OT - Update on letter to my parents

[RunAwayMichelle]

Last month I wrote a letter to my parents acusing them both of being abusers and asking for them to stop their abuse and apologise or to stay out of my life. It was the hardest letter I have ever written and I have been worried about their reactions. Well a few days ago I got an Easter card which started with "We will respect your wishes" then they wrote how they would pray for me.

So now I know their reaction. I guess they would rather not speak to me then face up to what I said. I'm sad that I mean so little to them that they will not fight to save our relationship. I guess "our relationship" was all in my head and to them I am not really very important.

Walking away from them is getting easier. I'm so thankful for all the rest of my family and all of my friends including everyone at ha

I've had lots of stumbles this month but no serious binges and I'm back on the wagon today.

[Katlam]

Michelle--I'm sorry they couldn't make the effort for you. You are important and it's their loss. Too bad for them.

You are special.

Kathy

[Christina]

What a shame, honestly. Parents are funny sometimes, I think no matter what age.

Too bad for them

Agreed. There's only so much you can do, u did your part, it's time for them to do theirs :hug

[Laurenfra]

Michelle remember you are a precious and beautiful lady, This is their loss :hug

[fivebyfive]

yes its their loss.

I do not know the extent of the abuse and I am not trying to make excuses but could it be they did not consider it abuse. Some individuals only consider it abuse if it is violently hitting someone or extreme actions. Whereas others consider abuse simply yelling. but regardless I think they should have still called u and said lets talk about this. :hug

[Lady_Hawke]

You are a strong woman and as everyone has said, it is their loss.
Isn't there an old saying about how you can't pick your relatives but you can pick your friends? Well unfortunately we can't pick our parents either. What you did took courage and its going to make a positive change in your life.....weeding out the people who treat you bad and don't respect you is the best thing you can do for yourself. :hug
Surround yourself with family and friends who love you and respect you and care about you....like your CC Family! :hug We are here for you! :yes

[mrslee44]

Sorry I don't know your story, and I've decided to remove my post.

Best of luck to you.


Robin

[ztachick]

not a lot to say as everyone has given you good advie- just wanted to give you a :hug and tell you that you are a very stong and couragous woman- things happen for a reason, and you will get through this

[softnred]

:hug :hug :hug :hug :hug :hug :hug :hug I'm so proud of you for taking care of YOU and doing what you needed to.

Ya know, it could be that it's not that your parents think so little of you. It could be that they are so set in their unhealthy ways that they're reacting the only way they know how. It could be that you have nothing to do with it.

But in any case....I'm proud of you, and we're all here for you!!!

~JoAnne

[Deflating Diva]

:hug
Deflating Diva

[RunAwayMichelle]

My parents are verbal abusers and they will not change. I'm the one who needed to stop expecting them to change.

Taking control of my life is part of my atkins program. Learning to control my food has made it easier to see other areas of my life that I needed to take control of.

Thank you for the support and hugs

[Christina]

Taking control of my life is part of my atkins program. Learning to control my food has made it easier to see other areas of my life that I needed to take control of.

Isn't that so great? Congratulations on finding your path! :hug

[Laurenfra]

Duh! I can be so slow, there is a great book called Boundries. I use it sometime when counceling. It helps us see where we should put up our emotional fences and how to keep them up.