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  • #1

    No one has said anything!

    I absolutely hate it when people comment that they like my haircut or have I lost weight. I guess I feel *evaluated* when they do. But I am surprized and puzzled by the fact that no one (except DH, of course) has mentioned that I have lost weight! In 5 months I have gone down 3 dress sizes, lost 20% of my body weight and not a peep out of anyone! Ol' contrarian me! Now I am unhappy that no one has said anything!

    Also, I feel like I am much slimmer than the number on the scale shows. I feel like every pound I have lost has been fat not muscle and that it really shows. I think the BMI tables are waaaay off. One of the things I've noticed is that just a pound or two equals an inch or two lost. I don't think this was true for me on other diets. Of course, I want this to be true because I want to look as good as I feel. Any comments on this phenonmenon?
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    Re: No one has said anything!

    No one said a word to me until I'd lost about 40 pounds. And even then, it was "You look different, you look good" like they could tell there was something changed, but couldn't tell that I'd lost weight. Serious compliments didn't start rolling in until I'd lost 60 pounds or so. I think people are hesitant to say things, and it's NOT because they don't notice. What if you were sick and losing weight? What if you gained it back? Those are a couple of reasons I think people don't say anything at first.

    And ignore those BMI charts. They don't really factor in muscle vs. fat. There can be people who have a "healthy" BMI but are considered overweight by body fat percentage, and there are those (like professional athletes) who are considered overweight on the BMI charts yet have a lower body fat percentage than someone who weighs 30 pounds less! The best thing to do is get a body fat test done, either the pinch test (with calipers) or an air displacement/dunk test.

    My BMI is always really off, IMO. At 171 pounds, my BMI is 26, BUT I wear size 8 pants!
    START 8/16/06 @ 270+~MG1: 220-12/2/06~MG2: 210-1/07~MG3: 199-3/2/07~MG4: 190-4/27/07~MG5: 180-7/04/07~GOAL: 170
    RESTART 11/2/09 @ 224.6~MG1: 215~MG2: 210~MG3: 205~MG4: 199~MG5: 195~MG6: 190~MG7: 185~GOAL: 180
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    • #3
      Re: No one has said anything!

      you know, its mostly people that havent seen you for a while who notice the difference.
      my colleagues at work see me every day so to them its not much difference but one of them had been in Brazil for a month and when he came back he was like wow...I can really see you lost weight.
      its those people that will see it and tell you.
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      • #4
        Re: No one has said anything!

        Also I found that if I was still wearing the same clothes but they were getting baggier no-one realised I was losing weight.
        Not till I bought a bunch of better fitting clothes (charity shops to save money) did everyone start to comment!
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        • #5
          Re: No one has said anything!

          No one said anything to me until I lost about 40 pounds and even then it was "oh, you lost a few pounds".

          And others might not say anything because they might think your sudden weight loss is because you are ill.

          So, don't pay any mind to what people don't say. YOU know YOU lost weight. Pat yourself on the back and don't let the conspiracy of silence discourage you.

          ~Megs~
          242/141/160 (130)
          dress size 26/10/8
          5'4", Female, May 2, 2003
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          • #6
            Re: No one has said anything!

            You know - no one except 1 person has said something to me about it. I've lost 19 lbs and apparently it shows in my face.

            HOWEVER, I don't think people say as much because they are almost nervous about talk about people's weight.

            Now my thing is I am planning on wearing my baggy clothes through the winter and then have fun shopping in the spring and summer
            Dana
            Homeschooling Farm Mom of 2 kids


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            • #7
              Re: No one has said anything!

              I also think that sometimes people don't say anything because they don't want to be rude... I mean, to notice you lost weight means that they noticed you need to, right?

              Also, I've noticed that people who need to lose themselves are usually the least likely to say anything... to acknowledge your loss seems to point out to them they they need "to do something" -- which is almost whatever who is also overweight adds if they comment on my losses.

              Also, like everyone else... I had to lose about 40 lbs before I started getting comments... and even then, not many.
              F/37/5'7" ~ Started: 8/1/06.
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              • #8
                Re: No one has said anything!

                I'd lost nearly 60 pounds before the compliments/comments started coming in. When they did, I got an earful. People had thought I was sick and didn't want to mention it, others were jealous and didn't want to bring it up cause it made them feel bad and some people just didn't want to mention it cause they felt for sure I'd gain it back next time they saw me and didn't want to embarrass me.

                I've had people ask if my husband had re-married and I've had others give me great compliments and make a fuss so badly that I wished they wouldn't have noticed. I guess its an individual thing and people don't really know how to react. The most important thing is how you feel mentally, physically about your success. You've done a great job - congratulations.
                Starting Date 3/12/04 285/165/145 - F



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                • #9
                  Re: No one has said anything!

