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  • #1

    A setback already?

    Ugh. I feel so terrible about myself.

    My boyfriend and I have recently been going through rough times. Yesterday, he surprised me by having flowers, a teddy bear, and a significantly-sized box of chocolates delivered to me.

    I told myself I would not touch the chocolates. I'd have my mom give them to her coworkers or keep them in the back of the freezer. But the stress got to me. Not to mention TOM. So I weakly gave in last night. I ate quite a few pieces actually, around ten or so. I feel so horrible.

    I was doing so well. I had gone from 165 to 160 in three days. Now I'm back to almost 162.

    I don't want to give up again. I don't want to fail at this WoE. I wish I could just pick myself up and forget about it, but I feel so awful. I feel like I can never forgive myself for slipping up.
    "Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin."



    24/f 5'8"

    start date : 10 - 05 - 08

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    Re: A setback already?

    Kittie- I understand what you're saying, but you're not going to benefit in any way, shape or form by coming down so hard on yourself. You can't change what happened, but you can certainly grab the bull by the horns and make sure that the next decision is a GOOD one, and the one after that, and the one after that.

    You messed up. You know you messed up. So? Make sure it doesn't happen again and start by getting rid of the chocolate!! 2nd? Forgive yourself. 3rd? Tell your man that you love what he did for you, but please next time keep it to the flowers and teddy bear.

    It's okay to be human - but it's important to remember how this mistake has made you feel and remember that you *DO* have the ultimate control over everything you put in your mouth. Remember it. Learn from it. Move on. It's all we can really do, right?

    We're right here and we believe in you. Now it's your turn

    I wish you success.
    ~Brook

    My Melting Page: A Picture Diary and Misc Other Stuff

    Highest Weight: 243lbs

    Atkineer since May 2002!!

    *****************************************


    General rule of thumb for success: If it requires a degree in chemical engineering to pronounce it, you probably shouldn't eat it.

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    • #3
      Re: A setback already?

      Amen to what Brook said. Guilt and self-flaggelation will only lead to feeling bad, which you may attempt to resolve by comfort eating, or "I messed up anyway so it doesnt really matter what I eat today"...

      Stop the cycle. You are STRONG and WONDERFUL.. and human. You slipped, not nosedived, (I prob would have eaten the whole box, no joke, and then stayed in a funk, eating whatever for days - been there, have done it), you are WORTH picking yourself up and moving on.

      If a child, for example, set his cup at the edge of the table, after he had been told not to, and then knocked it over, would you stand there and tell him how bad he was for days, or even hours? Cant do it to yourself, either,,, clean up the mess and move on.

      Only a big deal if you let it hurt you more.

      (((HUGS)))
      278/275/271/160


      Earth is crammed with heaven,
      And every common bush afire with God,
      But only he who sees, takes off his shoes.
      Elizabeth Barrett Browning



      Daily Goals:
      No wasted carbs.
      Water intake .5 -1 gallon.
      Exercise 60 minutes 5x week
      Get in the right veggies.

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      • #4
        Re: A setback already?

        Kittie, forgive yourself!!! We are only human and truth be told, lots of us slip up on occasion. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on. Know that you CAN do this!!!! And in return for that great gesture of love from your BF, make him a nice steak dinner Perfectly legal.

        This is supposed to be a way of life for us, so look at it like that and move past it. You are in this for the long haul, so one mistake is not going to be the end for you.


        F, 28
        5'8"

        Re-Start Date: January 25, 2009

        SW:300
        CW:295
        GW: 180

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        • #5
          Re: A setback already?

          All I can add to the already great advice you were given is this, we are human and we slip, some more than others. (eek) But we started this forum for those of us who needed an extra hand up, and lots of encouragement rather than backlashings. We are your support system, and you just get right back where you were. The water weight gain will be gone in 3 days, 2 if you drink your water like crazy! {{HUG}} Oh and about those little nuggets of POO in the pretty choc box...a good dose of dish soap on them in the garbage can will do the trick nicely.




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          • #6
            Re: A setback already?

            Originally posted by Kittie
            I don't want to give up again. I don't want to fail at this WoE. I wish I could just pick myself up and forget about it, but I feel so awful. I feel like I can never forgive myself for slipping up.
            You haven't failed until you quit trying. Just pick yourself up and start over again, one minute, one hour, one day at a time. You already know which choices to make for this WOE and if you are tempted, come to us and we will help you through it. You will be surprized at all the help you get here. Just scream and we will come running or typing frantically.

            Don't be so hard on yourself. We have all been there. That is why we are back here in STAC. Believe in yourself!!!
            Linda


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            • #7
              Re: A setback already?

              Dish soap and THEN in the garbage... you must know (someone like me) too well!
              278/275/271/160


              Earth is crammed with heaven,
              And every common bush afire with God,
              But only he who sees, takes off his shoes.
              Elizabeth Barrett Browning



              Daily Goals:
              No wasted carbs.
              Water intake .5 -1 gallon.
              Exercise 60 minutes 5x week
              Get in the right veggies.

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              • #8
                Re: A setback already?

                Thank you all so much for responding and encouraging me. The chocolates are gone now, and I worked out at the gym for over an hour today, feeling great afterwards. Fair compensation, I think!
                "Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin."



                24/f 5'8"

                start date : 10 - 05 - 08

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                • #9
                  Re: A setback already?

                  Keep on keeping on Kittie

                  The important thing is that you got right back on and havent let it fall into a huge binge. You did good!

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                  • #10
                    Re: A setback already?

                    Great job getting back on track Kittie!!


                    F, 28
                    5'8"

                    Re-Start Date: January 25, 2009

                    SW:300
                    CW:295
                    GW: 180

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                    • #11
                      Re: A setback already?

                      Don't beat yourself up Kittie...Just get back on the WOE....and move on ..its ok we have all given in to temptation one time or another...Just remember how u felt from here on out the next time those cravings hit...
                      Induction Started: 7/18/05
                      229/*215*/160
                      Mini Goal: 210 by 8-22-05



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