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    Really Stressed

    Well I am finally in ketosis. I checked with the strips the other night and I do not want to mess this up. But I am having a real rough time. My husband and I have been seperated for two months. Him telling me to hold on and give him time to get mature with his drinking... well he says he wants to come home last thursday.. Well it was rough getting used to him being back in the house.. he could be a mean drunk in the past. He did not drink, but the memories were still there. He kept telling me I needed to let go of the past and move forward. I do not know how to do that. Well he left last night and said he doesn't think it is gonna work out. And that he came back too early. He is seeking family couseling for his anger and how he handles things. I am soo sad, hurt, can you even believe desperate to talk to him. I don't understand why we keep hanging on. We have been together for 16 years. And then on top of this I have been wanting my comfort food. And thanksgiving coming up.. I am so in pain right now.

    Crystal
    First Time around
    SW 168/ CW 132/ GW 135ish

    Start Over 11/12/05
    CW 147/ GW 135ish



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    Re: Really Stressed

    Oh Crystal {{{{{{{{{Crystal hug}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}.

    It sounds like you both need time. It sounds like you both want it to work out but maybe it was too soon. Give him time to get his head together - it sounds like he wants to work on that so give him support and space to do it. And spend time with yourself. You deserve to take care of yourself and do this for yourself. Don't cave to the comfort foods. You can make nice comfort foods with this woe too, but instead of using food, take comfort in the fact that you are taking care of yourself. I'm not an expert in any of this, but I feel your pain and I care. You are not alone with all of us here for you. Hang in there sweetie.
    Female, 46yrs, 5'3"

    Restarted Atkins 09/19/05
    Re-restarted Atkins 03/12/07

    SW198.5/CW215/GW150







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    • #3
      Re: Really Stressed

      {{{{crystal}}}} I wish I could offer you anything but warm wishes and prayers! You'll make it. I know you will.
      ADBB Moderator Emeritus
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      • #4
        Re: Really Stressed

        Crystal (sending you lots of hugs and good vibrations)
        Hang in there, you are worth it. When you feel overwhelmed and want some comfort food, come here to the ADBB and find the support from others. Everyone here understands the issues that creep into our lives. You'll be with others who have been there and are still there. We all care and want you to succeed!!! Keep us posted, you can do it!!
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        • #5
          Re: Really Stressed

          Crystal,

          I agree with the above posts. We all care a great deal about your successes. I cannot advise you, of course, on your situation, but I can agree with what Lady in Red said about doing this for you. Do this for yourself! Stay with it. Ketosis is a tough state to get into, at least for me. Hang in there and keep posting. We really do care. I am sending you a hug across the country!
          149.8/no weigh/ 119



          1st goal: 139 (earlier weight)
          what the rungs mean to me:
          rung 1 - more veggies
          rung 2 - dairy (some milk in coffee)
          rung 3 - seeds, nuts (mostly sprinkled on salads)
          rung 4 - berries, melon
          rung 5 - wine -
          rung 6 - beans, hummus
          rung 7 - other fruits
          rung 8 - carrots/ potatoes (nah, prolly not)
          rung 9 - whole grains (fresh Dutch breads...)
          Major Goal - 128 lbs/ healthy range
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          • #6
            Re: Really Stressed

            I am going to keep focused on staying on track. It is so hard right now. And then with the holidays coming up. I was a stay at home mom, well I still am except I am taking online real estate courses. He has always been in control of everything. He controls the money. His name is on everything. He is being nice right now and continuing to pay the bills at home where I am. I am so so hurt and don't know anything right now.

            Thanks for the support and hugs.
            Crystal
            First Time around
            SW 168/ CW 132/ GW 135ish

            Start Over 11/12/05
            CW 147/ GW 135ish



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            • #7
              Re: Really Stressed

              What a horrible week to have this happen. Holidays are stressful enough.........

              We're all here for you. Every single one of us. You can pm us. You can post, and feel free to unburden yourself - I've done it on this board during a really bad time, and it helps no end. We have all experienced what stress can do to our bodies, our moods, our motivation. THere's even a sticky on it - check it out!

