taps my nails, just tell me NO lol please

[abstractillusions]

okay lol my guy's bday cake thing is today at work, he got a torborlin Swiss Almond Cheesecake from the cheesecake factory. Our whole office goes into the conference room to eat it and say happy bday and such. SOOOOO... lol since our office is going through ALL of the cakes at the cheesecake factory lol (my friends bday is 2 thursdays from now lol and she is getting the vanilla bean!!) someone just tell me NO lol.

i am cracking up because i have decided to bring 3 almonds into the conference room with me and call it my piece. Maybe my supps too lol. But i won't have any lol. i got him a silly bday card to make up for my not having any cake lol. Soooooo wish me luck.

Hugs my water bottle!!! This tastes like cheeese cake didn't you know!!!

[jimmie 48]

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no



you'll feel better for not having any of the fatting stuff. just think of all the carbs those other folks are having and feel good that you are stayint on plan.

[RachelnLa]

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I agree.. just think of all those carbs they are eating.. and again in 2 weeks!? YIKES!

Hold on tight and drink that water. You can do it

[abstractillusions]

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lol thanks. It was hillarious, while out with my mom this weekend, i sooo wanted one of those o'charley's rolls and buttter so i leaned over to my mom and said, mom its your lucky day lol i WANT you to just tell me NO. lol

yeah and then MY birthday is the 3rd of December lol and i already told everyone i am not having a cake, i will be gone 2 days before and after since my bday is on a sunday lol there is no need. laughs, you should SEE the disapppointment on their faces cause THEY want the cake. So maybe i will get one i know i don't like for them to enjoy. My present to them lol.

i will say let's have it the Wed before i leave on Thurs and it BETTER be GONE before i get back. See that's part of our problem lol we are such a small office that we never finish it at one sitting so its in the fridge for anyone who wants it lol. Talk about tempation island!

[2big4mysize]

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just apply your slices to the area of your body you gain weight fastest on and parade around demonstating to yourself and the rest of your gang how well you wear yours.

you can make yourself a cheese snack to have when the next one arrives if you are hungry.

[julirama723]

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Since it's YOUR birthday, you should post the recipe for an atkins-friendly cheesecake at the office and write "hint hint" on the bottom of it.

[abstractillusions]

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Well i did it lol and i didn't even have almonds, i just brought my water and chatted. Even when i was closing up the cake box to put in the fridge and got some frosting on my thumbnail, i didn't even lick it off though i automatically lifted my hand i stopped and said NO lol.

This is all a mind game. i don't have to expect others to conform to my way of eating to enjoy being with people even if they choose to use food as an emotional aspect or celebration or such. I don't HAVE to partake. I don't have to give in to peer pressure. i don't have to restrict myself from places and situations where food i shouldn't eat is. This way of eating is my choice. I could have just as easily choosen another way. therefore, whether or not i choose to partake or not partake is my choice and only my choice. Though its nice to have to have support where people try and help by altering their food or accomodating me. its not always going to be so. Therefore, if i want to succeed, i cannot expect people to conform to my way of eating, instead i eat as i choose too and not fall into the peer pressure aspect. Just as i didn't with drugs or alcohol, i won't with this either. i will not restrict myself of where i go, what i partake in etc, i will instead formulate plans and reach inside myself for my determination and persistence in making this lifestyle work for ME, and not worry whether everyone else is following my lead.

i am not sure if this makes sense. Thansk for all of your support and suggestions lol and 2big though that idea would be a great idea if i was attracted to ANY of my coworkers lol, however, i am not so the food wear lol is put on hold. But great idea for a BF who loves things i shouldn't eat lol.

[cleochatra]

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People put so much emphasis on food. It's like unless you're holding a spork, you can't have a conversation, you know? Maybe we should all walk around waving forks in the air.

BTW, good for you for resisting!!!

[abstractillusions]

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hey cleo, yes its been that way since the beginning of time, in almost every culture i know. The difference now is i don't need a fork in my hand. Whether or not someone elses chooses to have one, is their issue, and their choice. What i want from this way of life is a life that doesn't restrict me, a life where my own plans allow me to succeed in any situation i am thrown into, whether by choice or not. i don't want to be "afraid of" or fear social gatherings because i am afraid i will fail. Instead, i am accepting that the rest of the world is not going to change therefore, i need a mental and physical plan so that i will feel confident in no matter what situation i encounter.

