DCFS

[sweetspirit241]

Im having a problem with feelings right now, Im goin thru a hard time with my 2 teens right now (who doesnt?) I always use to use food (or drugs 2 years ago ) to comfort me and numb my feelings, but now emotionaly I feel kind of raw, my boy is going thru truancy court and the schools and even the judge has told me Im a great mom, well today a dcfs worker (that i volunteered for) came and totaly told me I am a bad mom and was very rude all because my som stayed home from school today because i took him to the hospital, he has a doctors note but she said when her girl got sick she took her to the doctors and then strait back to school with her meds. then when she kept putting me down i started crying, then she said "whats wrong with you, are you off your meds?" very sarcastic! I told her she was being very rude and she had no right to talk to me this way. she just said alot ao uncalled for things to me, she ended up being very nice after that and even telling me how everyone has said what a good mom I am ect, then she complimented me on how assertive I was with her when I got upset?????? its like head games! anyway why am I so upset by what one person says? I take things so personaly, now I dont know if I should just let it go or report her to her supervisor, she kept saying she could take my kid away if he dont straitnn up, he did nothing wrong, he was sick. sorry I guess I just needed to vent

[Laurenfra]

Noone has the right to be rude to you or speak to you in that manner. Only you can decided weather not it would be best to report it or let it go.

Just rememeber We do not need food, drugs or alcohol to cope. Those things only make it worse. Prove you are a great mom and stay clean and get healthy.
We are here for you :hug

[tickletussler]

SweetSpirit, I know that I cannot find the right words to say to you, so I'm giving you lots of
:hug :hug :hug :hug :hug :hug :hug :hug :hug :hug :hug :hug
and the knowledge that we are all here to listen to you and try and provide comfort to you in some way.

[sweetspirit241]

Thank you for your support, I was just going to not say anything but then I ended up calling and Im soposed to write a letter of all that was said and the court intake probation officer is going to submit it to the court and DCFS, she says her and all the other persons who have worked with us will back me up, that made me feel good, she says its up to me if I want to drop DCFS or not because Im already doing all of the right things and I volunteered for it, I may just take another case worker because they have this thing called family preservation, A counciler will come into my home in the evenings and give my son individual and all of us family counciling, it sounds good to me, anyway I know this is an atkins forum but thanks for the advice and support
Love ya all
sw 251 cw 223 gw 150 :hug

[2big4mysize]

:hug when our kids are threatened we feel emotional.


you should report her actions to her superiors too. Sure she may have been having a bad bad but to say when the doctor said for the kid to stay home he was sick that he should go she was praticing medicine without a license too.

[weiner]

I',m a social worker and I would make a report to her supervisor and then ask for another case worker. Don't give up on the extra help because of one rude person. That would be my advise to any parent in your similar situation. keep up the good work.

[sweetspirit241]

Thanks, I am going to ask for a new worker, I just cant trust her anymore, she is the first social worker I have ever met who acted this way, I would like to go into social work myself one day, does this happen with workers every now and again? I didnt want to tell her worker because I thought maybe she would take her side or not believe me? and then she would make it worse on me? but im sure im not the first mom she has done this to?

[Laurenfra]

Are there bad social workers? Sure there are bad teachers, doctors, lawyers, nurses etc you get the idea. Most social workers are caring and kind but every profession has bad seeds.

I have a bad social worker experiebce with my brother, Because I live in Texas and he in NJ, like you I didnt want to piss anyone off and have them take it out on my brother. So I called and just asked for a new social worker told the supervisor she just didn't work for us. Our new one was great. Andy and I both loved her until she went off on maternity leave.