Thoroughly ashamed!

[Solenne]

I feel horrible! After a month of doing all that I should be doing and losing 12 lbs in the process I fell off the wagon with an almighty thud! I now am thoroughly ashamed of myself and even as I'm typing this I feel fat and horrible.

So I just thought I would say hi to all the STACers seeing as I will now be joining you cos I don't want to feel like this ever ever again.

Sorry for the rant but I'm miserable .
Hopefully it will get better and I can sort myself out.

Thanks for reading.
Bex.

[apple]

Re: Thoroughly ashamed!

Here's my dust pan and broom...go dust yourself off and climb back on the wagon

And keep in mind that..."mistakes are not failures they are lessons for success" (Just had to share that one ).

It will get better. Keep your focus.

Best wishes!

[SandyL2002]

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I agree.. Dust yourself off and start again... The less time you wait the better.. and when you feel like you are going to give up..come post and we will help you

[MorningGlory]

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Here's a hug
There's no worse feeling is there? Don't beat yourself up too badly...we've been there and know it's a pretty big downer.
Good for you for posting though....this is where you'll get support and understanding and that's probably what you need right now.
Nothing to do now but get back on the wagon.....right?

Stock up on your veggies and go for a big walk or swim or whatever it is you do to get your body moving.

Hope tomorrow is a better day!

[mitzimarie]

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Hello

Welcome to STAC! So, you have had a little bump in the road... that's OK. Now you get to hang around with this great bunch of people. One thing's for sure, we have all "been there and done that."

And we understand.

And, we are proof that there is life after cheating. You can do this!

Looking forward to hearing from you.

[Arkiematt]

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It's no big deal, chaninging the way you eat and breaking old habits is not an easy thing to do at first. It gets so much easier with every day that goes by and every inch/lb you lose. I broke down and cheated a week ago today and i know just how you feel. I started right back and I have already returned to ketosis and steadily losing weight and inches. The best thing I did was join this community, the support from these people has strenghened my resolve far beyond anything else. So, keep your head up, pat yourself on the back for making a decision to better yourself and keep coming back here.

[skinnymom!]

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Jump back on - we are all here to pull you back up! You know what I saw on Oprah the other day? She had a woman on who was morbidly obese and had tried everything. She finally had gastric bypass and has lost a ton of weight, and looks great. She said something that really clicked.....the ONE thing people have in common who lose weight and keep it off is....they keep getting back on track over and over after a misstep. Meaning, they don't just say "oh screw it, I already messed up, what is the point" and return to their old ways. No, they mess up, like everyone else, but they immediately PUT IT BEHIND THEM and jump right back on their healthy way of eating. She has written a book and interviewed tons of people (who had lost and KEPT IT OFF) for it, and said that is what they all had in common!

That really stuck in my head. Because usually when I cheat, I just keep going with the carbs and sugar and give up Atkins. This time, I cheated once and before I was even done cheating, I knew it was a one time thing and I would be moving right back into Atkins asap. No stop for a sugary dessert, or having a bad breakfast the next day....I put it behind me and came back to Atkins. You can do it too!! One misstep won't stop you right?

[RIMedusa]

No shame, please... For all of us

Hi Solenne and all --

Please don't allow shame to take up one inch of space in your head, your heart, or your words.

Shame is toxic. I know that shame is one of the things that has had me overeat for many years of my life.

Please, no shame. And please, no "fat and disgusting" talk, either.

I remember when I went to India about 13 years ago... the women I met were from every socioeconomic group, but there was one thing they all had in common: they wanted my FAT.

They touched me and pinched me, smiled and begged me to give them some. They wanted my roundness and softness and womanliness. I thought of all the years I'd spent hating it...

While you and all of us may have days where we feel we've broken a commitment to ourselves, all there is is giving our word again. And again. And again, just as we do in every other area of life.

Each day, a clean slate.

[Elizellen]

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Welcome back on the Atkins train, Bex

Failure is not in the falling but in the lying there and not picking yourself up!! So you are not a failure!!

[tryingagain]

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bex - welcome!
See below what I wrote in my journal this morning....

I cheated. I fell off the wagon. I knocked myself out of ketosis, and I am bumming. BUT, I am picking myself up, dusting myself off and moving forward as though it did not even happen. Its ok, I will forgive myself becuase I can either do that and continue with my success on this diet and continue to lose, or I can say I am a failure, and a loser and go eat a bagel with 5 tons of cream cheese. Riiiight!
Umm....I think I will move forward and keep losing. I am not weak I am strong, and will continue to be. I wil not accept anything less than that from myself because then I AM a failure for giving in and giving up, and I know that is from self pitty. Feeling sorry for myself, Or so I think anyway. I am like a drill seargent to myself. I yell at myself for feeling defeated, because when we let ourselves feel defeated we are defeated and move backward. We stop in the middle of the march to freedom and sit down and let rest of the world get there without us.
I don't want to be alone in this battle. I want to move forward with my team and stand with them, (all of you). I want to succeed together and defeat the demon together. And so I shall....


Now, say those words to yourself and move on. So you cheated, BIG DEAL!
It could be so much worse, like, you drop this WOE all together and reverse all of your hard work thus far! NO you cannot do that, and as long as you just move forward and get right back on track, you are still on your first go at this and not 2nd as far as I am concerned.
Think about what made you break. Are you eating enough? I wasn't. re-evaluate your menu, maybe you need to move up a rung in OWL and keep yourself satisfied, figure it out, fix it, and move on.
YOU'VE LOST 12 LBS!! Thats great! now you can lose 12 more and not give this another thought.
I wish you the best, keep going, and we are glad to have you here!

[Solenne]

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Thank you so much for all your kind words and advice. I really, really appreciate it. I suppose on the positive side I now get to talk to all you lovely people!

I have dusted myself off and restarted and I hope that my slip up will not have too much of an adverse affect on what I've achieved so far.
I also know that I really don't want to feel like this again, a feeling I have only experienced since my cheat.

My dp has decided to start this WOE so as well as having all of you I'll have him there too!

Thanks again for the advice and I hope that I can repay the favour to you all.

Bex.

[mitzimarie]

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Yay! I'm glad you came back.

You will really like it here.