Let's talk Struggles

[cleochatra]

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Boy, you are really bummed aren't you? {{{Terry}}} You know you're my snazzy Terrybeans! If you need any oomphies, here's my email address. cleochatra2000@yahoo.com

You can do it!

[ShannonK]

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Cleo, I know you get this all the time, but you are truly sent from God to us here. When I feel down, I look for your posts. I cannot believe how much weight you have lost and how upbeat you are. You are an outstanding motivator and truly a friend. Glad to know ya!

[cleochatra]

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Shannon, that is such an amazing thing for you to say! Seriously, while you bless me, I'm nobody special. I'm just someone who's in the same boat as all of us are, and we're all struggling through this together!

If I could count all the blessings I receive daily, from reading struggles and seeing your successes as you overcome them, you'd find that I'm the one who's truly blessed.

Thanks for all that you are to me.

{{{Shannon}}}

[ladyhairg]

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My problem time is any time I am awake. I know that I am facing 40 and nearing 300 lbs. and that I will probably die from weight-related causes if I don't turn things around. I know that I am an embarrassment to my children and to my husband because of my enormous size. Even my sisters and aunts have turned their backs on me in disgust because of my complete and total lack of self-control. Clients come into the salon and hand me diet books and brochures on bariatric surgery. Everyone seems to know the answer to my problem but me.

And this still doesn't motivate me?! I don't know what's the matter with me! It's almost as if I'm afraid of what will happen if I actually stick to a program and get slim and healthy. Anyone would think I like being this way. Honestly, all the soul-searching in the world doesn't seem to help right now. I start every day with the best of intentions and I last anywhere from 5 minutes to 5 hours . . . and then I blow it.

Actually, I do know one of the problems: Money. It's a lot cheaper to feed a family of 4 on things like tater tot casserole and mac & cheese than to give them and myself healthy stuff like grilled chicken and hamburger patties. Say what you want, meat is expensive! Eggs are cheap, but we're getting tired of quiche for supper.

[cleochatra]

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Awww, you're rationalizing, with the money thing. It's cheaper to feed the family dog food, too, but you aren't going to do that.

Our kids have been cursed with the same blood sugar issues we had as kids, so we should be training them to eat to their blood sugar now, rather than perpetuating the cycle. I had to stop with the tater tots. When I did, they became more attentive, better students, less prone to mood swings and depression. It's worth it!

I used to weigh 325, and it wasn't until I went to the Dr with chest pains that I had a major slap in the face. I want to live a long time for my kids. My mom died when I was 13 and my dad when I was 27. I want to be around for them for much longer.

You will do wonderfully on this way of eating. Stop with all the rationalizations already. Just do it! You know you can. Deal with the issues of esteem as you go. But don't keep up with the self-oppression because you just don't feel worthy enough for the weight loss! You are worthy! Even if you yourself don't believe it.

Look into the faces of those little children and say that to them you're not worth it.

[buddinbuddin]

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You asked for it Cleo! LOL

What's been the toughest for you lately?

Are you tired a certain time of the day and your defenses are down so you eat the candy bar?

My problem is the evenings...I'm used to munching while watching TV. I've been horrible this week...It started on Sunday. My BF had a bag of cookies...I got one out smelled it, decided I didn't want it, and put it back in the bag. Next thing I know I've eaten 4 of them!!! And these aren't small cookies! Monday I did okay...but Tuesday I attacked the peanut butter...And last nigh I had some sunflower seeds and some peanut butter and part of a candy corn!!!!..I've got to get myself under control!!!

Do you feel frustrated and overwhelmed and just think "Who cares"?

Yes! I find myself rationalizing the peanut butter...Oh...a couple tablespoons only has 4 carbs...yeah right! Doom!

Is the problem associated with something else?

It's definitely boredom! and is driving me nuts! Where is my willpower?

I will NOT eat any peanut butter tonight!

Let's talk about the trouble you might be having or when you feel your weakest and let's dish some strategy. I want you to make it. You deserve to be free of the evil carbie beasties!

