Hey, You, LURKER!!

[Desertthorn]

I know there are some of you out there who are mad at yourself for falling off the wagon, gaining some pounds back and feeling depressed because you can't get back on track. I know there is at least one out there cause you PMed me today and told me how you were feeling. Depressed
Well, this forum, STAC is for you and we need you to join us and help us, help you help us, if you know what I mean. Its okay if you are having problems getting back on Induction, its okay if exercise is failing, its okay if you haven't gotten all your water in today. The first step is to come back and start a thread right here, or in Journals or in CC and tell us how your feeling, we'll have a good long group hug and then dust it off and get our butts going in the right direction.
So it this is you, come out and play, we're waiting for you.....

[goin2Bgood]

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I second Desertthorn's invitation. I know how you feel, and I've been there too. I lost over 50 pounds my first time around. I went off (long story blah blah just excuses anyway) and it was hard coming back but I'm doing it. Now I'm down 60 pounds, so at this point I'm at my lowest in 20 years. There are still hard days but I can honestly say this feels better than anything else I've ever done

And Peter, if you're lurking, get your bottom back here. I miss youuuu.

[Brook]

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I'll 3rd the invite!

C'mon and introduce yourselves

[Weighless]

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I'll fourth it! Been there done it...lurked for quite a while after falling off the wagon last time. Too embarassed to post here that I had failed. I should of known everyone would of helped me pick up the pieces and start over again.

Soooo come all you lurkers....no one here will judge you for falling off and being human. We've all been there!

[**Nikki**]

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Hey, no need to lurk anylonger. STAC is the perfect place for anybody who desire to get back with the ANA. You can do it!!! We all have!! And if we can do it, trust us you can too!! Welcome and don't be shy.

[roshan362]

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OK,OK , Im here!! (heads hanging low in shame )but im back... mainly due to lynnes(deserthorn) kind words of support and encouragement i must add.

Fell off... gained...felt disgusted,a failure,embarrassed to fess up...you know the score,but i finally dragged my butt back up and am rareing to go...again

sharon

[Kittie]

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I have the inclination to lurk...

I want to be a part of this, but at the same time, I have an anxiety of being judged.

My insecurity about my weight started when I was as young as eleven or twelve. All thoroughout my teenage years, I told myself I'd lose the weight. It didn't happen.

I'm twenty-one now, and I've never felt confident about myself. I'm always pre-occupied with how people see me, and what people think when I'm out and about. Always trying to cover up. I could never be the center of attention.

I feel as if my life is passing by, and that if this continues, I'll always regret not being able to enjoy these years and make the most of them. It's been over a year since I first attempted Atkins and I'm only a few pounds lighter.

I feel like I have no self-discipline. I cheated again today. This has to stop... I feel so ashamed. But I'm determined.... I can't put this off anymore. I need to lose the weight. So I'm supposed to be a week into induction, but I'm restarting tomorrow -- yet again.

And that's my story, for now.

[Spikette]

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I used to be a "Lurker"....then finally joined "STAC"...it's been a great help and has made things easier...if there is an easier....

Welcome back Sharon...and Kittie...no one on this board judges...only here to help so keep posting

[Terry]

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Sharon and Kittie

So glad you came out of lurkdom and joined us. Honestly, I think it is coming here this time around that has made a difference in what my outcome will be. More than the resources that are found is ..... the support of the people who choose to come and stay ....... thru thick and thin <pun intended> makes all the difference in the world when you open yourself up to it.

We are all pretty familiar with the depressed, disgusted and the worrying about life passing us by. But there is light at the end of that tunnel.

Welcome to the family!
<group hug>

[**Nikki**]

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I have the inclination to lurk...

I want to be a part of this, but at the same time, I have an anxiety of being judged.

My insecurity about my weight started when I was as young as eleven or twelve. All thoroughout my teenage years, I told myself I'd lose the weight. It didn't happen.

I'm twenty-one now, and I've never felt confident about myself. I'm always pre-occupied with how people see me, and what people think when I'm out and about. Always trying to cover up. I could never be the center of attention.

