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This is really more of a question for those with relationship advice to give. I mean it's not me that has gained weight, it's my boyfriend. The thing is, I am wondering if that is why he seems so pig-headed lately. I think this is the highest he has every weighed, still looks great to me though. Last night he was was completely ignoring me, and of course, being the large woman that I am, I made the assumption that something was wrong with me. But a good friend listened to the problem (and she also witnessed his attitude, which everyone agreed was severe PMS (that's pissy male syndrome)) and noted that the problem seemed to be totally with him. Anyhow, this morning, he went to the gym, sent out an encouraging and motivating email to a bunch of us (a close group of friends) about losing weight and doing it together. Today he is like a new man. He has done a 180 from last night's attitude. Do you think his bad mood was due to his own low-self esteem? Do your significant others ever make you feel bad or at least self-conscious when it is their weight that is increasing? And I don't believe it is a jealous thing, the scale hasn't moved much for me lately. But he said he has gained 10-15 pounds since November, I have gained about 3-5 (and have already lost it). Anyhow, if you want to share your thoughts on this, feel free. I was ready to scream and yell at him last night, he really upset me. I had not seen him for 5 days and I didn't get so much as a hug when we met at a restaurant with friends (I'm sick though, so I am trying not to think too much into that---no kiss goodbye either, but I wouldn't have anyhow, too contagious). I do remember one of the first things he said was that he found out his dad only weighs 15 pounds more than he does, and he admits he thinks his dad is fat. All I heard all night was about how fat he was, and he didn't like it when I told him not to call himself fat. Any thoughts? He has never called me fat, but does admit that he knows I will be more attractive as I lose more weight (kinda of a duh thing to me, it's human nature to find a thin well-tone body hotter than a flabby fat one). And I am actually possibly dealing with some thyroid issues right now. I will have TSH test results friday. So my inability to lose weight could be slightly attibuted to that (but just not shedding like crazy and being not cold all the time is good enough for me). K, I'm ranting now. Sorry, I tend to do that.
This is really more of a question for those with relationship advice to give. I mean it's not me that has gained weight, it's my boyfriend. The thing is, I am wondering if that is why he seems so pig-headed lately. I think this is the highest he has every weighed, still looks great to me though. Last night he was was completely ignoring me, and of course, being the large woman that I am, I made the assumption that something was wrong with me. But a good friend listened to the problem (and she also witnessed his attitude, which everyone agreed was severe PMS (that's pissy male syndrome)) and noted that the problem seemed to be totally with him. Anyhow, this morning, he went to the gym, sent out an encouraging and motivating email to a bunch of us (a close group of friends) about losing weight and doing it together. Today he is like a new man. He has done a 180 from last night's attitude. Do you think his bad mood was due to his own low-self esteem? Do your significant others ever make you feel bad or at least self-conscious when it is their weight that is increasing? And I don't believe it is a jealous thing, the scale hasn't moved much for me lately. But he said he has gained 10-15 pounds since November, I have gained about 3-5 (and have already lost it). Anyhow, if you want to share your thoughts on this, feel free. I was ready to scream and yell at him last night, he really upset me. I had not seen him for 5 days and I didn't get so much as a hug when we met at a restaurant with friends (I'm sick though, so I am trying not to think too much into that---no kiss goodbye either, but I wouldn't have anyhow, too contagious). I do remember one of the first things he said was that he found out his dad only weighs 15 pounds more than he does, and he admits he thinks his dad is fat. All I heard all night was about how fat he was, and he didn't like it when I told him not to call himself fat. Any thoughts? He has never called me fat, but does admit that he knows I will be more attractive as I lose more weight (kinda of a duh thing to me, it's human nature to find a thin well-tone body hotter than a flabby fat one). And I am actually possibly dealing with some thyroid issues right now. I will have TSH test results friday. So my inability to lose weight could be slightly attibuted to that (but just not shedding like crazy and being not cold all the time is good enough for me). K, I'm ranting now. Sorry, I tend to do that.
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