Unbelievable

[donkey23]

Re: Unbelievable

you'd think that name calling stops when you leave childhood behind.
Today I was having a heated discussion with my BIL. To make a long story short - he asked where my son was. And I asked him why he wanted to know. You see he(BIL) just recently got married and family ties are very, very, very important to his wife and her family, so after more then 13 years of ignoring my son and never acknowledging him (no cards, no phone calls, no nothing) he wants to pretend he is this wonderful, concerned uncle. I've let it slide a few times because SIL is a total sweetheart but, I told DH the next time BIL askes - I was getting to the bottom of it.
Well after going back and forth - BIL had no real excuse for his behavior....and he didn't like me having an answer to every B.S. story he came up with - in the end he says "he no longer hates his brother (that'd be DH) because he(DH) is married to the fattest, ugliest woman in norway" (that'd be directed at me and the name calling I am refering to.)
Then he signed off the pc. Well knowing BIL like I do - I went on answering e mail and popping around the internet....then BIL comes back and I sent him an "audibles" of a fat lady laughing and saying "(laughing) Please stop....(more laughing) I'm dying over here"
then I typed " Tsk tsk you think your opinion of me matters" then I sent the laughing lady again and ended it.
I could have handled it two ways, I could have gotten upset and believed the cruel things BIL said. Or I could do what I am proud I did - let BIL know his opinion doesn't matter.
Its amazing, not long ago I would have believed those cruel words and taken them to heart.
Thanks for letting me share and release!
Does anyone here have a name calling story they'd like to share and release?
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If I was your DH and that was my brother I would of cracked him uoside the head, no questions asked. That would be the first and last time he said that.

[sombersusie]

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it's amazing he's lived this long with his head stuck up his Bllllllllllllllllllleeeeeeeeeeeeeeep!!!!

*hugs* the guy is an unfeeling moron, you however are a sweet lady with a bright new future, take care hon!

[Tryin2lose]

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Lady,
I also have a BIL that is a jerk! My dh's siblings all try to get together at Christmas time, since we are all over the East coast, we don't see eachother much. Anyway, Dec. '03' everyone was sitting around talking over eachother~like usual~ when my one BIL poses a question to those of us in earshot. "Should I ask her (his sister) what it's like to be 33 and weigh 300lbs?" He looked at me laughing, expecting me to laugh right along with him. I glared at him and left the room. He had my husband come tell me that he wasn't talking about me. Well, I knew that and I didn't give a crap. For one I'm fat too and for two, my sil is a kind and caring person who was feeding him and sheltering him and rest of us 22 people who were at her house that weekend!! To this day my sil and her family will not get together with all of us at Christmas. He has never apologized to her and continues to be "sickened" by overweight people.
Since then I confront him at every comment, so he doesn't say much in front of me. But what he doesn't say with his mouth he says with his eyes. I will not avoid the family get togethers, because my whole family benefits from seeing our relatives, but I will never let him get to me emotionally again either. I think Karma will teach him a lesson someday and I can't wait to see it!

I love that you laughed at his immaturity!!



Tryin"

[Lady_Hawke]

Re: Unbelievable

If I was your DH and that was my brother I would of cracked him uoside the head, no questions asked. That would be the first and last time he said that.

DH is out of town, but I sent him a copy of the convo between his brother and I -
DH's reaction "interesting reading - looks like he got mad - I am going to bed now - need to watch CNN - could be a conflit building in Kosovo due to Milosovichs death"
then he signed off.
I was a bit hurt and shocked - I expected him to at least tell me I handled his brother well. Not to blow me off

[Lady_Hawke]

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Tryin2lose - your BIL sounds like a "wonderful" person just like mine. Man where do these people get off on judging over weight people and making fun of us.


Thank you everyone for all the hugs and kind comments. I feel so cared about and I can't begin to tell you how much I appreciate you all

[barbarainholland]

Re: Unbelievable

I, too, am hanging on by a thread, and even trying to eat the thread! At least I am aware of what I eat, and have to stop hating myself when I slip. I crave bread and potatoes so much, simply because I can't have them. One day at a time is my motto, but I find it so difficult. I don't have anyone around me to call me names, a bit isolated in my living situation, but have to be careful I don't do it to myself.

[Binsk]

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Lady, the way you handled the situation with your BIL, is what makes you a Lady.

[TheLoser05]

Re: Unbelievable

You did an amazing Job! I am not that cool headed about comments like those. The last time someone said a comment of those proportions to my face was probably sophmore year of high school (roughly 3 years ago). She just came up to me and started shouting vulgar things about how fat I was, this that nad the other thing. I brushed it off, started walking away. She grabbed my arm to pull me back so she could verbally bash me again. So I wound up and popped her a good one... broke her nose actually. Got suspended for a week... but boy was it worth the look on her face as she crouched down holding her nose. All I remember after that is laughing hysterically and saying "Touch me again I break the rest of your face." Not the best way to handle it, but that's how I got threw high school. I had to swing on a few other students, but eventually everyone left me alone because they were scared.

From then on I wasn't known as a fatty... but a psycho b*tch. Sometimes I look back and cry about it. I wish I would have head a head on my shoulders like you Lady_Hawke... I probably would have enjoyed high school if I did.