I feel as if my life is passing by, and that if this continues, I'll always regret not being able to enjoy these years and make the most of them. It's been over a year since I first attempted Atkins and I'm only a few pounds lighter.

I feel like I have no self-discipline. I cheated again today. This has to stop... I feel so ashamed. But I'm determined.... I can't put this off anymore. I need to lose the weight. So I'm supposed to be a week into induction, but I'm restarting tomorrow -- yet again.

And that's my story, for now.

Kittie you remind me of myself so much, especially when I was your age. Don't be anxious about coming here, you know its mind over matter. The hardest thing I had to get over was caring about what other people thought about me, today I don't care at all how they view me because I can view them too and not see anything cute about them, nobody is above nobody in this world.

Don't beat yourself up about what you should've, could've, would've done. Everything happens for a reason and I look at it like this, everything happens for a reason, you never know how things could've turned out if you lost the weight back then. You could've attracted some psycho, you could've ended up being at the wrong place at the wrong time, etc... I mean you're so young and full of life and don't have that much weight to lose, you will lose the weight, just believe in yourself!! Know that you deserve to look how you want to look. Because when you're not happy about you its hard I know, so that's why you're on the ANA to fix things.

Whoopie Goldberg said something that made me change my mind, I'll never forget this. She used to be a drug addict (herion) and she decided to clean up her life and get it together! She got clean and pursued comedy and someone asked her about if she worried about what people think of her, in how she used to be on drugs heavily. She said, "If I worry about what people thought about me, I would hide myself in the house. If that's the case then everybody would be hiding in their houses, because we all have something that we did that we're ashamed of."

Just keep trying that's all you can do, I got sick and tired of being sick and tired, you sound like you are too. I really appreciate you opening up .

[Kittie]

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Oh, Nikki.

That was really sweet of you to post. I truly appreciate your support. It's inspiring to know that you got over obsessing what people think, and I just hope I can eventually adopt that kind of attitude.

And yeah, I do believe that things happen for a reason. You're religious, so you may or may not have heard this story, but I'd like to share it, because you reminded me of it:

Two traveling angels stopped to spend the night in the home of a wealthy family. The family was rude and refused to let the angels stay in the mansion's guest room. Instead the angels were given a small space in the cold basement. As they made their bed on the hard floor, the older angel saw a hole in the wall and repaired it. When the younger angel asked why, the older angel replied, "Things aren't always what they seem." The next night the pair came to rest at the house of a very poor, but very hospitable farmer and his wife. After sharing what little food they had the couple let the angels sleep in their bed so they could have a good night's rest. When the sun came up the next morning the angels found the farmer and his wife in tears. Their only cow, whose milk had been their sole income, lay dead in the field.

The younger angel was infuriated and asked the older angel how could you have let this happen? The first man had everything, yet you helped him, she accused. The second family had little but was willing to share everything, and you let their only source of sustenance die.

"Things aren't always what they seem," the older angel replied. "When we stayed in the basement of the mansion, I noticed there was gold stored in that hole in the wall. Since the owner was so obsessed with greed and unwilling to share his good fortune, I sealed the wall so he would not find it. Then last night as we slept in the farmer's bed, the angel of death came for his wife. I gave him the cow instead."

Things aren't always what they seem.

Sometimes that is exactly what happens when things don't turn out the way they should. Have faith and trust that everything happens for a reason. And many times things work out to your benefit which you might not find out until some time later.

Whenever I'm upset about something happening or something not happening, I can't help but think of that story.

And you're right about me being with you on being sick and tired of being sick and tired. I'm not going to give up... and I have no doubts you can do this too. This forum is a godsend, and it's so wonderful that we have each other to rely on. Thanks again for your kind words.

[Terry]

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Nikki

What a great post! Wisdom comes with age.... as does not caring what others think. It just takes some of us longer than others. And it is a hard lesson to learn.

Kittie, I have gotten that story in an email message before and it is on of my favorites. Thanks for sharing it with everyone. You can do this. You are stronger than you realize!

[**Nikki**]

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Hey Kittie that was soooo nice and touching. Thanks for sharing that wonderful story, makes you think, and I will keep it forever. That's what we're here for to uplift one another.