Saturday Dec 1 Roll Call

[Outback Jess]

I can't believe it's December 1st. With all the christmas music bombarding the airwaves I thought it was like Dec 20th....

Goodmorning STACers...This morning I've been chewing on a thought. "I have to get up and do it myself"...I have to get up and make things happen for myself. I have to own my eating, and exercising lifestyle and habits.
I have to get up and make it happen....Nobody is going to tap me on the shoulders and say, "HELLO, I AM HERE TO MAKE YOU DO THIS"...I have to make me do it! Oh how we wish we could have that person just make us behave...

I see this in my relationship with my daughter. She has been on the Atkins journey with me too. But she leans on my inner drive, instead of developing her own.

We all need to establish our own inner drive. It comes with consistency and progress. It comes from making ourselves behave. Today counts it ADDS to a stockpile of days in a row that you have done something.
That builds confidence and consistency and inner drive.

Once we have our own inner drive, we can function apart from an outside source providing that prod!
I ask my DD, "what happens if I am not around to guide you through the day. Will you eat right and exercise with me out watching over you. Can you watch over yourself?"

In the beginning we all need that helping hand, that great friend here on the boards, but as time goes on, we should be able to build our own way of eating and exercising and be that hand to others. WE can and should continually develop our selves and read and grow...So we can self-sustain in this arena.
I can walk it today without the help of others. I can take my self control anywhere now and trust it....I worked long and hard to get here. Others are here too, and others want to be here, and others never ever do the work required to get here....
But TODAY DOES COUNT...It makes you stronger, more focused and you either learn what NOT TO DO, or WHAT TO DO for tomorrow!
Happy Atkins Day!

[hopejoy]

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Good Morning Jess!
It's funny you should say that... right now, I feel like it's the fact that others are looking to me and watching me that THAT is keeping me from a big cheat. I'm in Tenn. at my sil's with very little legal foods... but making do and working it out. Played soccer and walked yesterday... have a birthday party today to get through...
I've also got a couple of ladies back home who just started Atkins waiting to get together and talk about it with me. Now, I feel a sense of responsibility to them as well... they're looking to me for advice and support so how could I possibly cheat now.
Anyways, enjoying a cup of coffee and this is a beautiful day here. Hope you all have a wonderful day.

Evermind, I hope you feel better after your accident. Sometimes it's worse days later... hang in there! Thinking of you...and sending you good thoughts for healing.
liz

[Evermind]

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Good thoughts, Jess.

Developing our own inner core of discipline and strength is key. I think I said it around Thanksgiving: that I had about 110 days of non-cheating behind me, so I KNEW I could resist temptation on the feast day. My history of not cheating actually helps me not cheat.

My routines help me stay on course. The longer I'm in a routine, the longer I'm likely to stay in it. That goes for exercise, food choices, mindset and attitude.

And it's true, we need to become independent, not rely on others to tell us what to do and motivate us.

But that doesn't mean we are trying to become independent of the board and stop posting. No,no, no. When we post, we are, in essence, talking to ourselves. Others are responding because THEY have been having the same conversations with their own selves. We share our inner thoughts and experiences not because we depend on each other as weak beings, but because by sharing of ourselves in a safe place, we become stronger and more connected to ourselves and others in the same spot.

And we want to be VERY careful about saying "I can do this on my own". Why? Because most of us have experience with doing it on our own, and the results have been incredibly unhealthy. We do need each other.

There's a reason we are here, and there's a reason we stay. The key is to not become totally dependent on an outside force to maintain us on this woe. The key is to use supports to help us develop the inner strength and reliance that is necessary to be a healthy person, and then to offer our experience to others.

[vamps-n-tramps]

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i'm back .....and very depressed. relationships SUCK!!! that said....i'm glad i'm back.

[AlaskaGirl]

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Happy Saturday.

I had a nice big post but I accidently hit the back button and it disappeared....

Good post Jess.

Basically I had said that confidence comes through doing and we have to take ownership of our lifestyles at least I do. It is my success and my failure not any one elses. For me I can not allow any one to influence me, I have to do it my self because I am afraid that I will easily blame my failure on my what ever distraction or person rather than my self. I can come up with excuses just as easy as any one but the bottom line is I have to be responsible for my self.

I still need support from my friends and family, but I have to be strong, driven, and in control.

Okay.... Now I am telling my self to get some house work done.

Have a wonderful day.

Julie

[ang2576]

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Good Post Jess!! This board has been so helpful for me but I totally agree with you that we need to be our biggest fans! We need to encourage ourselves and motivate ourselves to be the very best that we can be. Now that I finally have gotten through the sugar cravings and the caffeine headaches I think I can stick to the WOE for a very, very long time!!
I am very encouraged by everyones support and I thank you all so much for keeping me on track.

Have a good weekend everyone!!

[lc_angel_08]

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Hi sorry I haven't had a chance to post before now. Today has been a busy day getting ready to take the grand kids to the christmas parade, I have been doing alot beeter about keeping my food on track. Not working out like Ishould but atleast I'm eating better.

[Outback Jess]

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Evermind, I agree with you completely, we do need the support of this board...Totally! No lone ranger stuff works for me. I come here every single morning because I NEED It, and it STOKES ME INTO ACTION!
Yep

[tangotori]

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Great post, Jess

"I have to get up and make things happen for myself."

I've worked hard to live by this truth throughout my life - and I've experienced successes because of it. But sometimes I experience a shift inside and a complacency (rooted in self-doubt I suspect) sets in. When this happens, I lose focus and successes are harder to achieve. A perfect example - last October when, at 180 pounds, I felt comfortable enough to eat my own birthday cake.

It's taken a whole year to re-establish this mindset, but here I am on day one of induction... and rocking it!

I have faith in my ability to maintain this mindset... most of the time!! What I'm hoping is that I can reach out to others on this site when complacency and self-doubt start to creap in.

Cheers everyone!
Vickie