Anyone else sleep with a "chubby chaser"?

[Petra Star]

Hello all,

I'm a STAC-er and originally set my goal weight on FitDay to just inside the healthy range at 145lbs; however, I made the mistake of mentioning that number to my fiance of 8 years.

Long story short, he is of the opinion that that weight is way too skinny and he would like me to only get down to 180lbs. He's one of those rare breed of men who has always found the short, fat girls to be sexy. (He's 6' and was thin as a whippet for most of his life. Go figure!) Nothing gets his salivary glands pumping more than "tig bitties" and a whole lotta "junk in the trunk".

So I reset my goal to 180, but I'm not sure I'm happy with myself for copping out like that. Granted I have a ways to go before I get down to 180, so for now I can bury this bone of contention in the backyard and let it finely age, but eventually I'm going to have to dig it up again.

I was wondering if any of you have had to deal with this type of situation and how you chose to deal with it. I have no doubt in my mind that he will always love me no matter what I weigh (he's not that shallow) and I don't worry about him leaving me for a chunkier chickie, but I have to admit to myself that I am afraid when I drop the weight he won't desire me as much. Right now our intimate life is very good, with plenty of affection and lots of those happy little O-things that send you to work with a smile on your face.

Have any of you purposefully set your goal weight significantly higher than what the charts tell you is "healthy" in order to still be attractive to your life long mate?

Thanks for the input,
~Petra~

[theredhead]

Re: Anyone else sleep with a "chubby chaser"?

I would think it would be best to just take it one pound at a time and not worry about the future. Just don't discuss your goal with him. If you're happy with yourself, I bet he won't complain.

[PaulaMM]

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Sorry, but your post gave me a giggle.

I don't know if I could call my dearest hubby a chubby chaser as he met me in when I was thin but I can tell you, even at 240lbs, this man of mine has always had a hard time keeping his hands to himself.


He has always said "Real men like meat; bones are for dogs.", and finds most models and actresses way too skinny. Damn, I love this man o'mine.


It's my opinion that you should evaluate how you feel at 180lbs. You may find that it is a good weight and good look for you. Look at all those plussed sized lingerie models and tell me that a toned and tight 180lb woman can't be sexy as all get out!

However, I think if you decide at that point that you want to go further and would feel better about yourself and be healthier at a smaller weight, than you should do what your heart tells you. You are the only one that has to live inside your skin. You said yourself that your SO would love you no matter what size. Show him that you are your smoking hot sexy self no matter what size and you'll keep that man panting after you. I think most men are attracted to how a woman presents herself than anything else.

Now, go kiss that sweetheart of yours for being so supportive!

[2BME]

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I know that we all have to pick a number, to select a goal weight, but for my money, I just lost weight until I was happy with what size I became.

My husband was more of a saboteur. I think he was secretly scared that if I lost weight I would be noticed by other men and he would always offer to take me for ice cream, etc. I was strong and I like the way I look now. So does my hubby.

Just do this for you!

[gman]

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I agree with taking one pound at a time. Plus...I'd say that for every pound you lose, find a way to invest in your relationship.

[ImREADYImREADY]

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Why is it that the 8 years Fiance is what sticks out to me?, tell that man to set a date or your gonna get to 120....lol

[momtomany1]

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My hubby is a skinny, and met me when I was a size 10, and proceeded to take me out to eat all the time! When he sees really skinny women, he comments someone needs to feed her! But he is good with my weight loss, as long as, to quote him, 'you aren't doing it the wrong way by not eating.'

I agree with what Paula wrote. A fit curvy woman can be very, very hot. It is so much in the 'tude, anyway!

ImReady, that is hilarious.. but has a ring to it! (or needs to, anyway!)

[Petra Star]

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TheRedHead: Thank you. I am such a worry wart, always trying to prepare today for whatever could bite me in the arse tomorrow.

