The hard days

[LC_Dave]

Hey everyone,

lately I've found it hard to stay enthused. I am posting this in the Century Club because I reckon you guys can relate.

Sometimes it feels like I'm never going to be rid of all this fat. It seems like it's taking forever (in reality is going at the best pace it can).

I'm still on plan, but it sucks to have a little success and yet still be weighed down by this weight!

[Labarum]

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Dave, you are a 6 ft 3 in Aussie male - you can do anything!

From a 6 ft 3 in Pommie Male

[Mary-chan]

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I know the feeling. After 9 months of being on Atkins, NOT cheating, exercising my *** off and resisting temptation after temptation.. some days I look at myself and think "this is the after???".. I feel after 9 months of working so hard I should just be skinny already!!!! But those are just some of the many demons we face on our road to success. i just stay focused on my closest minigoal, whatever that may be. Right now I am just focused on getting to 180, my lowest adult weight ever, and on fitting into a size 14 jeans (I can zip them up but can't sit down in them!!). One goal at a time. I try to keep myself busy and not think about it when I get bummed out.. just gotta keep going one foot in front of the other and eventually we will get there!!

we can do this!!

[2big4mysize]

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if you focus on where you came from instead of where you are going every ounce is a victory. I ran from my 300+ formerself all the way to goal. never had those weight counters to show me how far I still had to go just the how much i lost banner to pat me on the back every time I saw my siggy.

Break up the goals into smaller things so you arre acheiving goal weight sooner just not final end of the scale lose goal. I used money and paid myself $5 a pound in a special account and making those deposits was exciting watching the balance grow. Others used 5 pound incriments andused nonfood rewards. I know Brook used lipgloss for 5 pounds and perfume for25 pounds.
Remember you go the rest of your life to lose those pounds so enjoy the journey focuse on your getting smaller and being ableto exercise better instead of the scales. the new 6WEC is starting SUnday sign up. Just walking is a fine exercise and you are going to be amazed at how much further and faster you can go bythe end of the 6WEC theyuse inches lost too so you canget bowled over when you see 20+ inches of fat gone from your body!
you can do this think about how much healthier you are getting and how many more Assie football championships you will see.

[TheLoser05]

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I understand where you're coming from Dave. Febuary 1rst will be exactly one month that I have been on this WOE. Yes I love stepping on the scale and seeing those numbers decrease. But I look at myself in the mirror and still see no changes. I have to be close to losing 20... but I'm not weighing myself until tomorrow!

But everyday I tell myself... that one day I will reach my goals and be a healthier, thinner me! I've made a huge goal for my grnad finale of weight loss... I will work at the Jail for corrections and then when I get down to 160... I want to try to get into the State police.

<3Stephie

[Lyssie]

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Dave, I know exactly how you feel. Don't do what I do half the time and share a bowl of mac 'n cheese and some ice cream with your child. Look at your mantra, then get nekkid and put on some of your clothes from when you started, and some from where you're gonna be in like, 2 weeks. It cheers me up to see clothes I fit in last year falling off me. Then I ask myself if they make my butt look big from being droopy. I'm such a girl.

[divaindubai]

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Dave, I can really relate to how you are feeling.

I joined this ADBB a year ago.....eventhough I've been interested in doing Atkins before this, but still joined a year ago...

I didn't do much work at all on my Atkins WOE last year at all...kept giving myself excuses (I work long working hours during the week, I have no music to listen to while exercising so I can't workout, I'm too tired at nighttime so I can't work out, I have too much stress during my day at work so I have to have one of the candies int he candy jar...oh wait..not one...how about 4 or 5!...and on and on)

Now I see others like Cruiser Gal, IYAMAMASCHKE, Mary chan to name a few, who have lost sooo much weight on this WOE and joined ADBB around the same time as me (give or take a month or two), and look where they are now in comparison to me! What was I doing, just dragging my feet or being so stubborn and giving myself all these excuses!

Now, one year later, I'm just on the wagon again strong.....been strong for the past 3 weeks, I feel this will be it for me, that I can stick to this WOE and exercise and drink lots of water, etc etc to be successful,

but what if I had started this a year ago????I would be at least 50 pounds if not more lighter by now.....

If you don't do this now, you will regret it later on like I am doing now. Being obese is very bad for one's health. let's extend our life expectancy and rid ourselves from the dangers of having diabetes or other health problems because of this extra weight.

