Hello... :-(

[Lena May]

I have no idea what I am doing wrong. I suppose it'sjust lack of inspiration or people just telling me not to do this diet. It was going so well before, but now I am all the way back up to where I started with more weight than I have ever had before in my life. I feel like I am a screw up. I hate it when my father calls me obese. I don't know what I can do about my problem. It's so hard when you work in a grocery store and I get access to food easily. Ever since I started in Floral department, I gave up on my diet because I was allowed to eat whenever I wanted to! THIS HAS GOT TO STOP! I need to fall back into the way of things and lose all the weight I was intended to lose from the beginning. I have to work hard on this and I really do want to weigh less and not be called a fat ***** by everyone I know. -sighs- I don't know, I need to change the way I eat and I seriously need help. I hate being depressed over this matter, I hope someone, anyone can help me with this, please? <3

[-=Black Belt Brian=-]

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Hi Bekka,
It is depressing putting the weight back on, I know, I did it. I just go back on Atkins on June 21st and have lost almost 12 lbs! (I'm 6'4" and WAS 271 Lbs) Atkins works, plain and simple. I dont know how many people do it, but I also count calories, I try to stay between 1700-1800 on normal days and 100-200 more on hard working days. For a lady, try to get at least 1200 a day. I find if I eat too little, I stall. Isnt that wonderful? Eat more lose fat? I love it. About the temptation at work, Be strick for 3-5 days and the craving will stop. For 3 days I wanted something sugary so bad, it was an obsession. But I have dealt with several other addictions and know all cravings and withdrawls will pass, for me 3 days is the magic number for withdrawls. But I had to make a decision, Have a doughnut/cookie/bowl of icecream and stay fat, or live with some discomfort for a few days and feel a **** of a lot better. I chose discomfort for a few days, and after that I felt Soooo good! My energy has lept, my appitite is down, I'm enjoying life more, and feel better about myself. Sugar can make you depressed. About your father, I don't know how he is saying to you he thinks youre obese, but I HOPE it's in a kind way. What I mean is some people lack tact and cooth and unintentionally hurt while trying to help. It's good youre seeking to get back on track. Now do it! This is the place for inspiration and help. I like to go to the before and after pics and look at those for inspiration. So many of the ladies here have started out huge and transformed into hotties! Also I love to go to SugarFreeSheila.com . She is an awesome and sweet lady with lots of good info on her site. I doubt if anyone on this board has super human willpower, or they wouldnt be here in the first place. We all start out depressed about our weight and feeling helpless, yet we overcome and get thin (well, I'm working on it ). Forget those who call you names, the best revenge is when they see you in that little black dress looking all hot!
Good luck, You CAN do it!

[BikerGoddess]

Parents are (sometimes unfortunately) just people too, and they make mistakes or are just crappy people. Your dad has no right to call you obese. Not only is it not nice, it's most likely partly his fault.

We learn our eating habits from our parents. It's probable that you got your emotional eating baggage from them. If you eat when you're stressed, it's because you saw them doing it. So take his comments with a grain of salt. Not saying it won't hurt, but you need to know that he's fallible.

Working in a grocery store is perfect. It's not like it's a pizza place or a chocolate factory. Now that would be hard. But you've got fresh veggies, and seafood, and everything else you need to make Atkins a success.

There's a saying you'll see around here that might help - nothing tastes as good as thin feels. Before you put anything in your mouth, ask yourself if it's worth it. Worth not losing for 2 days. Worth your self respect. Worth the depression. Are you even going to remember what it tasted like in 2 days?

Take each meal as it comes. If you make a mistake, just try again at the next meal. Pretty soon, you'll have several days done right. And before you know it, you'll have several weeks. Then in no time, you'll be at goal.

If you get discouraged, come here. Skip the negativity at home and school and hang here, where you're supported. You don't need people dragging you down - you're too good for that.

Laura

[Lena May]

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Wow, I never thought of it that way before, but you're right. I won't remember what I ate yesterday in two days time, nor will I ever remember what it tastes like. Thanks so much for the support and the response. I am very certain I can do it now, I really do want to prove everyone wrong, and plus I want to feel better about myself. I am happy that I have some people that I can confide in, at work and of course outside of work. Thanks, I will get back into the way of life now. It wil take time, but I know I can do it.

[nillygiel]

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Ye gods, I feel for you Bekka.

Definitely hang out here where objective people can tell you the truth about how you look and feel to help counteract insensitive (and probably basically insecure) people who resort to name calling because they don't know any better.
My biggest help when I started out and was feeling put upon was to start a journal. I began with a $0.99 notebook and some instructions from Skinny Daily
It gave me a sense of responsibility for what I had previously been snacking on without thinking, as well as a fun little project to keep me busy when I might have wanted to eat from boredom.

Best of luck.

[-=Black Belt Brian=-]

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Hi again BekkaI like to start my mornings right here in ADBB, I drink my coffee and read some posts, look at some before and after pics. For me, it's a great motivation tool and puts me in the right frame of mind for continuing with the Atkins way of life. I may not post a lot, and may not know anyone, but this board means a lot to me and helps me stay motivated, daily!

[Shaune Drake]

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No Offense but your not one of those emo kids are you?

[Lena May]

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Lol. Me, Emo? No way. I just label myself as me. I am not a kid, I am almost out of my teens.

Anywho, thanks for all the insight, guys, it was really nice of you to reply to this. I start today, which is way cool. I don't feel really bad right now, but I might a bit later on. I was thinking of calling in sick to work, but that would have been wrong. -sighs- Stupid work. Anyway, I actually cooked breakfast this morning for the first time in a really long time. At least it didn't have to be eggs. I had a lot of steak strips that I cut up earlier, so I used those. To top it off, I had a nice salad on the side and about 16 oz of water. Nice way to start the day.

<3

[island reina]

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Don't feel depressed, just try your best to lose the weight so that when you finally do, you can laugh in everyones face.

[Lena May]

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Heh heh, thanks everyone. Today is my official 5th day on this wonderful WOL! Yay! I am doing so good, I can tell that I have lost a lot of water weight. I just wish this back pain would stop killing me, other than that, I feel great!!! ^_^

[BikerGoddess]

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Great! Fat will be joining the water soon, so keep it up.

Laura

[kibskix]

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I know how it feels to have your parents be less than supportive.
(as i mentioned in the eating disorder one) I played soccer obsessively when I was a kid. I came across I little diary I kept as a kid and in it i'm complaining about my mom saying I would be faster on the field if I lost 10 lbs. I was 8.
8! My dad called me all sorts of names as a kid and teased me about being overweight (when in retrospect, for my height, I had about 15lbs extra, no big deal) I don't eat for comfort though, I did it out of my oral fixation, bordom, and defiance. My dad told me not to eat cause I was fat, i'd do it anyway because I hated what he said. Doesnt make a lot of sense! There was never any restriction in my house over what to eat, and there was ALWAYS junk food.
Don't listen to what mean people say. Do it for you. Personally, people -telling- me I needed to lose weight never worked, because I have some weird problem with authority and I felt like I was giving into what they wanted. Do it for you, and focus really hard. Once it starts to work, instead of telling you, they encourage you and compliment you, and that kept me going. If your dads still being a jerk, maybe you should sit him down and explain how his "motivation" is counter productive. Hopefully he'll realize that!

[Lyssie]

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Congratulations on the first 5 days Bekka!! I found out that when losing the weight, pain starts to go away, all types... including that parental pain in the ***. Working at a grocery store could be convenient, you can buy cheese and pepperoni whenever you want!! Anyway, great job!! *hugs*

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