Giving up I guess...

[angelawillbethinagain]

I am sad and frustrated. I am failing. I cannot do Atkins. I happen to get on the scales and I am up. I started eating like I was not doing atkins and now I feel hopeless.... This is the hardest battle I have ever been through in my life.. I have been fat for 10 years... No matter how hard I try, how motivated I get, I always fail. I try so hard. I went to dress for work and two of my three pairs of work pants feel so uncomfortable. My stomach is killing me. I am so drained and exhausted. I feel as though I will be fat forever. I put everything into doing atkins and then I just stop for whatever reason... Stress, work, death in family... You name it, is causes me to fail.

I have all of these plans to get healthy again for my kids. To run at the park chasing my kids, to walk up the stairs at work and not stop for 2 minutes cuz my heart is pounding 200 mpm, To wear cute clothes and nice work clothes, to start dating again.

I have tried so hard to be successful on atkins. I have stocked kitchen with atkin friendly foods, drank tons of water, excersised with my horrible joints and arthritis even though it kills me I still do it.

Since the last time I weighed myself which was quite a while ago, I am up 15 pounds.... Talk about feeling hopeless...

That's it for now.

[bradybunch]

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Sorry to hear that Angela, I wish I could help you in some way. It has been so easy for me, I wish I could make it that way for you. If there is anything I can do to help you change your mind just give me a PM, I hate to see you go. ttyl, brady

[adreliluc]

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Girl, I don't have the answers for you but I do know that we should never give up!

Ya know, it's hard. And honestly, it just plain out sucks that we have to deal with this. But we do. For what ever reason these are these are the cards we've been delt.

Everyday may be a strugle but as long as your still strugling you know that you're doing something! That you're alive!! And that you're making this day the best day that you can!

Please don't give up... never give up! If you throw the towel in where will you be in a month or 12 months?!? Exactly where you are now, hating where you are. Only you have the power to change, and trust me - you can stop eating the crap and you can stop over eating. You can get up and exercise everyday. You have to make yourself. You have to on top of it and not take no for an answer. Don't take 'fat' as an answer.

If you doubt then come here and look over the before and afters. So many people before you have gone through this, still are going through this. Even after being on plan for years you still have to deal with these issues.
The trick is to keep dealing with them. Figure them out.

Only you can change, only you can make the difference. But giving up will lead you no where but back to square one. And we all know how much square one sucks!!

xo

[adreliluc]

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And for the 15 lb gain, have you been on track 100%? Are you eating anything you shouldn't? Have you checked all the ingrediants?
You may be surprised what may stall you or even effect your body to the point that you gain.
And if there are sneaky little sugars and stuff in your foods then that can also cause you to crave more and more foods...
If you're eating the right foods you may just be eating too much.
Have you used fitday?
If you don't believe you've gone off plan then please post a menu. There are loooots of people here who can help!

Oh and by all means - Stay off the scale!! lol.
Try to go by how you feel.

[Brook]

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First off, Angela,

It sucks to have to work so hard at this sometimes, especially when it feels like one step forward, two steps back. It sucks even more when we're surrounded by people that barely have to give it a single thought - and is worse when you're surrounded by people that don't have to think about it or try at all. It's. Not. Fair.

We know. Everyone here knows. And most everyone here has been in your shoes. It hurts. It's frustrating. It's infuriating. It's demoralizing.

And now that we have that covered....









PICK YOURSELF UP, DUST YOURSELF OFF AND START OVER!!!

Angela, hon, this ain't gonna take care of itself. YOU have to do it. No one but YOU. You have choices here and as I read your post you talk a whole helluva lot about what you CAN'T do and how hard it is...and I don't see squat about what you CAN do.

You CAN do this. You are surrounded by people who are doing it...all the while feeling the same or similiar to the way you are. It can be done. It can be done well. If someone told you this would be easy, well, let me just fix that fallacy for you... THEY LIED!!!

It's not easy. I'm not going to sit here and tell you it's easy. What I will tell you is this: It gets easier. It gets lots easier. You'll have successess, and you'll have setbacks, but they are NOT failures until you stop trying!!

Are you listening, hon?
YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE UNTIL YOU STOP TRYING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I want you to do something for me....better yet...I want you to do something for YOU.

I want you to sit down and write out the top 4 things you can do today to make sure that a year from today you are not in the same position. Just 4 things for TODAY. Not tomorrow, not next week...TODAY.

Mine?
1. I will drink my water TODAY.
2. I will eat NOTHING that's not on plan TODAY.
3. I will concentrate on the blessings I have in my life TODAY.
4. I will be kind to myself and say positive things to myself TODAY.

Make it a point today to concentrate on the things you CAN do that will get you closer to where you want to be. This is a journey - not a destination. It's not a race, it's a never-ending marathon.

We are here, Angela. We are here to hold your hand, kick you in the when you need it, support you all the way ..successes AND setbacks. We care about you and we are invested in YOU.

USE US.

"Stop trading what you want most for what you want at the moment."

Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan "PRESS ON" has solved and will always solve the problems of the human race." - Israel Regardie

"Both tears and sweat are salty, but they render a different result. Tears will get you sympathy; sweat will get you change."-Jesse Jackson




If you believe in yourself half as much as I do, you're gonna be unstoppable. Now just do it.