              Another thing I would like to suggest is that you find an Al-Anon meeting near you and go. You will find amazing real-life people, from what I hear, who have been there, done that, and know how to help you through this.

              HUGS HUGS HUGS!!!!!
              Started Atkins 2d time 6/20/05
              218/187/140
              Measuring every 2 weeks
              As of 10/31/05, losta total of 56.75 inches!



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              • #8
                Re: Really Stressed

                yep find an alonon meeting and go get support for you. Since he is in family couseling why not have you both go so you can express your feelings and together you can work through it cause right now all the counselor is working on with him is what he tells them and lots of times those are not the true issues in a marriage.

                Will add you to my prayer list

                Keep strong and know you can do this even if it is Thanksgivng. heck you made it through Halloween candy and you can do it low carb comfort foods for Thanksgiving.

                Happy low carbing.
                by the book atkinseer

                started 6/1/02 at 313
                goalie 5/04 at 167 with under 15% body fat ADBB Presidents exercise Challenge


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                • #9
                  Re: Really Stressed

                  Sweetie, hang in there!!! It's tough! I have an alcoholic in the family and have an idea what you are going through. A couple months was probably too soon but there is nothing wrong in wanting to work this out. It's up to you what you do in your situation, but it seems that it takes about a year of being clean and sober before an alcoholic can really start to handle being thrown back into the life they were used to without turning back to the alcohol for support. Often, within that timeframe, new understandings are made and you can see whether it will work without getting too close. The counseling is a GREAT idea!!!! Keep up the good work! Keep up with Atkins, too. If you can master it and have him try it at some point - it will help with his physical alcohol cravings that way all he'll need to work with is the psycological stuff. Hugs to you! I hope I could be of some help to you in some way.
                  27 F 5' 7"
                  Before baby: HW:230/195 after 6 months on Atkins
                  After baby and current restart: 210/207/120

                  I'm too sexy.....for this bod; WAY too sexy for this bod

                  Phase: Restarting a clean Induction as of 7/29/2007.

                  Minigoals:
                  To get thru my first week clean: (8/05/2007) Done! Yay! and 3lbs down :/ but at least it's a loss.
                  To get thru my second week clean: (8/12/2007)
                  199lbs:
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                  • #10
                    Re: Really Stressed

                    {{{{{{{{{{{Crystal}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

                    I cant possibly add anything else to what has already been said. You can have control over your life one step at a time and right now, your woe may be the best place to start.

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                    • #11
                      Re: Really Stressed

                      Thanks ladies thanks to you I think I can, I think I can make it through this day!! I used to go to al anon. I think I will check back into that. That is a great idea. You are right I need to work on me. Focus on me even during some moments when I feel I can't go another inch or breath. I can make it through today. (((((((hugs back at you all)))))))

                      Crystal
                      First Time around
                      SW 168/ CW 132/ GW 135ish

                      Start Over 11/12/05
                      CW 147/ GW 135ish



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                      • #12
                        Re: Really Stressed

                        Sorry to hear you're going through this rough time...just hang in and like everyone mentioned...come and post. It helps to talk...
                        Spikette
                        Female
                        5'1"
                        SW 122 CW 117 Mini goal 110 Final goal 108


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                        • #13
                          Re: Really Stressed

                          Yes... take things one day at a time. I really feel your pain and am sending comfort vibes over the ocean. Hang in there, sweetie.
                          Sal
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                          Start 10 Jan 2005. Maintenance since Aug. 2005.
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                          • #14
                            Re: Really Stressed

                            Crystal! *hugs* I am so sorry..it sounds like you should probably seek out a family counselor for YOU as well. Keep your chin up!
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                            • #15
                              Re: Really Stressed

                              Thanks ladies I made it through today. I am going to follow through with your suggestions. When I get down and I will, I am going to breath through it or find something to take mind off of it.

                              (((((Hugs))))) with ya'lls help I made it with no emtional cheating. This morning and last night I didn't think I could make it.

                              Crystal
                              First Time around
                              SW 168/ CW 132/ GW 135ish

                              Start Over 11/12/05
                              CW 147/ GW 135ish



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