PaulaMM: I have decided, for now at least, to leave my goal at 180 and will re-evaluate my feelings when I get there. And yes, he does love the look of the plus-sized lingerie models. He shows me pictures sometimes and says, "You'd look really good in that, let me buy it for you." But it's so hard for me to see myself through his eyes and I end up emphatically declining such purchases. Thanks for the encouraging words!

2BME: Good for you, sticking to your guns like that! I think if other men started checking me out, my man would just stand there with a grin so big the top of his head would be in danger of sliding off because he know who's taking me home.

gman: Has anyone told you that you look just like George Clooney now? Only I think George's neck is fatter, so you look better.

ImREADYImREADY: LOL! Well, between the two of us we have 3 divorces between us because we both get married WAY too quickly. So this time around the pendulum has swung far over to the other side and we're taking it at a snail's pace. For for the last 7 years, we've been living together as man-and-wife with all the accouterments like shared debt and 6 hirsute children who have not yet learned to walk upright or speak intelligibly. Although he has added, "You get down to 180 and I'll set a date and start calling caterers" to my list of incentives.

momtomany1: Sadly it's going to need a new ring. I've lost enough weight so that my current slides off my ring finger with the barest nudge. I have to wear it on my middle finger now for fear of losing it.

[Melodious1]

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My hubby is not having an issue with my goal weight, as he is not necessarily a chubby chaser. However, he is having MAJOR issues with my rapidly decreasing breasts! I am having major issues myself, for that matter! My boobs are already small, especially for my weight, so they are the last thing I need to lose. Unfortunately, they have been the first to go! *Sniff, sniff*

Of course, I am willing to lose the boobs to reach my goal. Studpid tradeoffs!

Melodious1

[gman]

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Hey don't worry too much about what you lose with Atkins, you'll never lose with a big smile and a bigger heart!

BTW - lol it is George in both pictures. He had to gain and lose over 30 lbs. for a movie and those are his before and after pictures. It's a good vision for me. Sting is another.

[Sugar_Ant87]

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I have no doubt this man really loves you. So I know all he truley cares about is your happiness. My bf is the same way when it comes to other guys looking at me.

Funny story actually. We worked together before we started dating. I was with his friend before him and I started talking. At that time I was 60 lbs heavier than I am now. I had only lost about 10 lbs before his friend and I split up and him and I started talking. Since then him and I have been together and I dropped another 50 lbs. He loves when I come into his work to drop him and the guys off some coffee when they have to make it through a long night. When they all look at me with big eyes as to how much I have lost and how I am changing (especially my ex) he just grins ear to ear and pulls me close to him. I believe he sometimes just does that to prove a point to my ex who constantly threw jabs at him that I would never go for him.

How your fiance is about your weight is how mine is about my legs. I've never had a problem with my legs being out of shape since I played softball for 10 years. Most of my 5'9 frame is my legs. Which makes me laugh hysterically when I think of him sitting at a bit over 5'5. What can I say though... I love my short little man =)

[wiara17]

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hello! i have to tell you guys, i have been lurking around here for quite some time, but i had to reply to this! i am at my highest weight ever at present, and have explained to my boyfriend that i am going to start atkins again, and do it right because i would like to see myself at my personal healthiest weight which was around 150-160. he almost fell off his chair because he too likes to have a little meat on his women! i explained to him, and afterwards he agreed and was supportive, that we are going to be married, and i would like more of a variety when it comes to picking a dress (in the salons i have gone to of the 1000s of dresses 5 were in my size and looked like they were from 1983...) that being the lesser of important points i was making to him, other than that, i would like to be off of blood pressure medication and be at a way healthier weight when we decide to have a baby as the extra weight (according to my doctor) would cause me to have a more diffuclt time getting pregnant and cause much much stress on my body and the baby...sorry for the ramble! but when i explained all of this to him (in greater detail!!!! ) he was able to understand some more and said he would be supportive no matter what my goal weight was as long as i was healthy and happy! hope this helped somewhat! good luck to you!!