~~~pulling Back, But Not Pulling Out~~~

[Sherri]

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Hello Ladies! Glad to see that I'm not the only one here that has had there feelings hurt. I too am very sensitive and found that there are some here that I truly believe are putting their best intent forward, can actually do harm and not even realize it. When I was accused of rebuttaling someone in a thread I was actally comforting someone else when someone next stepped in and totally told me I was wrong in so many words. I then appoligized to that person using their name and then later made an observation about the experience in the same thread without using their name about how people tend to climb atop their soap box and broadcast their perfections. I was venting and crying at the same time. I cried all day about it, my feelings were so hurt. Well this person took offense and pm'd me, very offended. Here not to long ago on their birthday, same day as mine, I publicly appologized to them and wished them a happy birthday. Well needless to say, they blew me off. That's o.k. because my heart was in the right place and it truly showed me where I stand. Some people just can't find it within themselves to forgive and forget. This person has a huge following here and some of them use to converse with me, but no longer do. I'm o.k. with that, I find that to be very shallow on their part. I'm a very independent, strong, and loving individual who has surpassed much on this big ol rock we walk upon. I just won't be bullied by anyone, not here or anywhere. Thank you Delia for your kind words hon. I've seen your post around too but am a little gun shy now since that incident. You and anyone else are welcome to stop by my journal anytime and get to know me, I'm really not a mean person, honest. Toasting back at you Delia with my glass of water xo and smiles! Helena, Thanks for your words to dear. Liz, thanks to you to hon, I can relate to friends dropping out of sight. Life takes over and we lose contact with them, doesn't mean that their still not our friends, they're just out there living life! Hope to see all of you soon. Oh ya, I actually got two rep points over that incident for just being me. So, I can't be all that bad,ha!

[Oh.2.B.Fit]

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((((Sherri))))

I hope ur feeling better sweetie

And I'm glad ur here!!!

[Sherri]

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Thanks Nicole, I think you know how much that means to me dear, Hugs! I've seen several of your post and love your personality. I have coppied many of your recipes and have them in my atkins recipe box. Thank you for those hon. I'm looking forward to the coconut chicken soon. Yummy! I'm glad you're here too. You have alot to contribute with your ongoing success. You are welcome to visit my journal any ol time to get to know me if you wish. Take care and best of health to you and yours!

[misplaced southerner]

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hi sherri!!! i just came across this thread. just wanted to say that i am REALLY sorry that something happened here that hurt you....wonder where i was to have missed the drama! i, like you, get my feelings hurt easily but not here. i am sad you had that experience. i have often wondered if something i have posted myself might have come across differently than i had intended...writing on the internet never sounds like it does when you are chatting with a pal so i really try to be sensitive to that.

i have seen your posts many times and thought, wow, that chick has lost a ton and she is SO supportive of others! please don't go away. it takes all kinds and we need your kind around. don't let one bad apple spoil your day. (easier said than done i know.) sounds like you went above and beyond to say "sorry" for any misunderstanding. who knows, maybe the other person was having a REALLY bad day. maybe it was an e-misunderstanding, stay around. i appreciate what you have to say.

[Sherri]

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Thank you Mrs. Ernie! I read your post all the time too. Actually congradulated you when you reached goal and on your marriage. Again, Congradulations! The person we are talking about really is a nice person and I totally respect them. I had actually predicted a some sort of confrontation with them because our b-days are the same and we both have a strong energy, like two eagles colliding so to speak. I'm extremely intuitive and am very sensitive to peoples energy, on line or in person, friends or strangers . No matter, it just happens. Spooky sometimes. I wasn't suprised that it happened. I beleive in time, (time heals most), we'll be able to put it all behind us and be able to take the atkins journey together again. The balls in their court. I hold no ill feelings for this person at all. I am a forgiving, loving person and only wish the best for them and everyone. I thank you for your appreciation of me and look forward to your support for everyone in the future. By the way, I have the upmost respect for teachers and beleive you have a fantastic job and lifestyle. I have an Uncle and Aunt in North Africa who teach Ambassadors chidren in french, english and history. They also have a state side home in New Hampshire. What a life,ha. Take care!

