genie in a bottle with an infinite number of wishes allowable to you. If you say to it, "This day has been horrible and it just keeps getting worse," the Genie will say, "Your wish is my command." But if you say, "My true love is going to find me very soon," it will also say, "your wish is my command."
It also talked about how when you pay attention to your focus, that you will soon pick up on on synchronicities that life puts on your path that make it easier for you to stay on the path. Much like how when you are pregnant or thinking of getting pregnant, all the sudden, you seem to notice pregnant women everywhere. Your mind will create the environment that you are imagining.
A funny thing is that a few nights ago, I was surfing the net, looking for an inspirational quote that I could put in my signature here on ADBB. I looked and looked and then found the quote that is now attached in my signature by Albert Einstein. One of the knowers of the secret, according to the DVD. So the fact that I read the quote and put it on here a few days ago and WHAT IT SAYS kind of astounds me. When you read the quote, you will know why.
So I wanted to just take a minute and type this out to everyone, because I think it is a good message to hear. I have a renewed faith in the power of focus. And when I think of what I have been focusing on in my overall weight loss plan-- the fear of failure, frustration that it's "not working", impatience and annoyance, I realize that I have been attracting more of these things to me. It is time for me to re-energize and begin thinking about ONLY the positive, ONLY the benefits of the WOE.
As of this second, no more will I think of this WOE with a fear of failure, with a fear of the unknown (i.e., can I do it?). I will no longer focus on the complicatedness of the WOE or what I have not yet achieved.
I will only focus on the more slender me, what I HAVE achieved, my conquering of the fear, and visualize, letting my imagination run wild with visions of the new me doing specific things I want to do. I will make a little polaroid in my mind of what I will be and look at it often, etching out more details as I go.
I don't know about you....but I find this to be a very comforting way to think. I like seeing myself in the low slung hip huggers and cute little tank top. I want to look at her and think about her and feed my thoughts into her so that...SHE will grow into reality
Thanks for listening, y'all! Oh, and don't forget to scroll down and read the Einstein quote in my sig!
So the other day, I was going through my neighbors movie collection, retrieving the movies that she borrowed and never returned. While I was at it, I was also going to borrow a few movies from her. I found this one called "The Secret" and threw it in the stash.
Today I decided to put a movie on while I worked on BF's V-Day gift. I perused through and found "The Secret" and realized it was some sort of self-help DVD. But it was kind of cool looking, not anything corporate like annoying, so I thought I'd throw it in while I worked on my BF's V-Day gift. Not being one for self-help type stuff, I figured what the hey, maybe there will be a little message somewhere in there that I will like to ponder.
Up started this sort of dramatic self-help astral like theme of "the secret" that people from Einstein to Plato knew that the DVD promises to share with you. It's not selling anything, so I assumed the DVD itself was the sell. I was listening as I worked on the picture frame and found that it shared some basic principles that I've carried with me most of my life. Just things on how to succeed, making things come to you. It's like an hour long DVD, but I'll touch up on some of the fine points because I think it's interesting enough to share.
A long time ago, I was dating this guy, we'll call him John, who wasn't good with kids. Being that I have a son who was 7 at the time, it was rather trying. He wasn't bad with kids, he just didn't know how to relate to them much. We were just having fun dating, so I didn't put too much thought into it. Well, over time, he found the regular kid things that my son does (you know kids, they never shut up, are messy, silly, etc.) more and more annoying. John and my son got along fine, but soon I found John's tone went from curious spectator to annoyed participant. Behind closed doors, he'd start asking things like, "Why does he (my son) constantly interrupt us when we are trying to talk? Doesn't he understand that that is rude?" Then his tone went from annoyed participant to active disliker of my child. It hurt because I'd grown to love him. I just didn't feel it was that big of a problem until I realized that breaking my own heart was the only way to solve it.
Anyway, I digress...my very insightful cousin said something that awakened me to so many things that I never realized. He said, "Felicia, whatever you focus on, grows. It seems to me that John is just really focused on the "annoying" aspects of your son, so it just keeps getting bigger and bigger to him. He can't see your son any other way now"
Well, that was about 3 years ago. John and I are still great friends, even though our friendship is now dwindled down to the telephone. Thankfully, he will not date a woman with children again! I used to think that men were bleepholes when they say they don't want to date a woman with children. NOW I know that all that means is that thankfully, they are HELPING us dodge a HUGE bullet! LOL.
