No one to blame but myself

[chaoticlove82]

Oh my gosh... I seriously feel like a failure. I am a failure. I was only on atkins for about 2 or 3 weeks before I gave up. I went on vacation and I guess I just couldn't handle counting carbs. I gave up in April and have been nervous to come back. I really need to lose the weight but it's so hard for me to stick to things. I guess I have no will power but I am so unhappy at my current weight. Something has to change... I don't know how to stay strong like the rest of you. I come on here and see all these wonderful before and after stories and pics and it's amazing. so motivating... but when i get out there in the real life it's like I don't know how to maintain.

This is all so very hard for me. I get very depressed sometimes and I just don't know how to handle it all.

[b'sgirl]

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love don't give up on yourself.I am in the same boat as you i go on atkins and then off again i have trouble sticking to it.i am on day 2 of induction for the 3rd or 4th time.I am dertermined to make it work.I am sorry you are feeling so down but i do know how you feel.I have just been taking it one day a time.There are lots of wonderfull supportive people on this board that will help us along our journeys.I have to say i love this board it is a life saver sometimes.

[guekjian]

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I totally agree with B's Girl...It isn't easy to make it past the first two weeks, and even once past, there will always be temptation. The boards here will be your lifesaver..you need to come here everytime you feel temptation creeping up on you. I have been busier than usual this week and haven't been here as often and I find it has really reflected on what I eat. I feel more accountable when I come often...and more motivated to see how great so many of us are doing...Don't give up...Be strong...Come to the boards...
Good luck XXX

[julirama723]

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Keep coming back, and don't give up.

If you're on induction, technically you don't have to COUNT carbs. All you have to do is keep track of your food allowances. If you're following the plan by the book, you just need to make sure you eat your 3 cups of induction veggies (3 cups salad, OR 2 cups salad and 1 cup "other"), have no more than 3 oz. of cheese per day, and choose only one "special" category food serving per day, and you'll have no problems sticking under 20g.

I hate to say it, but the real world is where it's at. I'm busy, I work, yet I make time to record EVERY SINGLE MORSEL that goes in my mouth. Why do I bother? Because it's been the key to my success. I know EXACTLY how many carbs a certain food contains, right off the top of my head. I know what foods have caused me problems like cravings and bloating because I've been keeping track of them. I can see in a glimpse if I am eating enough for my daily caloric needs, or if I need to eat more. It's also a way to keep myself accountable. My fitday journal is public, so I know that every single day, somebody could be looking at my journal--gotta eat those veggies!

If you keep up with it, counting carbs and recording foods just becomes second nature. And the more you do it, the easier it gets, and it takes less time.

YOU CAN DO THIS, don't give up!

[ttdriver]

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You *only* fail when you quit trying.

Enough of the pity party .. funnel that energy into eating RIGHT and exercise. YOU CAN DO IT.

Betty

[cherribom1]

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I became motivated to change my eating exercise lifestyle when I went on vacation and took a bunch of bathing suit pictures at the beach. I couldn't believe how fat I looked and became disgusted. This was the turning point for me where I really felt I needed to start doing something about losing weight. So basically you have to just hit that point where you feel you the need to make a change. Once you start seeing weight loss results it pushes you to keep on track. Good luck and remember to keep your goal in sight. PS How much weight do you want to lose?

[SandyL2002]

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Hey in there... I am struggling a lot lately too..and we just can't ever give up

[SugarFreeSheila]

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Chaotic, please continue to post. There are so many very motivating men and women here, loads of success stories, and we'd love to help you get through this. Definitely take advantage of what is offered here, as it can be immensely helpful as you embark on this program. It gets easier once you look at low-carbing as a non-negotiable mindset. So, hang in there and don't give up!

[lancelotsgirl]

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You fall off, get back on and keep going. We all learn from our mistakes and shortcomings, but you've got to keep going. Really reflect and make sure you're emotionally and mentally ready for this rewarding challenge.
Like others have said, "keep posting and visiting this site", it can be a life saver when temptation or doubt arises.
I know you can do it, you've made first step, admitting you want change, but are you really ready?
Good luck, let us know how you're doing.

[Bren]

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Baby steps, baby steps, baby steps! I have done this ENTIRE WOE and WOL doing nothing but baby steps. I remember thinking to myself when I first started...... I can do this for 5 more minutes. I even remember thinking, if I get through today then tomorrow I will eat whatever I want. Never did, as I challeneged myself everyday to stay on the straight and narrow.
None of us here are ANY different then you.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one small step.

[alaska1204]

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hey! Don't worry...i am in the same boat as you. sometimes i feel SO HORRIBLE coming on this board and admitting that once again i have failed...but you know what...they have all been there...and they are so great in motivating me! I am, myself, back on induction once again and going for the long haul...if you need support feel free to email me, k?

[dpaca]

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I also needs some advice on loosing weight with Atkins now that i am trying it for the 5 time. When I first tried Atkins I was very lucky and lost lots of weight. After I stopped it fora while and put the weight back on and then some, I was really unable to loose it again. Until last year I decided that if I wanted to loose the weight again I was really going to need to do it more strictly. I did and I lost he weight again, but now having moved to a new country and having tried all the food here I have not only put all the weight back but an extra 20 pounds too. I have been trying to loose the weight again on Atkins, I have been doing the Fat Fast as I now also have a hypothyroid problem, but all i have lost is 2 pounds in 3 weeks. I was wondering whether I should eat carbs and then go on the fat fast again? please help me!

[D14965]

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my motivation for staying with the plan??? I HATE THE WAY I FEEL ABOUT MYSELF WHEN I LET MYSELF GO!!!. I feel so much happier and proud of myself when I am doing the right thing and that feeling is so much nicer than self loathing and guilt .
If i am tempted to stray I take a moment to think about how i will feel after if I do cheat. So far i have been able to not cheat for six months now and its getting easier and easier. I also PLAN and think ahead all the time. I make my lunch for the next day the night before - boil my eggs , make a delicious salad , count my carbs etc for fitday. If there is a family party where i know there will be cake -- I MAKE ATKINS FRIENDLY CAKE ETC to take with me ( my brother is also doing Atkins) the non atkineers actually enjoy them too ( actually i think they prefer them to the "normal" cakes etc!) I am enjoying this way of eating SOO Much and love to try new recipes and to make up new ones. ( my brother says I should open a Low carb restaurant -- but then I think he just says that so I will bake him more atkins cookies!) Hang in there and remember -- how you FEEL about yourself is just as important as being healthy and slim!

Cheers!

[dreamof145]

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You've been given great advice already. All I can add is that it is a daily struggle for everyone. We all have moments and thoughts of quitting when we first begin. Don't give up, don't look back, go forward - it will become a habit if you work it day by day and pound by pound. Come to the ADBB often and make lots of friends. We're all here for you! You can do it.

[echomike23]

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remember that success isnt linear. i'ts a sure bet you may cheat again but it doesnt mean that you should QUIT again. only through my third attempt at atkins did i finally get it right and understood why i got it wrong before.