Getting attention

[chubbychickwillbeslim]

OK, so at the risk of making myself sound like a shallow idiot, has anyone noticed they get more attention off the opposite sex when you are slimmer?



It’s just (and oh my, this sounds conceted!) but I am a very pretty girl, I know I am and when people see photos of me they always comment on how beautiful I am but then when they see the real me they are disappointed. I am sure that’s because of my weight. It’s not like I am massively overweight and it really gets me down that people can over look a beautiful, friendly girl because she has 30lbs to lose.



Such as, a couple of years ago when I was around 145lbs I would get SO much attention yet I wasn’t as pretty or well presented as I am now. I would just like to think there is a light at the end of the tunnel where I feel I can go out with my head held high and get the attention I deserve.



So, 3 questions really…

• Have YOU personally noticed more attention as you get slimmer?
• Do you find slimmer people more attractive? (and hands up, guilty as charged on this one)
• Do you think it has more to do with confidence than weight? Like as you get slimmer, you feel better, thus attract more glances?

[Lady_Hawke]

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So, 3 questions really…

• Have YOU personally noticed more attention as you get slimmer?
• I've always gotten attention from men. Look at my siggy and you'll see my weight. Right now at this weight men flirt with me, smile and wink at me, call me beautiful, gorgeous and sweetheart. I know when I reach goal and on my way down the attention will increase but I think that has to do with my attitude towards myself.
• Do you find slimmer people more attractive? (and hands up, guilty as charged on this one) I think its the individual - I've met some people who are beautiful on their outside but ugly on the inside and that inner ugly always shines thru. Vice Versa too -
• I think John Goodman from Roseanne is handsome and I think Naveen Andrews from Lost is too. Its the person.
• Do you think it has more to do with confidence than weight? Yes Like as you get slimmer, you feel better, thus attract more glances? Yes I think so.

[sallyseachange]

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Yes... definitely get more attention. Even at 53!
No... don't find slimmer people more attractive, necessarily.
Yes... confidence and feeling good about yourself have a huge effect on demeanour.

[cincywbbw]

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I actualy perfer my men to be on the thick side.
I went on a date with a guy the other night, that I had dated months before. and even after only loosing 10 lbs he asked me if I had lost weight. I was suprised it was that noticible. Maybe I am a bit vain, but him noticing ..put me on top of the world. It was a huge confidence boost.

[not2late]

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So, 3 questions really…

• Have YOU personally noticed more attention as you get slimmer?
• Do you find slimmer people more attractive? (and hands up, guilty as charged on this one)
• Do you think it has more to do with confidence than weight? Like as you get slimmer, you feel better, thus attract more glances?

1. Yes.

2. No. They might be attractive to look at because clothes fit better on them, but that's where the attraction begins and ends with me. I've met too many nice people who would be considered physicially unattractive, but they were intelligent, witty and had good personalities. As Judge Judy says "Beauty fades; dumb is forever."

3. Not really. I think self-confidence is something slim people, medium-sized people and extra-large people can have and cannot have. Insecurity doesn't discriminate.

I think the bottom line is if you are happy with you, it shows and people will see that contentment in everything you do.

[misplaced southerner]

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hi all!
i am new here and usually just asking questions but i really wanted to reply to this post so here goes...

1. i have been really heavy,,,topping out at 220. at my lowest i was 150. i noticed DEFINITELY that i received much more attention when i was slimmer. this is not just from the opposite sex but from people such as sales clerks, checkers, administrators at work....the list goes on. as a heavy person i felt INVISIBLE! sad to say....as great as i am on the inside, few people saw the real me til i shrunk...

