does your family try to get you to cheat?

[English-bulldog]

Mine does, my dad made me some kind of meat last night, he put flour in it, then told me he added nothing but seasons/salt.

my younger older brother is alway calling me names and stuff, tried to get me to eat mcdonalds fries/nuggets the other day, I told him "no thanks, I am really trying to stick with this, and I don't want to mess up, just support me!"(in a firm voice because I have to say this every day to him), then he blew up on me and called me all sorts of names and told me I was wasting my time, I'de never loose a pound, I will alway be fat. (we work together I can't really get away from his negativity, we go through this about every day. it keeps me motivated in a weird way.)

my other brother tells me, oh, I am sure you can have a cheat day.
stuff like that.

My mother is very supportive.

kinda funny that way is works.

both my dad and my younger older brother are super lean with 8pack abs, I got my moms genetics.

[Skeptika23]

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My family is very supportive, actually.

I wonder why your dad & brothers feel the need to try to undermine you this way? It's kinda ridiculous, if you ask me...

[1002go]

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Your brother will see you results soon enough Bulldog. Some people are just haters. Keep your head up.

[Whatsername]

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While I haven't experienced anything to that level, I have had some minor incidents in the past. The funny thing is with my family...the longer I have stuck with this and the more successful I have been, the more supportive they have been. Initially, they would have that attitutde that I was wasting my time, it wouldn't work, it wouldn't matter if I ate something off plan, etc. I guess now they realize it works and is important to me because when I have seen them more recently, they have been nothing but supportive.

Once, after dinner they were having dessert and my Mom was saying she felt sorry for me not having any and I said "I feel sorry for you eating all that sugar".

I am stubborn and frankly, the negative attitudes make me more determined. I am glad you have your mom in your corner. It is odd why people act the way they do. Some people just feel threatened or jealous for some reason. I was thinking this weekend...why does anyone really care what I eat?? Honestly, what difference does it make in their life? Just hold your head up and be strong...soon they will have nothing to say.
Jane

[Summerdressgirl]

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I am not sure how many times you tried to lose the weight ...if it is been a lot they probably feel you will quit soon enough..so just stick it to them and stay in it and lose it all

My dad called me yesterday (sigh) telling me he made more empanadas for me but with chicken this time! after what I went thru gaining those 5 lbs for xmas I told him I love him but I had to say no to them..now if he made me one of his famous chicken salad I would be there! and he did just that I still wanted the empanada tho lol.

[sham]

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Well heres a great time to prove them all wrong by sticking to the diet and keep losing.They think negative about the diet because they have no evidence and trust me once you lose the weight and show them they will change their attitude as their thinking its just another diet.
My family dont tell me to cheat etc but when theres an occasion like a party,wedding or a special occasion they also say 1 day wont do any harm join us.

[atkinsgal08]

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>>I told him "no thanks, I am really trying to stick with this, and I don't want to mess up, just support me!">>

English-Bulldog,

Shorten that to "No, thanks". You don't really owe ANYONE an explanation ... nor can you control anyone else's feeling about what YOU'RE doing.

Also ... simply don't engage in conversation ... if they're baiting you with words, ignore them.

Eventually they'll tire, since you're not playing the game.

[guekjian]

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I am going through the same thing with my boyfriend. He is a skinny minnie and can't understand how important this is. Also, since I met him (3 1/2 years ago) I have never been at my ideal weight (which is 23lbs lighter than this morning ) so he can't visualize me at any weight but this one...He says, I met you like this and I love you like this so why suffer...Hard to make him understand that it is the suffering inside that counts more than not having that bowl of pasta (big sigh) Stick to your guns though...the results will be worth it.

[mission to lose]

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My family is all very supportive. In the beginning one day at the extended family visit to my Mom's house on Sundays, (we usually all get together and order out for food so everyone had a day off from cooking dinner), the family ordered pizza. I brought all of my own foods to eat, knowing the carry out places would not have anything I could eat. I had tons of great food, and even shared with others...veggie tray, salad, etc.

