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    Birthday Party....HELP!

    last night hubby and i were invited to my mother in laws Bday Party, complete with cake and ice cream, I am SO dreading this not only because of the illegal food but because when i refuse the cake and ice cream it will put the spotlight on me and for the next two hours i will be answering questions and listening to everyones "opinions" on the diet and blah, blah, blah.....my in laws are very, very nosy and do not hesitate to put you on the spot. I cant get the flu, we have to go to this......any suggestions? somebody out there must have been in my position. THANK YOU!
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    Re: Birthday Party....HELP!

    Eat before you go. Pretend to have an upset stomach when it's time for the cake and icecream. My family's the same way. I totally understand what youre going through.


    Female-- 30 5' 5 1/2"

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    • #3
      Re: Birthday Party....HELP!

      Just be honest, people have been forcing the sweets in my face for the last week and a half and I am just honest and tell them, no thanks. If they pry, I let them know I am on a diet. If they still pry (lol), I tell them I am on atkins. Be strong, who knows, maybe other people there are interested in trying it too, you never know! =) Good luck!!
      ______________________________________________
      angela

      SW: 162/CW: 162/GW: 135
      5'2", 24, female
      1st start: April 18th, 2006
      2nd time around: February 5th, 2007







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      • #4
        Re: Birthday Party....HELP!

        OH been there done that! Just tell them no thanks, I'm on a diet OR I'm trying to change my old eating habbits. (Don't say Atkins or you will for sure get everyone started on you, both GOOD AND BAD!!)

        I went to a BBQ and just because I refused the grilled baked patato I had to listen to this one guy for like 3 hours telling me how he did atkins and how its bad and he would give me this deit thing that he did Blah Blah Blah Blah.....NON STOP The more I tried to defend myself the more he kept going. I gave up and just shook my head BUT I DID NOT EAT THAT PATATO!!!! SO I won lol.

        This was one of my hubby's friends and do you thing hubby stepped in and said anything? NO!, instead he waited until we left to tell me that he is proud of me and I have to do what I think is best for me to lose the weight. Then promised me a sports car if I got to 160 lbs. ROFL as if we could afford it.

        1. eat before you go!
        2. take a safe snack with you!
        3. take your bottle of water with you!
        and Good luck!
        Priscilla
        S W 285 /C W 244 /G W 160
        Mini Goal - 230's by August Woo Hoo Dave Matthews Band concert HERE I COME.
        17510



        *It's the hardest thing to do, but you must think of yourself first before anything else can be accomplished. It's not selfish, it's the truth.*

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        • #5
          Re: Birthday Party....HELP!

          I agree with tpampel, eat before you go.

          If you have an understanding relationship with your in-laws, you might want to take them aside before the party to explain you are on a strict weight loss diet and you absolutely cannot have sugary foods. You don't need to divulge what diet you are on (because most diets won't allow you have cake anyway.) And most people will be understanding and supportive.

          If anyone asks you why you aren't having any cake, you can just say "I'm absolutely stuffed! I can't eat another bite!"

          If you are pressed about your diet, just tell whoever that you're trying to follow the new Food Pyramid guidelines about eliminating sugary foods, eating more vegetables, whole minimally processed foods and better quality protein (non-processed foods). If they ask why you aren't eating any pasta, potatoes, etc. Tell them you've already eaten your allowance for the day.

          If they really lay into you, just say "you know, I'd love to spend the entire evening talking me, but it's my dear mother-in-law's birthday. It's her day, not mine. If I had to spend my birthday party listening to someone else's life story, I'd feel ignored, unwanted and un-appreciated by my friends and family."

          Also enlist your husband, so he can help you fight off any attackers.

          Good luck to you. And remember you're losing weight for yourself and your health. What anyone else thinks shouldn't matter because you're not losing weight to please them.

          ~Megs~
          242/141/160 (130)
          dress size 26/10/8
          5'4", Female, May 2, 2003
          My blog:
          http://mformiscellaneous.blogspot.com/

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          • #6
            Re: Birthday Party....HELP!

            Oops, I forgot something else. Make sure you set aside a snack at home for after the party if you need it. So something like a couple of devilled eggs or some cheese or a small tuna salad. That way if you are still hungry, you know you have something to eat when you get home.

            If your in-laws are going to have alcoholic drinks, you might want to bring a bottle of plain seltzer water. Seltzer can look like a cocktail if you serve it in a glass with ice and a wedge of lime or lemon. That way no one can assault you with the "Hey, have a drink!" line.
            ~Megs~
            242/141/160 (130)
            dress size 26/10/8
            5'4", Female, May 2, 2003
            My blog:
            http://mformiscellaneous.blogspot.com/

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            • #7
              Re: Birthday Party....HELP!

              Thanks all for the replies everyone, i get along with my in laws fine, love my mother in law dearly but i dont feel like going through the pros and cons of this and that diet all day, my hubby says as a show of support hes not having cake and ice cream either. I've just decided to tell them that i'm cutting back on my sugar consumption. Period. I cant believe i'm 43 years old and still worry about this stuff.

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              • #8
                Re: Birthday Party....HELP!

                Depending on how far along you are on induction, this might be a thought, make some sugar free jello and take to the party. it's something that kids at the party would enjoy and if there is anyone there with diabetes(sp) they could also share in it with you and have something there that they could eat also that isn't loaded with sugar. atleast then you could eat some type of dessert and it might keep the questions down to a minimal.

                I have an uncle with diabetes(sp) and anytime we have a family get-together, we all try to make atleast one dessert a piece that is sugar free or substituted with splenda.

