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    Am I mean?

    Ok i will give the back info first....

    About 5 years ago I was at the mall with my fiance and my daughter (she was only like 8 or 9 months old) and i saw this guy i went to school with walking with my ex's brother. They saw me and said "Da** look how fat she got" and then started laughing at me. I was completely humiliated and cried as soon as i got out of the mall.

    Well about an hour ago i saw the guy i went to school with at the gas station and i couldnt help but smile. He put on about 40 to 50 lbs since the last time i saw him (that time at the mall). He was always fit and muscular for as long as i knew him (since 5th grade). When i was heavy growing up (til i found atkins when i was 17) he used to make my life a nightmare. When i lost the weight he would tell a mutual friend to bring me over to hang out at his house all the time (he had a crush on me).

    So should i feel guilty about getting joy out of his weight gain?

    Part of me says yes that its not right, but part of me says ha thats what he gets for making fun of me gaining my weight back.

    Weird thing is that he looked at me like he was going to say hi (I still weigh 20 lbs more than when i saw him at the mall )but then i just walked past him. Maybe i feel guilty for getting joy out of it because he was going to be friendly.
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  • #2
    Re: Am I mean?

    Your thoughts might not be "right," but being human it would be really hard not to get a little kick out of seeing him gain weight. At least you didn't laugh at him and make hurtful remarks. Just don't let the fact that he gained keep you from losing the weight you need to lose to be healthy.

    Sunny!
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    • #3
      Re: Am I mean?

      its human... just think next time you see him you can be friendly and tell him about atkins.. (i mean he'll definately ask.. cause you will be smokin hot !!)



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      • #4
        Re: Am I mean?

        Sweet justice! Just goes to show you are the better person for taking the high road.
        "You always had it. You always had the power."~~ Glinda the Good Witch

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        • #5
          Re: Am I mean?

          Originally posted by determined2shrink View Post
          Ok i will give the back info first....

          About 5 years ago I was at the mall with my fiance and my daughter (she was only like 8 or 9 months old) and i saw this guy i went to school with walking with my ex's brother. They saw me and said "Da** look how fat she got" and then started laughing at me. I was completely humiliated and cried as soon as i got out of the mall.

          Well about an hour ago i saw the guy i went to school with at the gas station and i couldnt help but smile. He put on about 40 to 50 lbs since the last time i saw him (that time at the mall). He was always fit and muscular for as long as i knew him (since 5th grade). When i was heavy growing up (til i found atkins when i was 17) he used to make my life a nightmare. When i lost the weight he would tell a mutual friend to bring me over to hang out at his house all the time (he had a crush on me).

          So should i feel guilty about getting joy out of his weight gain?

          Part of me says yes that its not right, but part of me says ha thats what he gets for making fun of me gaining my weight back.

          Weird thing is that he looked at me like he was going to say hi (I still weigh 20 lbs more than when i saw him at the mall )but then i just walked past him. Maybe i feel guilty for getting joy out of it because he was going to be friendly.
          that's not mean.

          see, I can be mean. I am enjoying the thought of you snickering at him, and saying "Karma's a b*tch, isn't it?" muah ha ha ha.

          and actually, the thought of it is satisying enough without saying that you SHOULD have said it.
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          • #6
            Re: Am I mean?

            You were very restrained I think. Like others have said put it behind you - least now he may think before making such spiteful comments...
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            • #7
              Re: Am I mean?

              The old saying is:
              "What goes around, comes around!"
              Good for you for stopping the ball. I don't think your mean, but I do think he is sulking in his own turmoil. He can stew in it or do something about it, but you can go right on being you. Pretty is only skin deep, but ugly goes plumb to the bone! Just feel sorry for his bones!
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              • #8
                Re: Am I mean?

                Are you mean? Nahhhhh....I would have probably said something like "Bob (whatever his name is) is that you? Da** you got fat! I mean, what happened to you? You know what you need to do? You need to go on a diet."
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                • #9
                  Re: Am I mean?

                  No, you are not mean. He was the mean one - all those years ago. And yes I agree karma is a B...he got what was coming to him.

                  So many of us have had those very same people in our lives. And it doesnt hurt any of us any less.
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                  You must want to fly so much that you're willing to give up being a caterpillar.

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                  • #10
                    Re: Am I mean?

                    Originally posted by not2late View Post
                    Are you mean? Nahhhhh....I would have probably said something like "Bob (whatever his name is) is that you? Da** you got fat! I mean, what happened to you? You know what you need to do? You need to go on a diet."

                    Roflmao

                    My fiance was laughing when i told him and he said I should of said "Da** you got fat"

                    Since growing up fat and being fat again i would never pick on someones appearance so I wouldnt say that personally.

                    Part of me still feels guilty for not saying hi, I could of been the better person but instead i got pleasure out of his weight gain, oh well, atleast i wasnt rude.
                    25/F
                    Start Date 7/31/08
                    HW247.8/SW242/CW211.8/GW135
                    Mini Goals
                    227 ( 9-6-08 ) 222 ( 9-19-08 )
                    217 (10-3-08 ) 212 (10-23-08 )
                    Went off diet in Jan 09 and gained it all back by Nov. Had family issues Dec and Jan and gained even more. Started back Feb 3, 2010 at 254.

                    Mini Goals
                    244 (2-13-10)
                    224 (4-26-10)
                    214

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