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**changing** · February 18, 2006, 12:18 PM

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Loser05, you have come so far already. Don't give up! Think of it this way, the more you do it, the easier it becomes... once you've lost 50 pounds (after the next batch, sure you'll still have a ways to go, but you will be a smaller person and you will feel better about yourself every day. Every day your pants will feel just a teentsy bit looser instead of the teentsy bit tighter from before. You'll have a little more energy all the time. There are benefits to the PROCESS, and not just the END RESULT. If you can enjoy the process, you will get those end results!!!

I'm so envious of you at 18 coming into this WoE... If I could have really wrapped my mind around a permanent life/body/health change at your age, and found this wonderful plan to help me do that without immense suffering, then I know there would have been so many days in the past 6 years that would have been so much brighter.

Stick with it! You'll do so well!

**notfat4long** · February 18, 2006, 12:21 PM

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Originally posted by TheLoser05

Lately I have been so depressed. My weight loss is going very well and with each pound I lose I know I am closer to my goal of one day becoming a State Trooper. But for some reason I broke down at work last night. .............

"You don't know how it feels to step on the scale every week to see your weight plumating... look into the mirror and still see that fat creature staring back at you."

I guess I'm to a point where pictures I take you can see the changes but I can't see them through my own naked eye. It hurts to look at myself in the mirror and still ball my eyes out. 31.5 lbs gone forever but I still feel like the grossest creature that ever walked this earth.
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No I haven't gone off plan. But now I'm so much more obsessive about my weight. I don't know... I'm rambling now... I still have to get ready and go back to work...

FIRST THING: RELAX

I think you are being way too hard on yourself. You have lost 31 pounds in less than 2 months. WOW- How great is that.

You have to remember that each day you get a step closer and closer. You may not "see" the person in the mirror you want to see until you are closer to goal. We all have an image in our head of what we want or suppose to look like. Remember that you are just 1 month and a half into this. As wonderful as this WOE is, it still isn't a magic wand. It will still take some time. And you are really enjoying some great success.

If you feel bad about yourself and how you look- take a step back and look at where you once were. As bad as you THINK you look now, think about 32 pounds ago and how that made you feel.

You are a beautiful person and soon to be a thinner beautiful person. Let this play out- don't be depressed- be IMPRESSED that you haven't failed, that you have suceeded and have lost over 6 5 pounds bags of sugar. Over 1 large 25 pound bag of dogfood. You've lost the equivalent of an average 2 year old. That's something to be excited about.... I can't wait until I get there with you....

Don't give up. We're here for you....

**2big4mysize** · February 18, 2006, 12:22 PM

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take some deep breaths, just about everybody here had or has the same problem. We even have a name for it called fat goggles. Mine were so welded to my face I thought I was seeing pics of my cousin when I was actually being shown pics of me at goal weight.
We are our worst critic as far as getting skinnier goes. Since you can't right now see the snaller you use something else as your focus point like maybe take some papaer and build butter boxes and stack then to show how much weight you have lost. seeing it grow will show you how much volume of you you have lost.

Hang in there and I'n so proud of you for not cheating and "curing" those feelings with food!

**mrspher** · February 18, 2006, 12:51 PM

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I know where you are coming from. I've lost over 40 pounds and no one can tell. I can't even tell. It's hard, but in the end you know it's worth it... eventually you get to a weight that when you lose 5 pounds you can REALLY tell. Like 2big said, we do get "fat goggles" We only see the bad and others see the good. Sometimes we need to be a little more kind to ourselves.

I had a really big problem with being too down on myself. What I learned to do is treat myself like a best friend. Would I treat my best friend like this? If my best friend lost 31 pounds wouldn't I be proud of her? Take each thing you say to yourself and prove it. We can't tell changes in our body because we see it every single day! Take a picture today, and in a month take another one... believe me, you'll see a big difference.

**Analog6** · February 18, 2006, 09:00 PM

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Darling, you have just discovered the FAT GOGGLES. You need to take them off. Judge by your photos, not your eyes. Just like an anorexic who weighs only 40lbs sees a big fat person in the mirrow, us losing fatties see the person we were. Go by your photos, your clothes and the comments of friends. Only look in the mirror to make up your face.
You'll have to learn to take these off when you go to clothing stores, too. As you keep losing you will not need to go to the Plus sizes any more, I think the day that haooens and you realise it has happened is when the fat goggles finally adjust.
You're doing just grand, keep up the good work and keep your chin up too.

**Jasmain** · February 18, 2006, 09:08 PM

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You are a lovely lady, and a lady, I think, who has more going on than just wanting to lose weight. I agree with analog, you need to adjust those fat goggles and take a realistic look at yourself. You are NOT the person you were all those pounds ago. You DO look better, even if you can't see it yet. You should be so proud of yourself for taking off those pounds and for being so much closer to your goal than when you started. Why aren't you? Sit down and write down 3 nice things about yourself that have nothing to do with weight loss. If you can't, then get someone else to do it, like the person you were saying was behind you all the way. I bet they can think of more than 3 things.

1. You've made very good changes to your eating habits, and not always easy ones.
2. You have set a goal, and are sticking to what it takes to get you there, which means you CAN be tenacious when you want something.
3. You obviously know how to treat your friends or you wouldn't be so close to Brian, and he wouldn't be behind you in this.

There, *I* thought of three wonderful, strong things about you, and I don't even know you! You should be able to see what a wonderful person you are INSIDE and let the outside work as your diet progresses. What you are inside is a wonderful person with a good friend who cares about you.

**Kate113** · February 19, 2006, 02:39 PM

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I never see the changes in myself either. Do what I did and put each photo next to each other. THAT'S when I could finally see it. I still see that girl in my first picture when I look into the mirror. It's gross and disgusting. But when I see the pics all together, it makes me feel good that I have come a lot further than I originally thought. It inspires me to continue this WOL.

Don't give up. You're doing great! You can do this and you look fabulous!

**TheLoser05** · February 19, 2006, 06:01 PM

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Thanks everyone... I had to have a few days to myself but you guys made me feel so much better. It feels like those "Fat Goggles" are super glued to my face though. I need to find the solution to losten them up a bit.

<3Stephie

**Jasmain** · February 19, 2006, 06:03 PM

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I agree with the others, pictures are a GREAT way to see for yourself what's been happening to your body, and they are great things!

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