good to bad day

[gonnabthinin2006]

I was feeling so good today and it all went down hill. my boyfriend is so unsupportive. I have a baby that crawls and i always tell him to shut the bathroom and bedroom door behind him, of course he never does. today the baby got into the bedroom and she got stuck. i told him to shut the doors!!
thats when he got on my case telling me to get off my fat @#$ and away from the computer because its making me fat. well i was fat before i got the computer and now since the computer ive been losing weight all i do is look at websites to help me lose weight. he never watches our daughter so i can work out everyday i have to get a babysitter so i can! hes always on my case, i dont know what to do i need his support but how can i get it?

[sallyseachange]

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Tough situation Gonnabethin. But hang in there and stick to your guns! Keep low carbing, keep getting support from the internet, keep getting a babysitter so you can work out if necessary... you deserve it for yourself! And remember... if you stick to this WOE, before too long, NO ONE will be able to say: "Get off your fat anything" to you anymore!!!



Sal

[MotherOfGizmo]

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Sounds like its time for a new boyfriend.

[jadzia007]

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I second that!! Keep lo carbing with us and get your support from this wonderful board. Then it will be time for him to shape up....or ship out.

elle

[divaindubai]

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oh man..i agree with MOG and Jadzia...plus I've been there myself before during my previous marriage....

Don't let anyone talk to you like that, you be strong girl and tell him to keep his mouth shut unless he has something positive to say to you.

[shelbyquinn03079]

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He shouldn't be talking to you like that no matter what!!!!!!

[k5commando]

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He's not supportive or respectful either. (Sounds downright mean). Hang in there, your 13 lbs from goal so just keep plugging away.

[CathyR]

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Why are you wanting to marry someone that calls you names like that? Sure, you need to lose weight, but when your at goal what kind of names is he going to call you? Like the others have said, keep doing what you are doing. Do this for yourself and no one else, except of course your sweet little baby, so you can be around when its grows up. The only thing I could suggest that might set him straight, is tell him, if he doesnt start helping you with the baby and being more supportative your goals that you will leave him. Maybe he is just so positive that you wont, or wouldnt even think of that he feels he can behave like that. But, one thing for sure,, you can lose 175lbs fast,,, kick him out!

[Shrinking_Violet]

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Sounds like its time for a new boyfriend.

Kick him to the curb. You deserve better. Do you want your child to grow up watching you be treated that way and seeing that as an example of how men should treat women?

[texwife&mom]

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What does he look like? I would drop hints that you are doing this and that when you reach 135 lbs he can watch your skinny *** walk right out the door with your child. He is most likely feeling really insecure, new dad, woman making positive changes in her life that will allow her the confidence to realize that he is not the only fish in the sea. Talk to him and if he doesn't listen, leave. ATTN:You do not have to marry someone you don't love or doesn't love you just because you have a child with them!!!! My dad did this twice ( two of his 5 marriages) If your relationship won't work without the kid, your relationship won't work with the kid. JMTC. You are doing great and we are here to help!!!

[sidrah]

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Don't know you or him, but I am gonna have to agree. You don't have to put up with that crap. Please say there are some redeeming qualities........