how do you get through bad times without cheating?

[kibskix]

my dog i've had since I was 11 just died in my arms on the way to the emergency vet after 10 minutes of me doing chest compresses and doggy cpr on her. 2 days before my birthday. I dont want to go into gruesome details, but it was probably the most horrible thing i've ever gone through. and i cant afford to cremate her, so she has to stay in the garage until my boyfriend gets here with a shovel and a flashlight. I can't wait till tomorrow because its supposed to pour down rain.

I don't even want to think about food. I haven't eaten since lunch and i think if i tried, i'd throw up. But at some point I might want to cheat. How do you keep a clear head when you're so upset?!

[imagood1]

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get up now, go get something light that is legal and eat it....try to eat something solid in a few hours but don't tell youself it's ok to cheat because of this. I know from experience how had it is to go through loosing a beloved pet -- I was there just a few months ago and my heart is breaking for you now.

You've come too far to mess up now....you can get through this!

[momtomany1]

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Honey, I am so sorry. But there is a point you reach when you realize that food isn't going to make horrible stuff better, and that you still have the same responsibility to take care of yourself when life is throwing rocks at you... actually even more so. It is an inner strength that builds as you go. You might even be at that point already and not know it yet, and this might be the test that proves it to you, in which case you wake up tomorrow a stronger person.

I am real real sorry about your furbaby friend. Do look after yourself.

[fofinha]

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Be strong...I know if is a tough time, just think of all the happy memories you had with your dog, and all the good times you have had throughout 11 years. Only time will heal everything.

[iamran]

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Sorry to hear about your loss kib. That totally sucks! As much as it hurts you have to take care of yourself. I agree with imagoodeone. You have to eat something. You will make it thru this!

[NewToAtkins]

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Turning to comfort food is really the old you...trust me. I just had some shocking news a few weeks ago and went into a downward spiral. Unfortunately the cheats only made me feel worse, both physically and mentally.

I'm not going to say you HAVE TO do anything....you don't HAVE TO do anything right now. Losing a pet is worse than losing a loved one sometimes. I lost my dog (who I found in the woods when I was 6) when i went away to college at 19. I was a total mess. He died in my dad's arms at the vet.

Time may not totally heal, but the memories that you'll call on over time will help you realize what a wonderful life you gave her, and what a wonderful life she gave you.

[SunnySmile501]

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I have a standard question I ask myself--"What, if anything, would be better if I eat________ to drown my misery?" The answer is always, "Nothing." I would feel worse. I actually force myself to think it out.

I watched my daughter die horribly over a 17 day period in 2004. First she was on life support, when they took her off they said she would die right away. She lasted another 12 days, but it was horrible every minute. That 17-day period every anniversary is the longest 17 days of the year. I have to give myself "the talk" more than once a day. It would be so easy to dive into the comfort foods, but if I did, she'd still be dead, and I would feel horrible and sick. It happens near her birthday, too, and Mother's Day. I'm already dreading May 10th.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I still miss my favorite dog who died over 20 years ago. Dogs are family--our furbabies.

[rajenki]

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Kibs...I'm so sorry. I suffered a traumatic loss of a beloved pet last year...I know your pain. Honestly, you might not be too interested in eating for a while...but make sure you get some protein in you to sustain your energy.

[Grniidgrl]

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Kibs -

I'm so sorry to hear you lost your furbaby last night. Nothing can prepare us for the lose of a loved one, including a pet.

Hang in there - stay away from the illegal foods, knowing you are doing the right thing for you and your body.

As an emotional eater, I found that triggers that make me want to eat the wrong foods still show up no matter what diet or plan I am on .. recognizing those triggers and breaking the habit of falling back on food is a lesson I am still working on learning.

Be strong and the urge to cheat will pass - I promise.

~ Dana ~

[SandyL2002]

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I am so sorry you lost your dog.. I have been there.. The food won't make things better either there is a website www.rainbowsbridge.com that I used to help me grieve.. It was a wonderful place to go...

[kibskix]

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Thanks for all the replies everyone, i feel slightly more myself this morning. Ugh, I was such a mess yesterday, i cried for 5 hours. my bf, mom and I went out in the middle of the night with flashlights and shovels and buried her in the woods. I think we might go get some big rocks today if it stops raining and put them out there too so she doesn't get dug up or the rain won't mess up her grave (its supposed to rain Aalllll day, lucky us)
I understand that animals have to die at some point, but the hardest part for me was seeing it happen and not being able to do anything. I had noticed she was breathing weird about an hour before we started in to the vet, but I didn't do anything about it because she'd been breathing sort of weird for months and the last time we took her into the vet they said her heart and lungs sounded fine. So I feel immensely guilty about not doing something sooner, because by the time we got her in the car she would have already died if we hadnt worked on her, in some ways i feel like I just prolonged her suffering by trying to keep her alive. When I called my bf and he came over I pretty much just collapsed and cried and kept saying 'i felt her die' over and over. He's the sweetest ever, he held me while I was upset, and helped us bury her. He didn't have to do that, I know i've got a keeper <3 lol.

i didn't eat anything yesterday from lunch onward, and ironically this morning i'm the exact same weight as yesterday. I still don't feel like cheating which is nice, but i'm not sure i feel like eating either. *sigh* on top of all of this I have to go to the doctor to get a breast biopsy to determine whether I have a staph infection or some benign breast issue (seriously doubting its cancer, no worries). im starting to think its the former because i suddenly have a sore throat as well, i havent been sick in two years!and its my birthday tomorrow.

in the words of my generation. this is LAMESAUCE
p.s. i'll take everyones advice and try to eat normally today. i dont feel like i'll throw up anymore, just no interest in it. the bf was trying to get me to eat last night (he's such a good atkinite haha) but i was being stubborn. but i'll work on it

[rajenki]

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{kibs}

Take care of yourself sweetie!