I really need some ADBB love here

[jsj0305]

Okay. I really need you guys to help me here. I have been on Atkins, and I know it is wonderful. I feel better about everything. I feel like I have control in my hectic life. The only problem is, I cannot stick with it!!! I set a goal for myself and then somehow I fanegal my way out of it. I allow myself to blame it on everything that has nothing to do with my eating!!! I had a death in my family, I fell off. I have to move out b/c of a bad situation, I fell off. I was going to go to Disney World, and I'm not now, and you guessed it, I fell off. I let everything get to me. ERRRRRRRRRRR

I'm so mad at myself b/c I told myself, I am going to go swimming in Disney (heated, don't worry!) I am going to be the best lookin gone in a bathing suit. I am going to be sexy. Then we aren't going, so I stopped caring!!! What would have happened had I lost all the weight by the trip? When I got home, I wouldn't have had a reason to stay on. I would be right where I am now.

I want to be healthy, I want to be thin.

Does this make sence: I don't have a taste for ANYTHING. Yet, I eat horrible foods. I don't like the way cookies taste to me, yet I eat them anyway!!! What is wrong with me???

I feel like I am in a rut. I want to get out, but I feel like I'm so used to where I am now, I can't budge. I'm just stuck.

I know you guys have always been here for me, and I really need you guys now. Please help me.

Love and Hug, Stephanie

[not2late]

Re: I really need some ADBB love here

It seems like you are losing weight in order to look good, not to feel good or be healthy. I'm not saying that the desire to look good isn't a legitimate goal, but it seems in your case you look at it as a 'take it or leave it' goal that you can walk away from because vacation plans change.

Sooooo....why not make your goal more 'weighty': Change your goal from "looking sexy" to being healthy, to improving your cholesterol, to increasing your lifespan by decreasing your heart disease risk factors, to increasing your physical stamina and energy. It makes it harder for you to slack off if you beleive your life depends on acheiving your goal.

[dreamof145]

Re: I really need some ADBB love here

When you 'fall off the wagon' is it usually because you have a bad situation going on? Write down some alternative behaviors to handling crisis for yourself instead of eating. Get yourself as far away from the kitchen as possible. Go for a walk, talk to a friend, express your feelings in a 1 page letter to yourself about why you want to succeed, look at photos of something you want (either thinner photo of yourself or a reward you've agreed on for yourself for succeeding).

I'd say that if you have a plan in effect and you are very serious about losing the weight, then you will stand a better chance of not failing. It isn't easy, but it can be easier if you plan for times when you know you have difficulty and need extra motivation. We are here for you, come into the ADBB and get support. Join a challenge, read the success stories of others....Best Wishes!!