Pissed off and frustrated.....

[jroche5998]

Anne,

I have been having the same issues. Almost like what I've done so far is "good enough" when it simply isn't. When people give the compliments and say the nice things it's great. And then they are shocked when I say I want to lose 90 more. They think I'm nuts. But through the years one of the worst things anyone could say to me was that it looked like I was losing weight. Whether I had or not didn't matter, they thought I looked good, so that was a ticket to chow down.

Partial success is not good enough, only total success is. And that is what I keep trying to tell myself, every single day.

"Failure is not an option."

[dreamof145]

Anne,

I understand how you feel. I am going through something similiar right now. I haven't lost any weight for the past month and half. I haven't gained any, but nonetheless, I am not losing as I was.

At times it frustrates me, but I have been trying to be positive about this mode of my journey. I think that the excitement is not as strong as it was. Instead of having people say I won't make it, (which used to make me angry and more determined).. I now have people telling me that I am fine where I am now and don't need to lose more.

Lately instead of being upset when I don't see the scale change, I am feeling blessed that I am maintaining and not gaining. Maybe this is a lesson I need to learn at this time.

Once I've conquered the ability to stay at a certain weight, it might be easier for me when I reach goal to not gain it back. Anyways, I am accepting this as part of the plan and when my body is ready to take on a greater weight-loss, then it will happen. In the meantime, I'm enjoying being 100 pounds less than I was this time last year.

I hope this makes sense.

[MotherNature]

Anne.....I think I am in the exact same fix that you are. After so much success, I am now stalled due to not being able to eat "cleanly" like I was for so long. I am not gaining because I am not "stuffing oreos down my face" like someone suggested, but I am not losing either. I have gone into maintenance mode whether that is what I want to do or not. Part of my problem is that I have always hated (absolute loathed is a better word) to cook. After a year of cooking Atkins friendly dishes, I am just totally sick of cooking. So we eat out a lot and it is so easy to have small cheats when eating out. Also we are in so much better health and so much smaller than we were over a year ago that it is hard to get as motivated as we were then. I could live with myself at this size for the rest of my life, but I really don't want to. I do want to reach goal and hopefully I will be able to eventually dig deep and find the motivation to continue onward and downward. Here's hoping we both find the motivation we need.

Cathy

[softnred]

:hug :hug :hug :hug :hug :hug :hug :hug :hug

Anne, everyone was so eloquent that there isn't anything new I could add...except a hug!!

[Firemedic mom]

Thank you all again. I have some thinking to do now.....I don't know how to solve the problem, but at least I now know what the problem is.

I actually found myself lying to my dh yesterday, he mentioned offhand that he saw me eating more carbs (although not, as someone mentioned, stuffing my face w/oreos <g>)....and I said something to the effect of now that I"m doing more weight-lifting, I need more carbs. It was the dumbest thing I'd ever said in my life. But I don't want to disappoint him, he's been so proud lately of my weight loss and accomplishments after not noticing for so long!

Anne

[spbphil]

"If you do what you did, you get what you got."

"If you do what you did, you get what you got."

I think this is an old saying, but it sure helps me remember why I need to stick with good eating habits. "Normal" eating made me fat and also caused/contributed to sleep apnea.

(I don't mind using CPAP (but wish I didn't have to lug it along every time I travel), and I hope that weight loss will overcome the sleep apnea problem.)

[LyssaRene]

Try taking up reading. Reading is what I have been doing when it is late in the evening and I have the urge to cruise the kitchen. I grab a bottle of water and my book. By the time I troll, I am full cause of the water.

It is great you found the trigger so you can be aware of it. Now, just avoid it.