But it was so funny, my brother in law looked at me so sad and sympathetically saying..."Can't you have ANY Pizza, just a little?" He said it in such a way as if he felt so sorry for me, and he only meant it in the best way, not to sabotage me. I assured him I was doing just fine. Ever since then he has expressed his support in how well I am doing, and congrats on my persistence.

Another time, my Mom, sister, niece, and I were going out to eat to celebrate my sister's Birthday. She told me the day before she was not ordering dessert at her birthday because I could not have any. ( In the past, our birthday lunches included at least 2-3 great desserts to share with each other). I told her that was too bad since I was bringing dessert for myself. (made a cream cheese thing.) I finally convinced her it was ok for her and the others to indulge, that I was "just fine".

I gave a sample taste of my dessert to my Mom and she liked it better than her own sugar-carb-ice cream-brownie dessert.

To sum up, they all are backing me up all the way, now that they have gotten past the idea that I am "missing out". I have been bringing many Atkins recipes now to family gatherings and they are amazed how good they are.

[adreliluc]

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Yes, after 4 years they still do.. Some try to be a little more supportive but they tell me things have no sugar or flour, etc but they do.
They either just don't get or just don't care. Probably both! lol.

It's helped me try to be a little more supportive with my friends and family who are on diets. However, I'm guilty of even encouraging them to 'just eat it' and always tell them not to worry because I've removed all the caloires for them.

Just something we gotta deal with I guess... it does grow old though.

[atkinsgal08]

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>>I'm guilty of even encouraging them to 'just eat it'>>

Good grief!

Seems to me that if you don't want people doing it to you, you wouldn't do it to someone else.

[adreliluc]

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>>I'm guilty of even encouraging them to 'just eat it'>>

Good grief!

Seems to me that if you don't want people doing it to you, you wouldn't do it to someone else.

Yeah I know... weird huh? lol
I am guilty of it.. I admit. I don't 'push' though. And it really is said more in jest but either way - not cool of me.

[atkinsgal08]

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A good New Year's resolution ... treat people how you want to be treated!

<smile>

[warmsummerfall]

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My family is supportive most of the time, My daughters birthday was the other day, she wanted to go to cc's pizza, she is 13. Then she said no, I want to go someplace where you can eat. I told her I can find something to eat no matter were we go. My fiance is very helpful offering to make me anything I want all the time. The only thing I had to adjust to that was a little hard is that we used to eat chedder cheese popcorn almost everynight watching tv. Now he continues that and I try to have snacks I can have or have nothing at all. In my former in laws family they were terrible, as I was losing weight they told me I looked terrible, My face looked 20 years older, who was I trying to impress, I am not going to stick with it, they would go on and on.....needless to say I dont associate with them any longer.

[Suzanne_H]

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I think my family and friends got really tired of my crash diets, announcements that this time it's going to be different, etc. and just wanted me to be a happy, jolly fatty. To be honest, no amount of family support or lack thereof ever effected my weight loss or gain. The only factor that ever truly made a difference in my sticking to a diet or not has been... ME!

I choose my support system.

I know there are other support fora online where I could read about allowed cheat days and oh it's no big deal if I go just a little overboard once in a while and so forth. Tried that. Doesn't work for me. I'm sure if I looked around I could find plenty of people who would encourage just one bite, just one slice, just one... I'm pretty quick to say, "No, thank you." in a firm tone that doesn't invite discussion or negotiation. This WOE gets real simple... either I is or I ain't, know what I mean?

I find my support system here and in selective friends and colleagues who speak truth to me and to whom I am accountable. I also find this to be a spiritual journey. I don't want to get into it too much here, but I find that without God's help I'm pretty much at the mercy of my own lack of will-power. I see it as a three-legged stool... I receive support I need from people in my life and online, give support to them and others, and receive support in my relationship with my Creator who strengthens me and Who I don't want to disappoint by continuing to destroy my body.

To those who would want to trip us up, we can consider the source. Is this part of our support system or something we're better off ignoring?