Coming clean.....

[meena-beena]

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I hope things go well for you Barb. My username isn't my real name either, it's the nickname I use for my older daughter (the one who just turned 4). When I wanted to register a name last year my real name was taken so I used this.

Anyway, I wish you and your family all the best during your tough time. All you can do is your very best and leave the rest to figure itself out. Your kids are the most important things and you both seem like you're rationally looking out for their best interests.

{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}

[OzLover]

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Sending good thoughts your way. I admire the fact that the two of you are being decent to one another for your children. I'll reiterate what some of the other members have said...it is extremely important for you to take care of yourself!!! I know this is a difficult time right now but I can say from experience that life will get better.

Hugs to you Barb!

Glenda

[hopejoy]

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I find it very moving all the posts on this reguard... Times have changed so much... when I was a kid, my parents devorced when I was 5. Everything was different... it was like WWIII... and I was right smack in the middle of it!
I really admire the fact that you are considering your children so much and staying close physically to eachother... that's just so important to kids. I wish you every good thing and hope you find joy and peace.
Hopejoy isn't my name either... and when I started I didn't have either one. but I do now. Take care of yourself. You'll be in my prayers.
liz

[SandyL2002]

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Hi Barbara,

This whole mess I've been in the last three years has really made me hold myself accountable for what I have, and who I want to be. I wrapped to much of "ME" around everyone else, and somehow forgot how to live. Now, I'm taking my life back. It's amazing how much respect I've gained from my husband and my son. I wish you the best of luck, and hope that you get what you need to make you happy, then all the rest will fall into place.

Isn't that the truth.. I think in general WE women forget to take care of ourselves. Which is what I have done. I think I am going through a Midlife Crisis.. I think women do too...not just men. I am nearing 40.. My kids are getting older and they don't need me like they use to and I am by myself a lot. And then you get to thinking I have just this 1 life to live. And then when you have such a conviction to homeschool it just even puts more on you.

[kibskix]

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I had wonderfully/disasterously stormy marriage that I ended almost 1 year ago today, and just like sandy said, I forgot that I was important and I should take care of myself. being 100% devoted to someone else is a nice romantic idea, but at least in my case, incredibly unhealthy for both parties. Our unhappiness lead to him cheating on me, which lead to me leaving him, after only 2 years of marriage. But I am healthier (at least mentally lol) and happier since then than I ever was in it. Im remembering to do things for my own future (just finished top of my class in school), and I now have a much more stable and healthy relationship with my current BF as well as just about everyone else in my life.

I'd never wish a rocky divorce on anyone, and it still effects my trust to this day, so its really great that you seem to be handling it so well with him! The kids will be ok, my parents waited till I was 18 to divorce "for the kids" and all it did was expose me to more tension and anger than love in the house.