                  I also think that sometimes people don't say anything because they don't want to be rude... I mean, to notice you lost weight means that they noticed you need to, right?

                  Also, I've noticed that people who need to lose themselves are usually the least likely to say anything... to acknowledge your loss seems to point out to them they they need "to do something" -- which is almost whatever who is also overweight adds if they comment on my losses.

                  You are so right on, Adena!

                  The difference for me is that I am a loud mouth and everyone knew how much weight I was losing! However, for the people who were not around to hear me tell them, it wasn't until I lost about 30/35 pounds that they noticed the difference! Don't be discouraged, you have done excellent so far.




                  Jessi

                  5'4'' 24/F

                  225/207/160
                  Let's Start Again: 09/14/2009


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                  Mini Goal 2: Onderland
                  Mini Goal 3: 190



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                  • #10
                    Re: No one has said anything!

                    Originally posted by Adena
                    I also think that sometimes people don't say anything because they don't want to be rude... I mean, to notice you lost weight means that they noticed you need to, right?

                    Also, I've noticed that people who need to lose themselves are usually the least likely to say anything... to acknowledge your loss seems to point out to them they they need "to do something" -- which is almost whatever who is also overweight adds if they comment on my losses.

                    Also, like everyone else... I had to lose about 40 lbs before I started getting comments... and even then, not many.

                    I agree!

                    I have lost 20lbs,not one person has said anything. But its ok I am thrilled!
                    F/5'5


                    SW-180
                    CW-160
                    GW-135




                    -20lbs
                    5 inches gone so far

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                    • #11
                      Re: No one has said anything!

                      No one in my family has said anything either.. But this one lady at church notices..and says it all the time.. Actually the other day I was fixing my belt on my capri's cause it was twisted...She grabbed a hold of my pants and held them up so I could adjust the belt on the 3rd hole...lol

                      And the lady at Fashion Bug said...Girl you are losing weight Made me feel good especially when I was wearing a 26/28 and I bought 22's
                      Sandy
                      40th birthday June 27,2009


                      Starting Weight 293 Highest Weight
                      Current Weight 271
                      Goal Weight 150
                      Female/40

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                      #2-Get into 250's-
                      #3-Get into 240's
                      #4-Get into 230's



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                      • #12
                        Re: No one has said anything!

                        I echo everyone else, it was about 40lbs lost before anyone said anything to me, now i hear it all the time, i always make the effort to tell people if i notice as i know how much it can mean to someone if theyre puttng in lots of hard work.
                        HW 303
                        Aug '04 SW-287 LW-232
                        Restart - Apr 07 - SW 266 CW 225




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                        • #13
                          Re: No one has said anything!

                          This gal from church has also lost a lot of wt. I said something about it too her quietly and she was like..."shhhh! don't say anything... I hate when people say something..." So everyone is different. We always smile at eachother but I don't say anything any more as she reacted so strongly the first time...
                          I think people can be trying to be polite and not put you on the spot. Lately for me I have been getting alot of compliments and comments. I think people sometimes aren't sure and don't want to embarrass or put you on the spot or even derail you. When people make a big deal about it loudly, I get embarrassed. I'd rather talk about it one on one than to a group of people when I'm coming in, and all eyes are on me... that's happened twice and I couldn't think of anything to say... just 'uh...thank you... yeah, low carb. exersize... hard work.' It was akward both times.
                          liz
                          Highest wt 227
                          Atkins start wt 215
                          Restart 1/29/10 201
                          Current 195
                          Goal 149







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                          • #14
                            Re: No one has said anything!

                            First of all, good job! Secondly, I think it depends where you lose the weight first. I tend to lose in my upper body (face, arms, stomach), and people notice that first. Especially the face. If you're losing on the bottom, it's not as noticeable. I wouldn't worry about it, though. Honestly, if you see it and you're feeling good, then that's all that really matters. Don't count on others for your self esteem!

                            I agree with others, as well. Some people don't comment because they might think you'll be offended. And some are just plain jealous!

                            Just keep going and don't let it stop you!
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                            • #15
                              Re: No one has said anything!

                              As a male, I have the classic beer belly.
                              "A moment on the lips, forever on the hips."

                              i live in Japan.

                              Rice. Rice and Rice.

                              I have lost close to too 40lbs. Do you think anyone has had a "water cooler" moment with me?

                              Not at all.

                              Please. Ignore this.

                              Yes, a few women in my office have asked me, how did I did I do it. Except I live in Japan. Rice, rice, rice. Do I need to say more?

                              Please, accept your achievement, because I'd like someone to mine.
                              Hayden.
                              www.haydenpritchard.com

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