Having A Hard Time...

[angelawillbethinagain]

Hey everybody. I am really struggling here. I don't know why but I am feeling upset with myself right now. I somehow decided last weekend that "one" wouldn't hurt and I would just Re-start after that one mess up... Which I know is a very bad idea. I am a stress eater. The confusing thing is, I can look at the photos and read the stories and feel so confident. I put my skinny pics on the fridge, I have started walking at lunch daily. I get so focused on my goal (which sometime seems soooooo huge and never like somthing I can never achieve). I can be so determined and turn down when someone offers me sweets or something. I can stick to incution religiously but then something happens and I cave in. What is wrong with me???!!! I don't want to be overweight anymore. I want to be healthy and feel good. I want to feel attractive again. I have so many goals for myself once I lose the weight. I feel like I let myself down and it isn't a good feeling. I really do believe in atkins and I really do want to lose weight. How come one day I can feel so determined and like nothing can stand in the way, and a few weeks later, I cave in for something and then totally get off track completley? I know nothing will taste as sweet as achieving my goal. How do I make myself stick to that every day? When I start to feel stressed out or if something bad happens, how can I change for good my quick jump to the fridge??

Please help with some good advice.

thanks

[boonie stomper]

Re: Having A Hard Time...

1. Make sure there's nothing bad IN that fridge, or the pantry. 2. Just focus on not having that first "one".When you have a craving fill it with "harmless" sustenance. Occupy your mind with doing something, rather than focusing on trying not to cave in. Focusing on it simply causes more of your brainpower to be occupied by it.

[michigander]

Re: Having A Hard Time...

I think you need to start with a mini-goal. If you look at the big kahoona, you're gonna feel overwhelmed. You have got to say, what is my goal for this week. Or maybe even, what is my goal for today. And start walking it out step by step, instead of looking at the horizon, look at the end of the driveway.

I have a hard time with not "rewarding" myself with food - so I set goals like, if I stick to it this month, or lose x amount of pounds, then I can get a pedicure. Or I'll let myself buy something new. (Which brings up an entirely new financial problem...but we'll worry about that later! LOL!)

Anyway, try to make small goals - and also when people offer you things, have a snack handy - just say, no thanks, I've got beef jerkey. It's easier to say no when you've got an alternative. But you can't do that if you don't have it on hand. People don't try to "push" a diet on you quite as bad if you're willing to eat with them - you just have to take the initiative to have the right kind of food when they're offering their snack.