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  • #16
    Re: Okay, this is bad.

    Sometimes food is an addiction. Sometimes caffeine, nicotine, cocaine. Sometimes people are an addiction. You are addicted to some one who is bad for you. Think of the little witch as a giant bag of sugar. In other words, you lost weight so apply the same dedication to losing weight to losing her. She's bad news. You've got better things to do and healthier addictions to hold on to. You don't love her. Love is a two-way street. And yes, please seek help and you will have a chance to find out what love really is. And it ain't a sack of sugar sweetie. The best revenge is a happy life.

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    • #17
      Re: Okay, this is bad.

      How are you doing, Ska? Haven't heard from you in a while.
      5'9" 38/f

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      • #18
        Re: Okay, this is bad.

        His Myspace page (from his profile) says: Last Login: 6/11/2006
        I hope he's ok, too...
        | Age:38 | Height: 5'2" | Slow, but Speeding (My Journal): http://www.atkinsdietbulletinboard.c...ad.php?t=40809 | I'm taking a break from the challenges
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        SW 210 | GW 140 (reached) | HW 194 (pregnant) | CW 160 | GW 140

        I'd like to think the best of me is still hiding up my sleeve. - John Mayer, Room for Squares

        Get up. Got a lot to do. 24 hours almost gone. - Mary Mary, Get Up



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        • #19
          Re: Okay, this is bad.

          No worries guys, I'm still here.

          I was out of town for an anime convention, and I didn't have a computer readily available to me, so I had no way to keep in touch with anyone.

          As for the situation with her, things have cleared up in my head. I thought about it, and now I see her for what she really is. So it's okay.

          Besides, I have another girl that I have liked for a while, and I put her on hold, because of all the factors keeping anything from happening. I like this girl so much more, and I really have no idea why I was settling for my roommate.

          Problem is, this new girl comes with a whole closet full of problems. Not big things, just a lot of little things, like being 19, college, wanting to go to med school afterwards, not having time for guys, things like that. I don't think I will be able to find a place in her life, not that it's my choice. I just have to make myself good enough for her to want me in her life.




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          • #20
            Re: Okay, this is bad.

            You are awesome just the way that you are, and she will see that. Don't change a thing!
            So good to see that you're back!
            5'9" 38/f

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            • #21
              Re: Okay, this is bad.

              Maybe you need some time by yourself alone, do some soul searching, work on some of the issues that are bothering you and then think about some one else. I hope that you feel better!






              www.myspace.com/BellaCarol
              Female/28 years old

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              • #22
                Re: Okay, this is bad.

                Hi Ska! Glad to hear you are feeling better. So maybe the new girl isn't the right one either. Enjoy her company when you can, and if now isn't the right time then that's okay too. Every relationship brings you closer and closer to the ultimate right one. Don't sell yourself short before that happens.
                Female, 46yrs, 5'3"

                Restarted Atkins 09/19/05
                Re-restarted Atkins 03/12/07

                SW198.5/CW215/GW150







                Slug Free 6WEC#21 & 22 & 23

                "Superhuman willpower is not required to do Atkins, only the wisdom to put yourself into a position where you won't need it."

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                • #23
                  Re: Okay, this is bad.

                  I'm very happy that you're doing better, Ska.
                  No stats. Not weighing anymore ever. Will post "before and after" pictures when I want to. The end.

                  Vigilance, not perfection.

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                  • #24
                    Re: Okay, this is bad.

                    this does not just get better you know that!!!!....If you do not look for help now while you are having an up moment..this is going to get worse ...period !!!! community mental health can help you .call a crisis line they are listed in the directory..or just call informantion and ask!!!!....this has NADDA to do with the girl your chemistry is off and you need help ...period ...NOW! no excuses!!!! ...call ..we can not help you here unless you get help where you are ....

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                    • #25
                      Re: Okay, this is bad.

                      You might stop and ask yourself why you are going after women that either don't want you or don't have time for you. You said you're "Making yourself better so she'll want you in her life," which is something you've tried already. If she doesn't like you, does that mean that you aren't worth dieting - or showering - again? As long as you make your goals based on other people (and their desire for you), you are always risking having the rug jerked out from underneath you. You are exposing yourself to a huge failure risk and emotional turmoil as a result. As others have said, you DO have to do it for yourself.

                      You've stated that you think you might be either bi-polar or have MPD, you're a cutter, you exposed your scars and got 'caught', etc. etc. Whether you have a serious diagnosable disorder or not - you'd do well to get yourself some therapy ASAP. Sounds like you're pretty mixed up to me, regarless of the rest of the situation. You're 25 years old - what kind of life do you want for yourself?

                      Your roommate sounds like a tramp - and just some general advice, if you act like a doormat, you'll get treated like one. This girl is disrespecting you, being scornful and nasty to you and generally treating you like human garbage. But she needs you there so you can't move out? What she needs to do is evaluate herself as a human being. If you stick around for that kind of abuse you're just letting her know you think what she is saying and doing is okay...that you essentially agree with her.

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                      F 29, 5'5"
                      Start date: April 18, 2006











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                      • #26
                        Re: Okay, this is bad.

                        One thing that seems obvious, but that no one has mentioned, is move out! You're just torturing yourself by continuing to stay in a roommate situation with this woman! I also agree with Chunk; you might want to explore the reasons behind the fact that you're attracted to unavailable women. I know from experience that we sometimes do things to keep people at arm's length, even when we're lonely and genuinely want companionship.

                        Please also consider seeing a mental health professional. I know you're feeling better now, but if you seriously think you might be bipolar then this might be short lived. Please, please, get some help so you can be happy and have the life you want to have. <hugs>
                        "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength"!







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                        • #27
                          Re: Okay, this is bad.

                          Ska, have you met with a licensed psychotherapist yet?

                          Here is a link to information regarding Borderline Personality Disorder. Read about it and see if you think it applies to you.

                          If it does, you can GREATLY improve your life by seeing a therapist who is familiar with treating Borderline Personality Disorder using a method called "DBT".

                          Hope this helps, you're not alone in this!

                          http://www.4degreez.com/disorder/borderline.html
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                          M/37/6'2"
                          SW: 330 February 10, 2006
                          CW: 269
                          GW: 230 By September 1, 2006

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                          • #28
                            Re: Okay, this is bad.

                            Hey OP....
                            You still about??

                            Just been reading your thread with interest and then realised it's over a year old!

                            Please, if you are still around these boards..pop in and update us?

                            Cathy
                            XoXoX

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                            *This Depression & Atkins thread has been closed due to extended absence of owner. Please feel free to private message any compliments and/or comments to the original poster. If you are the owner and would like to revive your Depression & Atkins please PM the forum mod or an Admin
                            Last edited by sillygirl; January 6, 2008, 09:37 AM.
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                            No final goal as yet! Just mini's, 1lb at a time!

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