You can do it Dave. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and take each day as it comes, work hard each day. before you know it, you will be down 20 pounds.....then 30 pounds......50 pounds....etc....but be patient with yourself. That's what I'm planning to do, just be patient. I've planned to lose around 2 - 3 kgs a month and I will be happy with that. I know you have much more than I do to lose, but still bit by bit.


Give yourself a reward as 2big was suggesting. Make yourself mini goals. I know for me I want to weigh at least 116 kgs by the end of this month. I was down to 115 kgs before my mom came in December, but I blew it and gained around 10 - 12 pounds in the month of December....and I have already lost and am close to 116, but I gave myself that goal. February I will aim to lose another 3 kgs...so 113kgs...and from then on.

When I was on weihgt loss plans before, they always encouraged me to make goals that are achievable, that way when we reach them we feel good, and if we make goals set too high and then we will get discouraged when we don't reach them.

Hope this helps you!

[hey_nelson]

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Dave, A good friend asked me, "How long did it take you to get to your top weight?" My reply was, "Twenty Years" Then I understood it is going to take me a long time to get back to where I should be. But ya know. I've lost 4 lbs... Yahhhhhhh00000000 !!!!!

Yahooooo to you too Dave. Keep up your good work.

love and prayers
patty

[softnred]

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I liked what everyone said. It's very true that sometimes the goal seems sooooo far away. It's during those times that we have to stop, turn around, and see how far we've come. Then focus on mini-goals and the little things along the way. Resolve to start living like you were skinny NOW and not wait until goal to really start living. Make NOW the best it can possibly be, and you'll enjoy the journey much more...

[Katlam]

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Dave I hear ya! I've been doing this nearly 2 years. I got discouraged just before the holidays with the lack of loss for the ENTIRE last year. I had maintained but no pounds gone. I fell off, gained 9. Those 9 are done and behind me, and I'm back where I was before the holidays, same old weight. But...I pulled out the pants that I wore Christmas of 2003...YIKES! I then realized how far I'd come!!!

1) there will be days, weeks, and dare I say it, maybe even MONTHS where you will loose such a tiny miniscule amount and you'll look at it and want to scream, rage, cry...

2) you might even slip off and have to climb back on...

REMEMBER where you were before you started all this...

REMEMBER why you're here now...

THINK...do you want to go back?

NEVER...

The only option is FORWARD.

You can do it, it won't always be easy but it's a lifestyle change and change is hard. Cut yourself some slack, reward baby steps if you need it to get through the rough times with a non-food treat (a special CD of music you wanted to listen to while walking, a trip to the mall for a new shirt, a night out with a special someone).

and remind yourself with how far you've really come. You know this works, you've seen your own results and (if you're like me) it's the first thing in ages that produced visible results.

Hang in there!

Kathy

[Analog6]

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Dave, you are 30 years old and I think you said in an earlier post you've been overweight most of your life. You have maybe 40-50 years more ahead of you, do you want to be fat for all of those?
You can do this. You've done really well so far. I think once you can exercise more you will see a huge difference. I know I did, it allows you a little more leeway with food, too. For instance, last week we had visitors, went out to dinner twice, for daily totals of 50+ and 60 g of carbs for those days, and I didn't gain! I was very pleased this morning when the scale stayed at 106kg.
Stick with it, keep your chin up, and don't let the bast**ds get you down!

[cruiser gal]

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Dave, I think we all know where your coming from, as we all have alot of weight to lose initially. For me, setting mini goals helped me tremendously, as I was able to celebrate mini success quite often, and that just encourged me more to keep going. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, that is shining brightly. Mine is now just within reach, and yours will be too!!! Just remember when there is any doubt, there are always people here that will help you along, and tell you what's worked for them. My attitude is read, learn, and then adapt what fits for you!!! I'm looking forward to hearing about your future successes!!!

[LC_Dave]

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Hey everyone,


Thanks for responding!

Some good advice there for all!

[changing]

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Yeah, I've been reading these responses as well, and had a dip too, Dave! Thanks for speaking up and saying what I couldn't seem to say... and to everything else for being uplifting.

[wayless]

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Just want to voice my support for how you feel, too, Dave. It *is* hard to be strong and rational ALL the time, even though you know this is the best thing for you. If this were easy, nobody would be fat.

It's helpful sometimes to know I'm not the only one struggling with up and down days. Thanks for your honesty. I guess we're all in "the struggle" together. LOL