Well, Good Grief!

[illy]

Ok, confession time. I slipped. No, I fell. Ok, I plopped headlong into a 4-day yuck-a-thon of food. I feel awful. Not only that, I GAINED 4 pounds!

I was doing SO well. *peeks at ticker* guess I need to update THAT.

Friday came, hubby wanted to take me out to eat. I ordered a burger. A Bison burger. That was gonna be so good. But the bun looked SO good. I took a bite and I could taste the honey in it. So I decided I was gonna just go ahead and do it. Cheat my heart out for one meal, fries and all.

Next day, all on track again and stuff, we met up with a group of friends to go 4-wheeling in our Jeep. Hubby was in charge of the snacks, and he bought chocolate covered granola bars. ~laughing~ THAT was SO on-plan, right? Part-way through the day and starving, it was eat one of those chocolately things or go hungry for hours because we were 1 hour into a 2 hour Jeep caravan trek up a mountain.

Next morning, I hadn't gained anything so I thought "What the heck. I'll make my famous home made pizzas. I can just eat the toppings, right?"

Wrong.

This morning I am up 4 pounds and feeling totally sick.

*sigh*

Back on induction in the morning.

[2big4mysize]

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wow sounds like you need to not only make yourself a plan so you don't have that tempting bun around while you are not strong enough to resist like telling the waitress no bun no fries when you order but it is also time to have a talk with DH about being part of your healtheir new way of eating support staff. Do a Dr Phil on him ask him to help you with specifics like I need you to be strong for me when I can't like at dinner and that tempting bun was there, I need you to stop sabatoging me like not providieng ANY snacks for my new OWE on our outing and I need you to want this for me as much as I do so I can get healthier and we can grow old together doing all the things we love to do. Then hand him your DANDR and ask hij to read it espeically chapter 11 so he knows what you can and can't have right now. as you move up phases hand him the book and tell him the new chapter on your new way of eating like chapter 14 for OWL. then he either has to look you in the eye and say nope I won't or agree to help you.

so did you make it through today cheat free?

[dreamof145]

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Thats a perfect example of one cheat leading to another. And 4 pounds is a hefty price to pay for it. To prepare for your next 'night out' make sure you know where you're going to go. Call ahead if you aren't familiar with the menu. Ask if you are allowed substitutions, ie...green beans in exchange for french fries, and so on.

Going out to dinner can be a great experience if you go prepared. Most restraunts will be glad to accomodate a special request if it means keeping you as a customer.

[illy]

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No no. Today is the end of the 4-day binge.

To hubby's credit, he saw "granola" and thought it was fine. He's naturally lean. He has a very active job and has never had to think about anything he eats. At 6'1, he weighs about 160 pounds and that's all muscle and bone.

To my credit, I specifically asked for no fries and figured that I could surely pull off that bun. I guess not.

Hubby sees me as perfectly normal and fine. He supports my efforts, but not because he sees in me a need to lose weight. He has always said that he wants nothing more for me than for me to be happy and healthy, regardless of my weight. I think I need to let him know just how important this is to me. I joked with him that he was wrecking my diet with that granola, but I didn't want to make him feel like he'd let me down. He didn't do it on purpose.

Next time I'll be sure to tell him to get some pepperoni or jerkey for me.

[Sheshy]

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Hi illy,

Here's an "oldie but a goodie" and worth a read! -----> click me

Another suggestion, don't rely on anyone else (even DH) to feed you!

[Outback Jess]

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illy, Failure is often my very best friend and teacher. Maybe you could write down all the things you learned here, and all of the things you will do differently next time. I mean we have all said or thought, "IF I KNEW THEN WHAT I KNOW NOW"
I tend to think on the positive side of things, and this could be a good moment to make this a teachable moment. You know more about what you can do in a given situation. You know about one bite leading down a slippery slope. You know about making sure, you cover your *** by packing your snacks. Knowledge is power, girl. Use this experience to gain knowledge, and when you see the situation coming around next time, you will be prepared, because you KNOW WHERE IT ALL LEADS!
Thanks for your honesty and sharing with us! You are awesome...

[DragonflyMoon]

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Hang in there, illy... i know how hard it is to go through that. It is great that you stopped yourself now though, instead of a month or two down the road!!! So good job there; it sounds like you really learned from this experience & are ready to move on. Thanks for sharing with us!

[Sarah1341]

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Glad you were able to get back on track Illy

[Bren]

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OK, now.........
What did you learn from this blooper?
How do you plan to prevent it from happening again?
Can you figure out why you messed up?
What was the trigger?

You have to have a plan as there is always going to be temptation around!

One thing I have learned is to never rely on anyone to take care of me, I will fend for myself! How about Beef Jerky for the next four wheeling event?

PLAN>PLAN>PLAN!!!!!

2big is correct! When you order out, YOU are paying for that product so make sure you get it JUST how you want it! No bun etc.

A cheat is a slippery slippery slope! Have a plan on how to avoid the slides!

[Lisa M]

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((Illy))

My turn! Because we all need as much love as possible during out cheating days. (notice I said "our"..because each of us has had our faults).

First....Good for you recognizing your fault there for 4 days.

Second...Get moving on that exercise and drinking water so you can make it through cheat free days burning the extra glucose and water your retaining from those nasty extra carbs you chose to eat.

Third and last (for now )....YOU get to choose. Nobody else does it for you. Throw a fit! Be a snob! Don't settle for nothing less than what you choose to eat that works best for you to reach your healthy goal

[illy]

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Thanks for the encouragement, everyone.

I've thought about it and I think I know exactly what happened at dinner that fateful night. I was happy. I was comfortable. I thought I could ge away with it because of the progress I'd made. It's happened before. I lose a chunk of weight and get all comfortable, then slack off.

So now that I've identified at least part of it, maybe I won't get that way again.

[Bren]

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ok, GOOD JOB........ you have identified the cause, trigger etc.

NOW...........

What is the plan to avoid it next time? Gotta have a plan.