[cleochatra]

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{{{buddin}}} *lol* When you give it to me, it's so cute! I love it!

2big has said that peanut butter triggers certain pleasure sensors in the brain, so sometimes it's all to easy to fall prey to the peanut butter hungries! Unfortunately, the sugar is a booger (lookie I rhymed!). I'd go for something creamy and different, like yogurt. Full-fat yogurt, if you're on the dairy rung in OWL is a good place to start. You get the creamies! In the meantime stop findling the Peter Pan peanut butter. He's just a kid in green tights.

You can do it! I believe in you! *clap clap clap*

(That was like Tinkerbell clapping, not me giving you the clap)

[buddinbuddin]

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Thanks for the support Cleo!! Did I ever mention I love how supportive you are of everyone? And your songs/poems are awesome!

I managed to stay away from the peanut butter last night...I can stay away from it this weekend too!

[Ninane]

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We went out for lunch today. I ordered seafood, and specifically asked the waitress what they use to prepare the food, and how it is done. She said olive oil, and grill. When the food arrive, I get this chunk-o-fish, BATTERED, and so thick with oil that I can't even look at it. So I send it back.. The others enjoy their food, I'm not particularly hungry, but don't want to break the 6 hour rule, so I wait. After everybody finished lunch, my food arrives AGAIN, this time, grilled, but with CHEESESAUCE all over the place. AND dressing on my salad after I specifically asked for NO dressing. So I send it back and cancel the order - HATED that. I don't like to be the fussy customer, but I don't want to mess up - I'm on day 9 of induction. Long story short, I excused myself from lunch to get home to prepare my own lunch, and when I get there, I receive this very nasty e-mail from my friend who feels that I embarassed her at lunch!! Nice huh?? Anyway, I didn't cheat, and although I'm angry as h*ll, I'm not gonna fix it with food.

Oh, and while I'm ranting (please excuse), I just saw this Kellogg's ad on TV:
" Moms aren't always right, but one thing they've been right about all along, is Kellogg's kid cerials. (Coco Pops, aka, glorified wind and sugar). With all the goodness you can ask for to give your child the best breakfast, with 9 vitamins and minerals and extra iron..blah blah blah"
And of course, on que as expected, Nina goes, " Mommy, when you go to the store, will you puleeeeeeeeeeeeease buy us some of those??"
Of course the answer was a firm yet friendly NO, thus I'm the bad guy again tonight... GREAT AD DON"T YA THINK??
Don't you just hate when that happens?

[Terry]

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Sorry you had such a bad lunch date Ninane. But you stayed on plan!! Good for you!

I agree on the tv ad, I hate all those cereal ads that tout the nutritional value of eating cereal for breakfast. Even when I ate carbs I didnt feel like most of the cereals out there were breakfast foods.

[cleochatra]

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Buddin-- you are the sweetest! Can I adopt you? I look forward to hearing you report back Monday that you stayed away from the little jar of green-never-grow-up-ness!

Ninane! you rock! Staying away from the bad foods is the way to go, even when they're brought to you! You are the woman!

If you guys ever smell cereal, a lot of it really smells bad...or like nothing at all.

[Elizellen]

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I managed to stay away from the peanut butter last night...I can stay away from it this weekend too!

Good for you

[Elizellen]

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I receive this very nasty e-mail from my friend who feels that I embarassed her at lunch!!

And she couldn't say that to your face if she really was embarrased?!? Some friend!!
It wasn't by any chance her choice of restaurant was it? If so she should have been apologising to you for the bad service!!

[Shifaa786]

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I'm new to the Atkins Bulletin Board. This is my 2nd or 3rd time starting induction. I think the hardest thing for me has to be one of 2 things : emotional triggers that cause me to cheat or not eating for a long period of time. The other day I went 5 hours without a meal or snack and then later that night my husband and I had an argument and it led me to cheat. I need to find other ways to release stress or have a list of reasons I want to be fit to help me through the hard times.