So...what really struck me during that ordeal was what my cousin said about whatever you focus on growing. How true it is in so many aspects! I realized how so many times myself, whenever I focused on an aspect of a person's personality, that part stood out paramount above all other things about them. Causing me to have to suffer through annoyance and even anger.
This movie, the Secret, had writers, authors, entrepenuers, psychologists, doctors, feng shui experts, and all sorts of spiritual type of people explaining the same, exact thing. Your FOCUS having the power to bring positive and negative things to you, and how it relates to the law of attraction, the strongest power in the universe.
It talked about basically that very same ideal of focus and growth. It talked about how people who constantly complain of sickness are constantly sick. People who constantly complain about money problems are always in debt. People who constatnly complain about dating problems constantly have them. How true this is....
I know we've all had our problems in life--abuse, dysfunction. Most of us have suffered bad, even unbearable things. Some come out strong and survive, some seem to lay in their misfortune and add to it their whole lives. I went into foster care when I was 15 and loss my family as a result. I went through tragedy, just like most everyone out there. But ever since I was little, I always imagined better things instead of dwelling on all the bad stuff I had seen. Luckily for me, this instinct was a natural one. I knew that one day I'd be grown up and could do what I want and control my life and the people in it and it would all go away. I envisioned myself happy, independent, creative, traveled, cultured, social. At age 5, I thought of these things, dreamt of these things all the time. Yet I was simply a shy, introverted girl living in a shack in Fresno, Ca, suffering through grave familial dysfunction. I was lightyears away from the reality that I dreamt about. But I wanted it, imagined it, focused on it my whole youth. And now, here I am, living that lifestyle I dreamt of. I didn't go into drugs or gangs, and no man has ever laid a finger against me. I beat all the statistics. I truly believe with all that I am, that it was my unstoppable imagination that got me through to where I am. My focus on a good future, exploration of possibilities, the adventures I would have.
The other thing this DVD talked about was how lending your thoughts to the bad things only perpetuates them. It applied to things such as support groups, counseling, all of the stuff we are designed to believe helps us. According to "the secret", lending your thoughts to any subject, desire, need, and even the things that you DON'T want attracts those very things to you energetically and spirtuatlly. Thoughts have a frequency, and that frequency resonates into the universe and it finds it's like frequency that comes right back to you. For example, if you go to your mailbox everyday thinking about all the bills coming through, they will keep coming through. If you try to think about a check coming to the mailbox or a letter from an old friend, it will come to you.
I liked how it said that the universe should be seen as your Genie in a bottle with an infinite number of wishes allowable to you. If you say to it, "This day has been horrible and it just keeps getting worse," the Genie will say, "Your wish is my command." But if you say, "My true love is going to find me very soon," it will also say, "your wish is my command."
It also talked about how when you pay attention to your focus, that you will soon pick up on on synchronicities that life puts on your path that make it easier for you to stay on the path. Much like how when you are pregnant or thinking of getting pregnant, all the sudden, you seem to notice pregnant women everywhere. Your mind will create the environment that you are imagining.
A funny thing is that a few nights ago, I was surfing the net, looking for an inspirational quote that I could put in my signature here on ADBB. I looked and looked and then found the quote that is now attached in my signature by Albert Einstein. One of the knowers of the secret, according to the DVD. So the fact that I read the quote and put it on here a few days ago and WHAT IT SAYS kind of astounds me. When you read the quote, you will know why.
So I wanted to just take a minute and type this out to everyone, because I think it is a good message to hear. I have a renewed faith in the power of focus. And when I think of what I have been focusing on in my overall weight loss plan-- the fear of failure, frustration that it's "not working", impatience and annoyance, I realize that I have been attracting more of these things to me. It is time for me to re-energize and begin thinking about ONLY the positive, ONLY the benefits of the WOE.
As of this second, no more will I think of this WOE with a fear of failure, with a fear of the unknown (i.e., can I do it?). I will no longer focus on the complicatedness of the WOE or what I have not yet achieved.
I will only focus on the more slender me, what I HAVE achieved, my conquering of the fear, and visualize, letting my imagination run wild with visions of the new me doing specific things I want to do. I will make a little polaroid in my mind of what I will be and look at it often, etching out more details as I go.
I don't know about you....but I find this to be a very comforting way to think. I like seeing myself in the low slung hip huggers and cute little tank top. I want to look at her and think about her and feed my thoughts into her so that...SHE will grow into reality
Thanks for listening, y'all! Oh, and don't forget to scroll down and read the Einstein quote in my sig!
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