                Family and friends always mean well but sometimes they just don't understand, i always get comments like, "one little bite wont hurt" or "just this once you can go off your diet". little do they know the effects going off this woe will effect the weight loss.

                I wish you luck and hope that this suggestion might help.

                moniegail


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                • #9
                  Re: Birthday Party....HELP!

                  To succeed with Atkins it needs to become a permanent lifestyle. Friends and family are usually supportive of our choices if we take a firm stand. Be vocal about your decision to eat healthy food and don't waver. Ask for their help.

                  Enjoy the spotlight. You can bet there will be someone else watching who will find your dilligence inspiring.

                  Take your own treats to share. Stuffed mushrooms is a crowd pleaser.
                  Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary. Eckhart Tolle


                  ]
                  Female, 48, 5'3 :lol:
                  SW 207 / CW 165/ GW 150
                  Started Atkins 1st Feb 2005
                  Still holding at a happy size 16.



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                  • #10
                    Re: Birthday Party....HELP!

                    These are all good possibilities. I like the jello idea especially. But also, if you can, find out what is going to be served before/during the meal; if there's room for you to add a dish &/or appetizer that you can eat, you can be "stuffed" long before getting to the dab of the starchies which they may put on your plate FOR you.

                    If it's a large number of guests, your less likely to be noticed not finishing your plate. If not, when they question your not eating something, here's some other lines:
                    I had a HUGE (prior meal) just a couple hours ago.
                    I've developed an allergy to (that food).
                    I'm feeling a little woozy - may I be excused/ have some water?
                    (Ignore the statement and change the subject) - Mother, did you make this wonderful (whatever you DID eat)?
                    ~Susan
                    49/f 5'7" Start 2-27-06 SW222/11-18-09 @ 160-ish/G135-150ish??

                    Doin Miles, Flights, & Kid Ketchin'...
                    2 Ab Chal's; 6WEC#27 slug-Free; & more; 50# LOST in'06-
                    but regained ~20# in '07 in less than 3 weeks! And again early '08 ...Was in HEAVEN -got to 150, for awhile, then got too busy, and gave in too much... and... OK holding pattern "keep it together..."

                    .................OMG how did I fail AGAIN
                    (((on temporary break)))
                    Sigh ... I'll be back... life isn't always fair 10-07-09

                    "Goal: First you have to dream of it. Then you have to do it." Author unknown

                    sheesh

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                    • #11
                      Re: Birthday Party....HELP!

                      Originally posted by owlbaby
                      Thanks all for the replies everyone, i get along with my in laws fine, love my mother in law dearly but i dont feel like going through the pros and cons of this and that diet all day, my hubby says as a show of support hes not having cake and ice cream either. I've just decided to tell them that i'm cutting back on my sugar consumption. Period. I cant believe i'm 43 years old and still worry about this stuff.
                      Good for you. Most people won't harp on you if you tell them you're cutting back on sugar.

                      ~Megs~
                      242/141/160 (130)
                      dress size 26/10/8
                      5'4", Female, May 2, 2003
                      My blog:
                      http://mformiscellaneous.blogspot.com/

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                      • #12
                        Re: Birthday Party....HELP!

                        I think people on this diet are hypersensitive to what others are going to think of them because of all the witchhunting that's gone on in the media over the past couple of years. I don't know that I believe in that "spotlight" that lots of people on the forum talk about whenever they get nervous about going to parties or events. Saying "I'm trying to stay away from sugar" is more than enough to diffuse any situation, and I've been in plenty of them.
                        Female, 21, 5'6"
                        Start: October 24th, 2005, um, restart FOR REALZ 2/24/2007
                        Total Lost: 60 pounds
                        237.5/177.5/170/Long Term 120
                        Then I gained some back, but let's not talk about that, shall we? 194.6/193.2/177.5/120
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                        • #13
                          Re: Birthday Party....HELP!

                          good for you tell them as Gina said so well "I'm allergic to carbs. they break me out in fat!" and enjoy your low carb foods and celebrate the love and freindship you share with your inlaws and not the food.

                          Happy low carbing
                          by the book atkinseer

                          started 6/1/02 at 313
                          goalie 5/04 at 167 with under 15% body fat ADBB Presidents exercise Challenge


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                          • #14
                            Re: Birthday Party....HELP!

                            BTW, you could also take along a copy of the book to show folks who may be interested in learning more.

                            When I got around to telling Mom, (she's the one who was a total skeptic and disapproved of the old Atkins version years ago, saying it is bad for you, etc.,etc. until I quit after 6 months of dieting),... the first thing she did was toss her head back, scoffing, and saying "Oh, sure, that diet is so good, when Dr. Atkins died no one was allowed to do an autopsy because..." I gave her my extra copy of DANDR.
                            She's now on my side!!
                            ~Susan
                            49/f 5'7" Start 2-27-06 SW222/11-18-09 @ 160-ish/G135-150ish??

                            Doin Miles, Flights, & Kid Ketchin'...
                            2 Ab Chal's; 6WEC#27 slug-Free; & more; 50# LOST in'06-
                            but regained ~20# in '07 in less than 3 weeks! And again early '08 ...Was in HEAVEN -got to 150, for awhile, then got too busy, and gave in too much... and... OK holding pattern "keep it together..."

                            .................OMG how did I fail AGAIN
                            (((on temporary break)))
                            Sigh ... I'll be back... life isn't always fair 10-07-09

                            "Goal: First you have to dream of it. Then you have to do it." Author unknown

                            sheesh

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