So i feel its easier to accept and deal with the fact that society and people aren't going to change because i am. Therefore, i have two choices, i can rely heavily on others to get me through this and utilize restrictions of where i can go and do with friends and loved ones, or i can rely on myself and make my plans to get through the hard times and change MY way of thinking about what I am doing and enjoy life that i have been already hiding from for MUCH MUCH too long.

I am trying to take back my life, not put myself in a different type of a box.

[Outback Jess]

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Instead, i am accepting that the rest of the world is not going to change therefore, i need a mental and physical plan so that i will feel confident in no matter what situation i encounter.

I love what you say here, you need a plan...so often we just put too much on the other people, when in fact WE have the problem...It's us and our relationship to food that put us in this place, and this is one of those places (Atkins)where it is so sweet to be...Atkins takes away the hunger, cravings, puts you in a place of burning fat, and gives you energy...you can eat satisfying foods! The blood sugars are calmed down, so you are calmer, in control and "together" with a mental plan of eating...
Beats standing in the crowd with NOTHING but HUNGER...
YOu walked away today, or yesterday....it's a great feeling...You clutch your water bottle mingle with the group and then walk away...I've done that at 3 parties, and one reception that did not have even water to clutch! It was a proud moment born out of that inner RESERVE!

[Lady_Hawke]

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what a wonderful attitude you have. good for you! you are going to be a success with such a wonderful attitude!
Congratulations for passing on the sweets!

[abstractillusions]

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Hiya Jess, yes that's exactly what i mean. My weight issue is my problem therefore, the solution is my problem. Its great when people want to support me and such but its not my place to expect everyone to conform or even care about my choice to do something about my problem.

I did feel great when the break was over and i even volunteered to put the rest of the cake away. Temptation is going to surround me daily, so i need to put the temptation in perspective, its only a momentary temptation and the panic is usually blown up in my head which is what makes the temptation the battle that i have made it in the past. If i make a mental plan, and a determination, i can control anything i do. Just like when i have no extra money but i really want those new earrings, i don't steal them because i know its wrong, i don't buy them because i know i can't. Therefore, i walk away without them. The "want" for them becomes a memory. Or i think of everthing like i am allergic to it, no matter how much i want it IF i have it i will have an allergic reaction (i will gain weight) i am approaching this way of life the same way.


i am so psyched for you that you have been to three things and stayed in control and had the power of success bloom in you thereafter!! Keep up the great work Jess, i have read many of your posts and you are much of an inspiration.!!! Thanks for being around. wriggle dances for you and your success.

[abstractillusions]

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Thanks Lady Hawke, i think your siggy sums it up nicely

A Goal, A Love, A Dream, give you total control over your body and your life.

I have read that statement many times while reading your posts and think that may have helped me form this attitude over the last 2 weeks. So thank you!!

[Outback Jess]

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Sher, YOUVE GOT IT...You've got the power...the power of personal responsibility!!!!
As I am sure you have read, my 15 yr old is on the atkins journey with me...we talk in the car and all the inspriations she gets too...One day she wanted a cookie so badly..
I said, well someone is going to walk away WITH the power, who will it be YOU or the COOKIE!!! If you eat the cookie it's more powerful than you are, if you hold off and refuse the cookie becasue it's not good for you, YOU become all the more powerful over food choices...
She just came in from a lock-in at the church, where there was food and candy and stuff all might long...We sent her with all her low carb things...she barely ate anything, said she was not hungry... had pepperoni and cheese when the pizzas arrived...just had a quiche cupcake and went to bed...like "NO BIG DEAL, MOM!!!".
So, she was powerful and she knows she has gained a level of maturity and power and it came, one decision at a time!
Sher, you have building the warrior within you. You are strategizing and plotting to succede...It's not an accident when you do, you meant to be successful in that conference room! It was no accident, you went in with a specific goal and walked away with it, YOU WIN!!!!!
These are the moments that form and shape us. 88 days of forming and shaping a new mindset and level of control, and my kid walked away from a bonanza of kid crap foods!!!! We've got the power, lets hold on to it like it was a fine gem, you can't get at walmart!! Can't buy it anywhere it's earned one day at a time!

[abstractillusions]

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awww Jess, you are gonna make me cry with your words. In a good way lol. i am soo psyched for your daughter and mom who taught her what she needs to know. i am taking the same idea and applying it to exercising, which is really my "temptations" not to do it lol that is. i figured i could make excuses, cry, and whine and six months from now i will have wished i started today and not be at my goal for Jamaica, or i can put the effort, work, and determination with my goal and success in the forefront of my mind and gitterdone as my friend says lol. As you used with your daughter, what's going to have the power, me or my excuses.


thanks for your posts Jess, they are always read and a major inspiration.