I am 5 months pregnant and need some encouragement

[Elizabeth]

Re: I am 5 months pregnant and need some encouragement

What you have said here about you son is exactly what I fear. I would have been in tears too.

I feel the same way! When my son was really young, and first started school, I came to work there. He didn't want me to walk with him to the area where all the boys were playing, and I asked him what was wrong, in my clueless way... and he said "I don't want anyone to think you're a cow". That really took me back. Then that afternoon just to make sure, I asked him again what he had said, and he told me again, and that he had told the boys I was his aunt. And this was after I had lost the pounds I mentioned. I was crushed, and we had a LONG talk with him about how love isn't based on weight and beauty. Now when he wants to refer to it, he always goes quiet, and if I don't get what the problem is, he says "I don't want to hurt your feelings." I hope for his sake when I have our baby, that I am faithful to Atkins...more than I was before I got pregnant. It is SUCH a blessing though to have DH love me for who I am no matter what, and I'm so happy yours does for you too!

[maribelle]

Re: I am 5 months pregnant and need some encouragement

For the first time in years, I am not hiding behind food to deal with the pain i feel in losing 4 pregancys .. I am optimistically looking forward in hopes that by living healthy and being healthy, I too will be sucessful with at least one more pregancy.

I too am sorry for your losses, and so happy you've been able to have a child! Now you are taking the most positive and helpful way to making your dreams come true! CONGRATS! Sometimes it takes awhile for this diet to regulate your hormones, and make things happen, but you'll make it, and with this diet, and prayers, I know you'll get your dream of another baby!

What you have said here about you son is exactly what I fear. I would have been in tears too.

You know, it did hurt so much at the time, but it is such an important thing for him to learn now. We live in a world were obesity is at such an all time high, and not showing signs of getting better. So many young people sneer at heavy people, make comments, make fun of them or those dear to them, yet someday may end up big themselves. I want my son to learn that big doesn't mean diseased, or gross, or worthy of derision. I'm proving every day that big can mean the most dearest person in his life, love, comfort, security. I hope he will grow up a less selfish and more considerate person for having suffered the humiliation a little. Also, I want him to be able to hold his head up if he should become large one day. I want him to know he can still hold his head up, since his self worth won't depend on his size. Does that make sense?