what the heck?

[loana]

Ok.... so hubby never does this.. but tonight he decided he wanted to get the kids dessert so he comes home with vanilla icecream and oreo cookies.. made them some smoothies!!! Well.. when they were eating it.. I figured I would have a protein bar (I know some people do not recommend them for induction) so far I ate one earlier today and obviously one tonight.. and had eaten them in the past without affecting my weight loss.. anyhow... so I ate that to avoid what he made.. so he comes and ask me.. "did you taste it yet?" and I say no thanks.. andhe is like come on you have to taste this and I said no.. trying not to upset him and he is almost pushing the spoon against my face and I said politely "Come on babe I have done so weel for this 4 days I do not want to screw it up just to taste it" and he says you will not screw it up with just this one taste... I said no I am sorry but when I am not ona diet I will have a whole freaking cup if you want.. he just said you are always ona diet sooo I feel bad as he was trying to be sweet but why can't he understand I am really trying to loose weight? Ughhh
sorry minivent over!

[Lisa M]

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Oh, man...I mean, men. Sometimes they don't get it, and yet they do when they try to tease us like that. Look at it this way....you past the test; your own personal test against temptation. Take note and remember that for next time and lovingly remind him that you're not on a "diet", you're eating to take of you. I'm proud of ya! Keep it up

Ps....maybe even kindly thank him for that test....lol..

[Atkid]

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Good job resisting it Loana! Shoved that far into my face I probably would have buckled down and taken it.

[DragonflyMoon]

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Hi Loana ~

Sounds like you are having a night like i am! At least with the frustrations and all. Tonight is one of those nights for me where nothing is going my way. I even tried hard boiling eggs and they ended up exploding and there was white crap everywhere in the pot. Who can't hard boil eggs? WHO? Me...

Anyway, hang in there, sweetie. I know it is hard. We all experience this at one time or another, i am sure we'll all agree. And maybe this would be the perfect opportunity for people to share what their personal experiences are with this ~ and how they handled it. I was just discussing this today with my weight loss buddy that i met here on ADBB last time around! Here is what i wrote to her this morning...

Overweight is one of the only addictions that is not considered an addiction. When you are addicted to carbohydrates, people don't think of this or treat it as an actual addiction. How many times have you been dieting and have had someone say, "Oh, you can just cheat this once, it is okay!" or "It's my birthday - you have to have a piece of cake!" They wouldn't dream of telling an alcoholic that it is okay to "Just have one drink." Or a drug addict ~ "Come on, just one line... it's my birthday." (Okay, maybe they would - but they would be deemed extremely unsensitive and rude.)

People need to honor us and our issues with carbs. We count too, don't we? CARBOHOLICS UNITE!

~ Jenna

[loana]

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Thank you so much girls!!!!!! he just went to get kids ion bed... I can;t type much now LOL.. but will update you all tomorrow!
(((hugs))))

[2big4mysize]

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Take Dr Atkins advise and recuriut him to be part of your Atkins support network. Do a Dr Phil on him and tell him how much you need him to be your biggest cheerleader when you are doing good and your strength when you are tempted so you two can grow old together in a healthy relationship. Give him the Dr Phil I needshouldn't/can't have in my face.

Then he can show you how much he loves you by helping you out. Of course you will be so busted if you cave to the high carbs and go on a binder.

[andalien]

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CONGRATS ON FIGHTING THE TEMPTATION!

I also have problems with my fiance... and it's because he decided to do this diet to support me, but he didn't read the book, so basicly he has me telling him what to eat and making the food. It gets sooooo frustrating!, specially this weekend...

him: why do you say I can't have this drink?
me: because it's made with sugar and lemon... it's a big no...
him: but why?, just one can't hurt...
me: with that you'll ruin what you did that week, it will get you off ketosis...
* he has 2 drinks anyway*

him: why can't I eat fried potatoes?
me: it's forbiden on induction, it has too many carbs...
him: a couple of them can't hurt...
* he eats a bunch *

then the same with the fried potatoes that where being served at lunch at my mother's place (we go there to have lunch on saturdays)

then the same on sunday with my dad...

