So...let's talk body image! Who molded yours? Is it accurate?

[Thin is possible!]

Re: So...let's talk body image! Who molded yours? Is it accurate?

The way I see it then is....Wow! You are sitting sweet! Since you have not experienced pregnancy yet, your tummy is still in great shape! YEEEEHAW!!!! This way of eating and exercise has done miracles for my body...and I have had several children! So, for a woman like you, and as young as you are, keep working the program, exercise, and you will be right where you wanna be in a FLASH! You seem like such a sweetie! You have a good head on your shoulders, and you have a place here on the board to gather encouragement. I am going to anxiousally await hearing about your successess!!! You go girl!!!!

[tryingagain]

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Awe sweet and sour maybe !!
I cant wait to succeed and be able to post those accomplishments here, and I love seeing you all succeed, your such inspirations to something that at times seems so out of reach!

[guekjian]

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Damn...you made me cry...I left my husband 4 years ago because I was tired of not being "enough" for him. He was constantly criticizing my weight. To please him I almost became anorexic. I had lost weight on a protein diet monitored my a doctor (mind you my start weight was 136lbs...that is my present goal!) I got down to 120 pounds (way too skinny for me). I got pregnant...lost my weight within 3 months.(actually stopped breast feeding so I could skinny again to please him.) then started the weekly weigh-ins with him. I had to get on the scale every friday morning and my weight had better not be over 125. I was at the point that I was using laxatives to make sure I wasnt over. Nearly passed out at work a couple of times. People thought I was anorexic. Fast forward to now. I still have a really hard time with my BF touching me. I feel like he is just assessing the fat I have on my body. I know that isnt so...but a little voice inside my head says...he is checking out the fat..he thinks you're fat...I won't let him see me naked...run into the shower, etc... I don't know how I am ever going to erase that little voice...It says that no matter what I do, it wont be enough (thanks to the &?%/&?% I used to be married to). Do you think there is an exorcism ritual that exists? LOL...if so...I'm in...

[*Emma*]

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Great Thread! - sorry to those of you that have suffered through others.

Julie fabulous words, and you were correct in every way.


I was raped 14 years ago, it took me a long time to even look a person in the eye afterwards. When i did atkins in 2004 i lost about 45 pounds, i wasnt close to goal but my blanket had gone - my security of the prior 11 years.
i was within the normal range and wearing a size of clothing classed as the national average...

Men started giving me attention again so as some old times will recall, i couldnt cope, i moved straight to maintenance for a while, i needed to get my head in order - i was scared again and didnt want to lose anymore weight, i couldnt walk down a street without thinking people were following me. i was a nervous wreck and close to breakdown.

So what did i do to get back the old me? gained the weight back

not all of it okay but enough to be uncomfortable again...

My family always said i was overweight, they never called me fat or anything it was just "you'd look great if you lost a stone(14pounds to the non brits)" or "you'd be very pretty if you could just lose a bit of weight"

I guess they all affected me, i became i dunno, insecure i guess.. i'd hide behind everything possible, i didnt need them to tell me nothing, i knew what i wanted and needed to do but i'd do it when i was ready for ME not for them.

Ive recently realised I can be pretty darn beautiful when i make an effort and well, i really aint all that bad, i smile a lot and im happy. I think i actually love me and i dont need anyone in my life to share that right now because im enjoying getting to know myself.

So yeah that was my reasons for gaining the weight.... this time its all coming off and staying off.

[kloewent]

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My Dad never has been cruel, he never says to any of us girls that we are fat. However, anytime I see him, rather than saying "How nice to see you" He either says "You've lost weight", "You are keeping the weight off" or the bad one: he says nothing. We all know what that means!!

Karen

[tryingagain]

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guekjian, I am so sorry for the jerkoff that made you feel that way! I hate people like that! And I am so sorry you cried!
Karen, I am sorry about what happened to you and am so happy for you to finally love yourself again!

I work with 2 women. 1 Basically starves herself and she is so skinny does not even look good or healthy, because if she even picked up a peice of pizza, he husband gives her the evil eye. LOSER!
The other walks like 15 miles a day or something because she caught her husband looking at internet porn and he said it was because she let herself go. She was a size 6 at the time and healthy. Now because of him she is a size 0!!!

Ladies, there is an important lesson here, this whole journey must be about us! Lose weight for our reasons on our terms and no one elses, otherwise we lose ourselves, and who we are, and probably our self respect along the way.
(That goes for the guys out there too!