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  • What a week... whole lot of bad, and this morning, a ray of sunshine.

    Well, this has been one **** of a week, I was laid off on Wednesday VERY unexpectedly and the first call I got on my birthday yesterday was finding out my wife's mother died last night at 3am.

    What kills me about it is that a friend and I were just talking last night about how it's probably time she passed on, it was merciful and she went in her sleep peacefully, but it still made me feel badly for talking about it just hours before she passed.

    So my 8 month pregnant wife now has to get down to southern california immediately, I may need to follow her down for the funeral. It's going to make looking for work a bit tough Not to mention the cost, which isn't going to be small.

    I've already been struggling with some old food issues in the last few days. I really don't understand why I got let go from work, I left a lot of good people behind and a lot of projects unfinished. I've had half a dozen people call me outraged at what happened and it's starting to hit me hard. The last time I got fired I went into a 3 month tailspin with eating, depression and angst, and I'm doing what I can to not go there again. I need to find work quickly, get reestablished as fast as I can.

    It would suck to miss my mother-in-law's funeral. I don't know what to do.

    Despite feeling massive cravings and temptations for the first time since really starting this WOE at the turn of the new year, I haven't given in. I'm being stubborn about it, and my wife and family has been really supportive.

    I got on the scale this morning to a 5 lb loss for the week, which is pretty cool. I'm sure some of it is decreased eating because of all the trauma so I may stall the next couple of weeks, but I really needed a little pickme up.

    What do you fulks do when you need that little boost? (other than read ADBB threads of course)
    Ron, 38 y/o Male 5'11"My WOE blog: http://www.atkinsdietbulletinboard.c...2&page=1&pp=10
    Starting date: 01/19/2008
    Starting Weight: 340
    Current Weight: 288.2
    Goal Weight: 210
    Major Goals and Milestones
    299 (BIG GOAL HERE, April 15, 2008 target) GOAL MET 4/04/2008!
    265 (Previous atkins low!, July 15, 2008 Target)
    249 (Just to be under 250, how good will that be!, September 15, 2008 Target)
    230 (High school wrestling weight, December 1, 2008 Target)
    210 (NAVY WEIGHT! ULTIMATE GOAL!, February 1, 2009 Target)
    Current Challenges:
    CC Fitness Challenge 7/29lbs 1950/4500 minutes
    Spring into Summer Picture Challenge



  • #2
    Re: What a week... whole lot of bad, and this morning, a ray of sunshine.

    I'm really sorry to hear about your wife's mother and about losing your job. Please do try to stick with the WOL because I know from experience that comfort eating at times of stress just makes things worse - another thing to be down about is sugar headaches and regaining weight.

    In order to stick with it, exercise as much as you can fit in, nearly everything seems easier to deal with after a workout, I find.

    A personal one for you could be to stay as fit and healthy as you can for the arrival of your child in a month.

    Best of luck.

    My Journal :rollerska :bouncy: 27 Female 5'7 :redsnoopy

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    • #3
      Re: What a week... whole lot of bad, and this morning, a ray of sunshine.

      When you're feeling overwhelmed and stressed try going for a long walk. It will help calm you do as well as getting excercise in. Kathie






      271/ 214.9/ 150
      started 3/9/08

      Goal 1 259 3/17/08
      Goal 2 249 4/19/08 :D
      Goal 3 239 5/17/08 :D
      Goal 4 229 6/13/08 :D
      Goal 5 219 7/3/08 :D
      Goal 6 209


      :capital:

      2008 How long can you go Challenge-
      so far 1 days cheat free


      Read my journal Atkins Diet - Kathie's journey to a new life

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      • #4
        Re: What a week... whole lot of bad, and this morning, a ray of sunshine.

        Thanks alexa and kathy, I appreciate it. My coach at the MMA gym is going to be checking in on me and my roomate (my son't godfather who's staying with us for a couple of months) is dragging me out of bed every morning at 6am to go swimming, I'm hoping that'll help keep me on track
        Ron, 38 y/o Male 5'11"My WOE blog: http://www.atkinsdietbulletinboard.c...2&page=1&pp=10
        Starting date: 01/19/2008
        Starting Weight: 340
        Current Weight: 288.2
        Goal Weight: 210
        Major Goals and Milestones
        299 (BIG GOAL HERE, April 15, 2008 target) GOAL MET 4/04/2008!
        265 (Previous atkins low!, July 15, 2008 Target)
        249 (Just to be under 250, how good will that be!, September 15, 2008 Target)
        230 (High school wrestling weight, December 1, 2008 Target)
        210 (NAVY WEIGHT! ULTIMATE GOAL!, February 1, 2009 Target)
        Current Challenges:
        CC Fitness Challenge 7/29lbs 1950/4500 minutes
        Spring into Summer Picture Challenge


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        • #5
          Re: What a week... whole lot of bad, and this morning, a ray of sunshine.

          I am sorry to hear about all that has happened. Sometimes, when I feel I am about to break, I do something nice for myself. If it is food that is bothering me, I go out for a really great, legal lunch or dinner.

          I will be thinking about you during this time.



