Emotional binge eater

[2big4mysize]

Re: Emotional binge eater

WELCOME TO ADBB BARANZEN
EMOTIONAL EATING IS HARD TO STOP BECAUSE YOUR BRAIN IS TRYING TO COMFORT YOU AND BASED ON ITS KNOWLEDGE OF STORED FOOD MEMEORIES IT HAS

oops hit the cap lock sorry It knows that certain foods can minic brain neurotransmitters and in order to make you happy and relieve stress you need the chems those foods it prescribes can minic. you feel better for a bit and then you need more.
Journalling will help you see the who what when where and why of your overeatting in the furture. right now you need some nonfood ways to lift your spirits. focus on the happy shared memories you have with her if you can. if she is alert talk with her about her past and learn all you can in this precious time you have left.
focus your eating on good nutrition choices so you can be happier about your eating during this time.

I will be praying for you and her.

[divaindubai]

Re: Emotional binge eater

Dear Lil Miz dancer, I just stumbled across this thread now, I hope it isn't too late. As a fellow Vancouverite (I grew up in Vancouver and lived there since 1978 and moved here last summer), I am writing to you. My older sister committed suicide back in 1990 (she is buried in the Coquitlam cemetary), at the age of 19....

Let me tell you this, it was a waste of a life. She had many things giong for her and yet she still was not happy. Yes there were turmoils in the family, as far as my parents fighting, etc, she did not have a weight problem she was quite slender all her life, she was smart, pretty, etc etc, but still something drove her to do what she did.

Please don't feel bad about life. Your life is in your hands. You have the power to change things. I don't know how old you are, but I was 19 when I moved from my parents house. I couldn't take living there anymore (my sister had died about 2 years earlier when I was 17). I have been away from my parents house since then, and also since then, my parents have split up and divorced.

One therapist who i went to see because of all this family crap was a really nice and good one. I use dto always feel unworthy of the family, powerless, etc etc and he told me the only way to gain power back to yourself is by giving others choices. I gave my Dad choices to either talk to me respectfully or it would be best that him and I did not talk at all. He didn't think it was good that I was talking to him like that, but that's the way it had to be for me to feel powerful again. And it worked!

You give others choices, and stick to your guns. Don't let anyone mistreat you. If they mistreat you, tell them that they don't have permission to talk to you or treat you like that, and tell them until they are ready to talk to you properly, then its best you don't talk at all.

It will work! *hugs* I hope you get this message and read this post.

I always remember those words from that therapist, and until this day, they still help me.

I really really need help. Today I left the dinner table crying. I'm crying as I type. I can't be happy. I was put on this Earth to be miserable. I live with the one person I actually hate with a passion. My dad and I must have enemies in a previous life. I must have burned down his family in a previous life and now he's here to suck the happiness out of my life slowly, gradually, like stabbling daggers into me and pulling them out. Over and over again. I haven't danced in two weeks. I don't want to go out. I can't stop crying. I can't stay on a diet. I can't get control of my life. Nobody cares about me. I do everything by myself. And I have to pretend to be happy infront of my friends. I can't take it anymore.