~~~pulling Back, But Not Pulling Out~~~

[Sherri]

Today I was PM by a member of this board and was accused "of rebuttaling them in a thread and accused of a "cat and mouse argument" with them. I found this very hurtfull and not of my nature. So I have pulled out of all challenges that I signed up with this month. I will only lurk here and there throughout the board and have my interesting conversations with those I have grown to love and appreciate. This person told me "that people look forward to her honesty and straight forward facts." So I guess that meant I don't hold a candle to what they have to say even though today is my third year of doing this woe and wol. I've lost 120 lbs and got rid of my diabetes and high blood pressure. I will continue this lifestyle for the rest of my life. But, what do I know? I'm just an ex-fatty! Best of health and life to you all. You've made it without me before I came, You'll make it without so much of me now! HURT, SHERRI

[Discolemonade]

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AWWWW! Sherri! Don't tuck your tail under and leave! Everyone has their own opinions on everything. Just let that roll hun, you can still be with us and avoid someone....Rebuttals happen, disagreements happen and YOU MATTER TO ME.

[hopejoy]

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Hey Sherri,
sorry for whatever happened... relationships are hard... even online with strangers... glad your sticking around... I'm sure you have a lot to offer us... Hope your tomorrow is better.
liz

[kisstuck]

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Sherri, that was not a very mature thing to do to you. We all have different opionions and some things that work for me or you may not work for everyone, that's what this is all about....helping each other. The difference in opinions and such gives others ideas and inspiration.

Feel free to "lurk" when I'm around any 'ol time!

[tmn]

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Oh sweetie! I'm so glad you're not leaving, I'm just getting to know you and am totally blown away by your own success so far!

You have lots to offer us here! In particular, sticking with this and not throwing in the towel because it's not happening overnight. I'm not good with patience but man, to realize you keep plugging away the way you have been for THREE YEARS is awesome! I can imagine that, at our age, how many aches and pains you had to deal with over this time. And how depressing all that is. It shows a lot of strength, character and determination!

Hang in there, luv!

[Sherri]

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Thanks Hope Kiss and Terry, I've already put it behind me today, I've put this person on my ignore list already so I can move on with life here. They won't be bothering me no more! I thank you for your kindness and support! Now let's make it a safe and legal day, ha!

[Lulubell]

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sherri-

remember that these internet boards are not real life and these people are not your best friends. by entering here, we all are entitled to post our opinions and experiences. i know exactly what you mean about certain posters - there's a certain clique of folks that think they are professionals and really have a knack for making others feel unwelcome. whatever. just let it ride. someone like you who's lost 120 lbs. brings alot to the table and your experiences and opinions are just as valid as anyone elses'.

you know what we say in new jersey: 'em!!

hang in here with us!

-renee

[Sherri]

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Thank you Renee for your support! We have that saying here in Oregon too and I totally agree with you.Thanks sweetie! HUGS!

[MaxsmamaDebbie]

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Hi Sherri,

Believe in yourself...every person on this board has something to offer to someone else here. You are much appreciated as are all who come here.

Deb

Thank you Renee for your support! We have that saying here in Oregon too and I totally agree with you.Thanks sweetie! HUGS!

[Sherri]

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I beleive that everything happens for a reason in our lifetimes. The experience yesterday was a positive one for me. It really showed me peoples true colors and helped me filter out the ones that I can do without. Like weeding a garden so to speak. In fact I've had Cindi Laupers song in my head this morning, "TRUE COLORS". Yesterday really showed some TRUE COLORS SHINING THROUGH"! I appreciate and value the experience. I hold no grudges to ANYONE. Especially the person that opened the can of worms, so to speak. All is forgiven. It just helped me to remember to use caution with certain clicks here, knowing what I have learned. Wishing all a legal and safe day! Sincerely Sherri

[Sherri]

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Thanks Deb, I do beleive in myself, how do you think I got this far in life and had so much success in it? Of course you wouldn't know this because we are only acquanted. I never said that not "EVERYONE WAS APPRECIATED HERE", sorry if you read that in me. Glad to see that you're back on track with this woe. Wishing all the best to you and your success!

[Waterbabe_Helena]

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Dear Liz (hopejoy)
You are the first person I've ever seen who has stated that relationships are difficult.

I've had nasty things said to me and about me on every online community that I have ever joined, except this Atkins board. I am dismayed to read that this member who has lost so much weight has been "got at" and upset by someone (I don't know who or what they did).

Anyway, just wanted to say that, because of what you wrote. Never seen anyone say that before , here or anywhere.

Helena

[hopejoy]

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Waterbabe_Helena,
Ever notice how many books are writen on relationships, friendships, etc... it's a huge business. Not to mention the whole counseling industry! Devorce rates, kids hate their parents, and vice versa... Relationships are hard and take a lot of work...
Personally I don't think I am a very good friend as I am too busy to be constantly monitoring others feelings... anyone who is friends with me has to be able to understand that it's not personal if I don't call everyday, or if I screw up and say the wrong thing, or forget a birthday, or look the wrong way at them accidently... my friends are my friends precisely because they tolerate and understand that I'm not perfect and they love me anyways which makes me love them more... Last night we got together with people that we hadn't seen in ages... I said to her... I'm so sorry I haven't called... I never see anyone any more... I'm so busy and she said the same thing... maybe there are other reasons people 'drop' you... maybe they just got busy! Life is sometimes all consuming just trying to keep up with everything. I personally have a hard time keeping my head above water...
Anyways, not knowing you or anything about you, I'd say you are very sensitive... (so am I) That's not always good, because not everything that others do that may feel hurtful is meant to be hurtful... sometimes you just have to have a tough skin, and then forgive and forget... give people the benefit of the doubt and believe the best in them... Everyone makes mistakes and says something wrong... inappropriate... insensitive... stupid... every once in a while... a real friend can look past that and see the heart, and the intent and even if they are wrong... well love them anyways.
Anyways, I'll be your friend. but don't get mad at me if I don't talk to you EVERYDAY! Cuz that will make me crazy! I love the UK! Went there once and it was absolutely magical!
liz

[drosa75]

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I have been on this board many years and yes there are cliques and yes I have felt a cold shoulder a time or two..lol.. I went away for several months but returned and finally I am here to stay.. I post when i have a question or when I want to offer some sort of wisdom/opinion..

so yeah stick around...post when you have something to say and ignore the snobies.. I am here and although I may not have a lot to say its a comfort knowing that there are people going thru the same trials as I am.. I often read your posts and it would be a great loss if you or anyone left..there are never any wrong opinions..the only thing wrong around here and the world is ignorance...

So lets have a drink...well of water..darn!

Smiles, Hugs and Kisses

Delia

[kellyf48]

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I also belonged to a twins website and quit because everyone thought that the way thye do things is the only way! When someone would post personal problems or a dramatic (mostly negative) thread about thier divorce etc there would be 400 replies, but someone would post a question (about actual babie stuff) and 4 people would look at it and 1 would reply! You will have that. I try to avoid them, just like in real life!