he asked me like 1000 times if he could have that drink (here it's used as appetizar, every chilean drinks it... pisco sour...) and i explained all the time why not... he was driving me crazy to the point that i sent him to ****... nicely... because besides cheating, he wanted me to cheat... i think it was to make him feel better about his cheating... but i didn't

i told him that if he didn't wanted to do the diet, to not do it... because it was not a diet, it's a way of life, and my new way of life, and that he was doing nothing but wrong to his body if he planned to just follow this for a little while, then cheat, and go back...

also explained how bad he was doing to me by trying to make me cheat, he's been with me for 7 years, and he knows my strugles with diets, pills, protein shaked, magic belts... etc... and i explained him the reason i failed always (and i realized that in just my first week at atkins) was because i always knew that i had to change my habits for life, and i knew i was not going to be able to live for a long period of time just eating boiled chicken, grass and a fruit, that always made me back to eat more bad food and gain more weight... and this has been like magic for me, because i have found out that for every thing i like, there's a low carb way of doing it... and i am happy, because i know i can change my way of life, i have been on "diet" for a week and i feel wonderful, just know i am on a program because i am looking at the labels on every product and counting carbs, I have lost 10 pounds, eating things I like... last week i just couldn't understand that i was actually following the rules, and losing the pounds, i am amazed that i havent cheated... ordered a huge pizza or ate a bowl of ice cream... i had to buy the keto strips to convince myself i was really doing things right...

For all what i said, and that i made clear to my fiancee... I AM NOT GOING TO LET ANYONE TAKE THIS FROM ME! period. Every cell in my body knows I already am a different person... there's no way back for me.

then i chilled... and i explained him again about atkins and the induction stage, and why it was wrong to have those little sips and bites... he thought i was being psycho (specially because of the lecture I gave him before)... so today i took him with me to the grocery store, showed him the labels, showed him how much carbs the things he had bits from had... finally i brought him home and showed him my fitday, and how not a day i have gone over 20g... then showed him one i did for him for just what he ate at saturdays lunch (more than 300g)... he was speechless.

Finally... he understands... and he's reading the book too... lol... i am no longer his atkins mommy... lol

[DragonflyMoon]

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Wow ~ Andalien ~ YOU ROCK! That rules, girl! Great post...

[abbellire]

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My (skinny) husband doesn't get it either. He picked fresh raspberries (my fave--I can't wait until the fruit rung of OWL) and wanted me to try it. I resisted.

At the county fair, he bought homemade raspberry ice cream. Jerk! I had diet Pepsi.
At the restaurant, he actually shoved a roll in my face! I was so angry with him that I almost hurled the roll across the restaurant and refused to talk to him until he apologized.

Now that I've lost some weight and refuse to give in, I think he's finally getting it. Oh, and the fact that I made him eggs and bacon for breakfast this weekend helped, too.

[loana]

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hehe is nice to hear I am not alone... he tried doing this diet a while back but he refuses to give up carbs.. he eats a lot of crap.. just like his parents!
I did talk to him and he said he was sorry....
Have a wonderful day everyone!

[Sweet_Sadie]

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It's called SABOTAGE Loana!

Sabotage even if it wasn't intentional maybe it was subliminal. Maybe deep down he thinks that if you lose weight you'll leave him or some other nonsense! This is so common!

[loana]

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aweeee my poor hubby!!!!! I will have to have a talk to him tonight!
Thanskgirly
Off to practice with my camera I need to learn this thing lol

[not2late]

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I agree with 2Big, recruit your hubby as your weight loss cheer-leader. Tell him that "one bite" will derail your weight loss. Tell him that you've decided that him and your children deserve a healthy and fit wife and mother, rather than a fat, unhealthy one.

[loana]

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tahnks not2late I will definitely have a talk with him about why I need is support hopefully tonight!

[bizzlekitty]

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Honestly, even if your spouse/relative/friend etc. is skinny doesn't mean that crap they eat isn't bad for them. Not overweight doesn't necessarily mean healthy. Normal weight people have heart attacks, bp issues, etc. Yes, it's more likely if you are overweight, but eventually, things do catch up with you, in aging, diseases, etc. If you are eating right and healthy now, even if overweight, you are more likely to be healthier, have a better immune system, more energy, slowed down aging and less likely to have issues later on in life such as heart disease, arthritis, etc.

This doesn't mean you can't have a treat every now and then and enjoy good food, but it should be just that, the rare treat. What we eat each and every day does make a difference, good or bad.

Stay strong, for your health!