[misplaced southerner]

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hi angela. i am not sure if you feel you have failed because atkins is not working for you or it you are falling off the wagon. either way......there are lots of people who have started over several times just to find out that the umpteenth time is the charm.

you have two choices friend...let your weight control you, or control your weight. right now you are not happy....if you continue to do what you are doing, will you be happier? i know this is hard. i don't know too many people (other than brady!! ) that this is really easy for. it is a lifestyle change. any change is tough. find out what you are made of. you can do this.

[angelawillbethinagain]

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THANK YOU so much to eveyone who has sent me messages to help me and support me!!! I am having a really bad day today and I appreciate all of your encouragement and advice. It really helped me! You are right, everything you all have wrote is true and I know in my heart it is. I feel that way too. I just am so frustrated right now. I have to learn to be in control of my choices and my life. I cannot let food control me. Its partly that I feel Atkins isn't working this time around as I lost 50 pounds in 3 months a couple years ago. Its partly that and its mostly that I just continue to fall off the wagon. I consider myself a pretty strong person. I have been through a lot. I somehow just fall off the wagon and mess up pretty bad and for a period of time. Its not just one temptation that gets me off the wagon. Its more like oh screw it and start eating crap I shouldn't eat and for a period of time. Then I realize I need to get back on my induction... Its a cycle I am having a hard time breaking. I have to lose this weight. I want more than anything in the world to be successful at losing this weight. I know atkins works. I see it everyday on here. I see the stories, the posts, the photos... I don't know why I seem to fail at something I want more than anything!
Thanks again for your support. It means so much to me and has helped me!!

[Discolemonade]

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If you give up what will you have? You'll have nothing to work towards. YOU are the ONLY ONE who can do this for yourself. NOBODY is going to do this for you. You have to make up your mind, do you REALLY want to be able to run in the park with your kids? Is eating crap worth more to you than do that? Get in the right mindset. That's the first step. You HAVE to DO THIS. Or else you are going to probably be miserable for the rest of your life. It REALLY IS EASY once you get through the rough patches. Have faith in yourself. Believe that YES, YOU CAN DO THIS. So many of us have been through what you are feeling and we want you to succeed. Suck it up and DO IT. Tough love but love in all the same. XOXO.

[Brook]

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So??

Let's see those 4 things, Angela.

Talk to us about these things:

1. What you CAN do.
2. What you WILL do.
3. What we can help you with.

[CHUBBRUBBKARA]

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Don't give up girl! I don't care how many times you fall off the wagon, but pick yourself up and get back on. You can do it. You are worth it, you deserve it, your kids deserve it! Now here's a hug Everyone gave you great advice so next time you are having a bad day, come back and reread it. Instead of cheating with food, do something else wreckless instead. I dunno, go out and buy yourself something that you normally wouldn't. Do something silly! (Mind you that I do take my own advice, LOL, if you could only see some of the crazy things I've been doing.) Point is... it is all distracting. Sooo... hang in their kiddo! We are all here with you and I think we ALL pretty much understand what you are going through to one degree or another.

[Bren]

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wow....... our members are the BEST! The responses here are wonderful. I cannot think of much more to add to what has already been said.

One sentence caught my eye Angela......

You name it, is causes me to fail.

We have to figure out the"it". As the "it" is the problem. The "it" is you. Not the world around you, not the things that happen to you, it is only you. We have control over very little in our lives. The one thing we do have TOTAL control over is what we put in our mouths.
Angela........ would you do me a favor? Rewrite your first post, but rewrite it without any negatives. Change every negative thing you said to a positive.
Start loving your self and realizing you ARE SO WORTH THIS!!!!!!! We all see it, now we have to get you to see it.

[jcapulet]

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I know exactly how you feel about the clothes not fitting. This happened to me last week…it’s bad enough they feel tight, but then you have to sit in them all day and yes my tummy was killing me too!

So I figured I have 2 options…1) do nothing and keep gaining; or 2) get back on the wagon.

I’ve fallen off the wagon many times…but you know what? You can always get back on! You have nothing to lose except those pounds, right?

If you get stressed, maybe you can find a non-food related way to cope with stress. Or, do something (food-related) like cook something Atkins friendly that takes some preparation…maybe that will take your mind of things for a bit.

We’re all here for each other…I’ve recently returned to Atkins, so I’d be happy if you’ll come along too!

[Momtofour]

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The thing that always helps me is to not think about the weight loss at all. While it is a nice side effect, my motivation has changed to this; I do not want diabetes like my father and mother in law. Believe me, I have to remind myself this often. Temptations are always going to be around, excuses are always going to be around, and we have to find ways to deal with these situations.

[ThinSoon]

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Angela - do you have the book? Can you keep it in your mind each day by reading a chapter? Read about how good it will be for you, how you will be eating healthy and you will succeed! Better yet, you will succeed because YOU want to, because YOU can!!!

One of the worst things I have allowed myself in the past to do is to think I've gone off, no sense in returning. WRONG OOO!!!! START right back at it! You can never fail if you keep trying!!

Help us to help you, you can do this.

[ThinSoon]

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I never thought of this, but one way we can help..... you say you stock yourself with atkin friendly foods. Let us know what those are and maybe ALL of us can put together options for you! You know, those when you want something times?

Tracey