[Waterbabe_Helena]

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Relationships are hard and take a lot of work... Anyways, not knowing you or anything about you, I'd say you are very sensitive... (so am I) That's not always good, because not everything that others do that may feel hurtful is meant to be hurtful... Anyways, I'll be your friend.
liz

Yes I am probably too sensitive. I am upset on an almost daily basis by people treating me like dirt, not turning up or calling, cancelling appointments at the last minute and then blanking me. Sometimes I phone the Samaritans and sob down the phone because I just cannot understand why people are so beastly to me, seemingly all the time. I try and try and try all the time to make friends, I am helpful and kind and outgoing and friendly to people, but they spurn me, ignore me, blank me, don't want to know me, let me down, don't turn up and well, blanketly, it seems that nobody wants to be a friend to me.

I am constantly analysing my behaviour with people that I wish to make friends with, and cannot for the life of me comprehend what they find so objectionable in me.

This is just about the only "safe" place I have to come and feel that no-one will reject me.

I believe that a lot of my habitual overeating was about this: wanting to comfort myself and feel full, where I always felt empty and needy. I am just as depressed about it now as I ever was (probably more so now) but I have finally realised that stuffing myself to morbid obesity, making myself disabled isn't helping me at all.

I remember reading in a book or somewhere that obesity was a cry for help. Well if that is true let me tell you - it doesn't work. I've cried for help right up to 342 pounds and nobody has ever come to help me.

I thank God for Dr Atkins for making this wonderful message board possible and for all the amazing people I have "met" on here.

Some of the people I have met on here care for me more than my own family ever did: that is saying a lot isn't it? I've been systematically un-cared-for since birth to the age of 49 so its a relief to find some real understanding and compassion on this board.

Helena

[Sherri]

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Helena, hi hon. That was so heartfelt that I just wanted to send you hugs! I'll be your friend. Come over and visit my journal any time hon. You're more than welcome. I can relate to your pain. So proud of you taking such good care of yourself now. Good for you. You've got to love yourself first, then everything else will fall into place. You sound like a very kind person. Unfortunately people have mistaken your kindness for weakness and have taken advantage of your kindness. By getting healthy you will regain your stength and be able to stand on your own to defend yourself. We're all here for you. I, myself, am happy to have met you. BIG HUGS!

[Lyssie]

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I'm sorry that you were hurt by others comments. It's supposed to be a support board, not a bashing one. Everyone here is trying to support people in their own way, and I don't think anybody wants to see someone else fail, they just want to see everyone succeed in the most effective way possible and sometimes those ways vary from person to person. I don't think people mean to hurt each other here. Some people are very blunt, and get to the point, and some people handle issues a little more gently. We're all trying to go in the same direction.

That being said, I'm in my 20s, have real jobs at real, multinational corporations, and have lost just as much weight as you. Perhaps that was a bit harsh of a post (#3).

[Sherri]

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Oh my gosh Lissie, I hope you didn't take that personal on post # 3. That wasn't directed in general terms. You have to keep in mind that I was hurt and lashing out. We say things in that state that are only directed at the person that hurt us. Sorry if you took offense. And no, it wasn't harsh in the context that it was meant. It was only meant for one person and one person only at the time. Congradulations on your on going success! Best of health to you and yours. And for the record, I publicly apologized to this person on their birthday on this site for any misunderstanding that this may have created. Also I have found people so intimmidated by other here that they get ran off because of others bluntness. My remarks were not to "bash", only a reaction from an action.

[*Wendy*]

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Sherri,

I just found this thread (I didn't realize until today that you could filter to show only newer threads!) and I'm so releived you stuck around after all.

You were one of the first people to welcome me to this board and are a huge inspiration!

Wendy

[Sherri]

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Hey ya Wendy, so glad I'm sticking around too dear. I found that I have more friends, than not, here! I get an occasional snarl, LOL, but not enough to run me off. Glad you're here too. You're doing really good, proud of you. Stop by my journal anytime, would like to catch up on how you're doing. HUGS!