          41yo | F | 5'3" | HW: 250+ | CW: 188.4 | GW: 135

          1st Mini Goal Under 200: Met 2/29/08
          2nd Mini Goal Under 190: Met 5/5/08
          3rd Mini Goal 180: | 4th Mini Goal 170: | 4th Mini Goal 160: | 6th Mini Goal 150:

          I have a goal to be 150 by my birthday

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          • #6
            Re: What a week... whole lot of bad, and this morning, a ray of sunshine.

            oh man i am SO SORRY for what you are going thru. at one point earlier in the year, we thought my husband's company was going to fold and the fear and stress is overwhelming. when i lost my mom suddenly (10 days after my evil ex lefT) again, such fear and stress.

            all i know is that what everyone told me is TRUE....there is something better around the bend. i handle stress oppositely...i CAN'T eat!

            i am glad you are of the stubborn nature. DON"T GIVE IN TO THE OLD HABITS. as bad as you feel now, it will simply make you feel worse.

            use this time to try to refocus, help your wife thru her mom's death, take CARE of yourself....use exercise to release stress, eat well to nurture your body, and try, hard as it is, to focus on the joy of the new baby and your beautiful family.

            this WILL pass. you have every right to be angry about the job and upset about your MIL. don't stuff the feelings. don't FEED the feelings. try really hard to HONOR YOURSELF and all the hard work you have done to make yourself happy and healthy for your family and yourself. i will hold GOOD THOUGHTS that a great new job comes your way and that your wife and her family can deal with the loss of her mom.....and all will be well.

            hang in there friend. you are such an inspiration to so many. BE GOOD TO YOURSELF!





            started atkins 2/18/07
            5'7"........193/150/150

            "it's not having what you want; it's wanting what you've got"
            "you can't control the ocean but you can learn to ride the wave."

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            • #7
              Re: What a week... whole lot of bad, and this morning, a ray of sunshine.

              The job situation really bites! I know you have been right out straight working on some big projects. So WTF~~~just craziness.

              How fortunate that your MIL had a merciful & peaceful death. She was fortunate. It is just ironic that you were talking about this with your friend & of course it wasn't malicious or mean spirited. Please don't feel badly.

              Ask yourself just what is eating carbage going to do for you or to help your current situation? NOT A DAMN THING!!! The food may make you feel good for just a short period of time but then you are going to beat yourself senseless for eating the carbage. Is it really worth it? Is it worth damaging all the progress you have made. Is it worth damaging the mental/spiritual progress you have made? Has turning to food helped you in any positive way~~~I think not. DON'T DO IT!!!

              Right now you need to do is make a plan. You do have so much going on you need a plan of action! More importantly your wife is going to need you 100%. She just lost her mom & she is going to have a baby soon.

              Sending good thoughts your way my friend. Hang on tight to what you have learned during this journey!! Go kick some butt in your MMA class!! Keep us posted please.

              Glenda
              "You always had it. You always had the power."~~ Glinda the Good Witch

              Glenda
              F/5'10/47
              261/xxx/???
              "Happiness is a habit~cultivate it." Elbert Hubbard
              "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results." Albert Einstein

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              • #8
                Re: What a week... whole lot of bad, and this morning, a ray of sunshine.

                Ron, I'm so sorry about your mother-in-law and loosing your job. Don't let food rule your life . Keep focused. Distract yourself and keep a positive attitude. Visualize finding a new employment who will appreciate your work and which will make you happy and content. Keep committed to this WOE and more pounds will come off. You can do it! Sending you lots of warm wishes and thoughts!

                Salima aka "Swiss Miss"
                F / 37 / 5' 2"
                "Losing really slowly.... but losing"

                Re-Re-Re-Start Date: 04/01/2010
                SW: 117.2 kg | CW: 113.4 kg
                Mini-Goal 1: 107 kg by 06/30/2010
                Mini-Goal 2: 95 kg by 10/17/2010 (my B-Day)

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                • #9
                  Re: What a week... whole lot of bad, and this morning, a ray of sunshine.

                  OK all the bad stuff needs to leave Rons' life..NOW!! Wow, I'm sorry you've got so much stress in your life- but GREAT JOB on turning away from temptations- thats a great step-

                  How about gardening? I go out to my garden in times of stress- I get lost in my seedlings- watching and waiting for my vegies to shoot up in anticipation of supporting my woe-
                  Wife to Chris ( who is HOME!!!! :<))
                  Mommy to: Katie,Kayla,Kennedy Grace, and finally my prince Cruz

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                  • #10
                    Re: What a week... whole lot of bad, and this morning, a ray of sunshine.

                    You're doing great, dealing with everything. To be honest I'd mope. I wouldn't eat my heart out or anything, but I would just lay in bed and take some time to myself. Of course, I also don't have the financial responsibilities that you may have.

                    I would say go outside, it's sunny out now that it's spring. Let the sunshine hit your face and try to stay positive, you're doing great




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                    • #11
                      Re: What a week... whole lot of bad, and this morning, a ray of sunshine.

                      Wow. That is quite a lot... all I can do is tell you for myself that there were times when the ONLY thing I could control was my eating and movement, and once I framed it that way, it helped. I can't control my boss, or my ex, or my dad ignoring his cancer treatment or my kids growing up way too fast, or the bills that have to happen somehow...but it is my choice, and only my choice, to put the chocolate or the celery in my cart, and in my mouth.

                      Sometimes, when it feels like everything is spiralling, that helps. I CAN control this one thing, and work on the rest as it comes.

                      My prayers with your family...
                      k
                      278/275/271/160


                      Earth is crammed with heaven,
                      And every common bush afire with God,
                      But only he who sees, takes off his shoes.
                      Elizabeth Barrett Browning



                      Daily Goals:
                      No wasted carbs.
                      Water intake .5 -1 gallon.
                      Exercise 60 minutes 5x week
                      Get in the right veggies.

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