Hugs for Finelly

[ShannonK]

Poor, Finelly.

I hate to see you so down and out. You have always been my true inspiration. You know, I love my Mom, but I am not close to the rest of her side of the family. I had to make a decision a few years ago that they are not good for me and my children. It was a very difficult decision, but I cut them out completely. I do feel guilty on occassion, but I know that I am happier and healthier because of it. I am not suggesting that you cut out your Mom. I would never do that, but you have nothing to feel guilty about. You have to look out for you and your children! In any case, please hang in there. This too shall pass. We love you!

[Sarah1341]

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[Finelly]

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I'm moved to tears by the support I am getting from you guys. I cannot tell you how much it is helping me!!! I feel completely ensconced in a little nest of support and encouragement! Don't stop! PLEASE!

My dh and my ex are both being extremely supportive too, and they are getting together to make sure my mom can't get at me without someone else present. Same for the kids.

I am going to be very good to myself today. I'm about to take a long, hot soak in the tub and then eat something yummy.

I have cut off relations with my mom in the past, for up to 2 years, and I am willing to do it again if she crosses certain lines. This is not a normal family situation..........but I won't jump the gun! I'm more important to myself than that!!!!

[ShannonK]

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Good for you for being so strong. Pamper yourself today. Think of how much you will love and respect yourself when you get through this hurdle and come through stronger than ever. Don't let anyone beat you up. You know what kind of woman you are! The kind that we like, certainly. The kind of woman you like, too!!

[Terry]

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Here's another

[Sarah1341]

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Finelly, it is so great that you have such a support system in your family!! Hold on to that and us these next few days!!!! Enjoy your soak and know that you will come through this. You hold the power in this situation. If your mother wants a continuing relationship with you, she needs to play on your terms. At the start of any situation, just be up front and honest as possible. Then, when she leaves you will know that you did the right thing. You gave her a chance, you were honest with her and that is all you can do.

More hugs being sent your way!!

[knicknack]

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we all love you hear finelly, and we think you're great. If you need a reminder of that when she's in town, just log on and we'll tell you again.

[Starmaker]

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Fin I am lighting a special candle for you today. I use candles to bring peace and harmony to my life, and those around me I care about. I hope you PM me if you need me. I am always here to talk to. {{HUG}}

[Weighless]

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One from me too!!

And know if at any time she is getting to you....we are here....just a mouse click away.

[Finelly]

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Update:

I have bathed, facialled, shaved my legs, straightened my hair, put on makeup, slathered myself in Orange Blossom lotion (not in this order, mind you!) received a bunch of private messages and answered them, smoked a LOT of cigarettes, and eaten.

When my blood sugar goes down, I tend to get anxious, so I have to remember to eat regularly. In the last couple of days, my appetite has been nil, so I may have let the blood sugar vaccilate too much and that is why when I woke up I was a wreck. (no, I don't have hypoglycemia or diabetes, but I know from experience that low blood sugar affects my MOOD).

I still feel like crap, but not like I am going to lose control and be driven to the assylum for a "rest cure", lol.

You guys are the BEST. Keep posting, please, and I will check in later!

[ShannonK]

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Finelly, I know you are on the West Coast, right? So, you are probably still asleep, but check in when you can. I am in Orlando and already thinking about ya!

[Sarah1341]

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How are you doing today Finelly?

[Bill]

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Finelly, I'm sorry you're having family troubles


You hang in there kiddo

[kbuchs]

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Finelly,
I must have missed the thread where you talk about what is going on with your mother or even if you didn't- I just want to let you know that you have been there for me a couple times already- so, you're right do what you have to too take care of yourself because you're obviously such a giving, caring person that deserves more than this. To ditto everyone else- you need us, we're here!

[speedygt03]

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Finelly,
I hope everything works out for you. I dont know the situation but heres a little something for ya.......


and how about another...........

ok one more.....