2. i do not necessarily find slim people more attractive but it indicates to me maybe a healthier lifestyle and THAT is attractive to me. i like my men with a little muscle...no skinny boys please ..i do think however that is a matter of personal taste

3. my own confidence SOARED as i lost weight mostly because i was able to do so much more...as a VISIBLE person instead of INVISIBLE i was much more active in the world around me. with each achievement and new experience i felt more and more confident...keep in mind that my weight loss came after a very ugly divorce so i was REALLY finding out who i was. AND I LIKED HER!!!!

i had to learn to love me for me,,,,,and THAT is why, that love for myself, i want to feel the best that i can and that is why i am doing this....day #8 and going strong

[rescueme1975]

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Hi all,

1.) I have to say yes I got more attention when I was smaller than I am now. I was very confident also, so I think thats what attracts others.
2.) I use to only date skinny men, but now that I have a man with a little meat on his bones, I can never do skinny again.
3.)I think it was my confidence that attracted others (and looks of course, lol), I've seen some small people with no confidence. But I will say that weight can play a part in confidence for some.

Good questions.

[Lyssie]

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1. I guess I've always gotten attention from boys (weighing anywhere from 312-145). My current BF makes fun of me since I was never actually single for more than I think 2-3 weeks from 15 - now. This might be due to the fact that I can be a tomboy at times and have a large chest though...

2. I used to go just for skinny boys. I dunno why, maybe since all my brothers were so it's what I grew up with knowing (or maybe I had some sick, incestual crush on them)? That was a joke. I go with boys who take care of themselves, but aren't overly picky on things. Sorry, but I just can't deal with boys who spend more time looking in a mirror than at me. At the same time, any guy I date now basically has to work out. I think that might be since it's such a huge part of my life though and I want someone who understands that and I can share things with (like improving weight, or time, or distance).

3. I think that it definitely has to do with personality. I was thinner, more outgoing, more friends, everything... when I gained the weight I stopped talking to new people, and somewhat distanced myself from the older friends and going out. Now that I'm losing it again, I find myself more outgoing, more willing to try new things and take chances, etc which definitely increases my chances of attracting more mens.

[julirama723]

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1. I have been getting more attention, but I'm not sure if it's because I'm skinnier, or because I have WAY more confidence and I feel great about myself. As I started getting thinner, I started caring more about my appearance. I really think that it's the confidence shining through that people are becoming more attracted to, not my shrinking frame.

2. It depends on the person. I tend to see a person as a whole, not just as a body. I've seen men who were gorgeous and muscular, skinny sexy band guys, and hot beefy football players.

3. I think most of it has to do with confidence. I like myself and feel more comfortable, and people see that and are attracted to that. My boyfriend says I'm sexy no matter what I weigh, but what he thinks is sexiest is not that I'm skinnier, but that I have SO much more confidence and a much more positive attitude about myself.

[frenchfri38]

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1. YES WAY MORE ATTENTION WHEN YOUR THINNER...EVEN THOUGH I'M CUTE AS HE11 FAT OR SKINNY (KIDDING). BUT I MYSELF WILL GIVE A THINNER MALE MORE ATTENTION THAN I WOULD A OVERLY THICK MAN....(SORRY I KNOW THATS SHALLOW.

2. YES MALE AND FEMALE thinner people ARE WAY MORE ATTRACTIVE THAN THE THICKER PEOPLE... THE WAY THEY DRESS... I KNOW MYSELF WHEN I HAVE EXTRA POUNDS ON ME I DO MY BEST TO HIDE IT...BAGGEY CLOTHES ALL THE TIME ...HOODIES EVERYDAY... GOD FORBID SOMEONE SEE THE BACK BOOBS... (rolls under the bra).... i dont think dressing the way i do is very attractive...but going the other way is ulgy too.... not caring about back fat or rolls that just hang and wearing tight clothes......

3. I feel that over weight people tend to hide inside themselves...I know thats the case for me... I feel awful and i know i look that way.....and its all because of the almighty cookie... thats shameful to me... But when you shed the pounds you dont feel that way anymore ....the more you lose the better you feel and that shows... I think its that way for everyone... I'm sorry but nobody is truly happy being over weight... they cannot be...health wise or just in general...

[tkdhabidah]

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Okay, first of all, I have to say that I love this post, I love the honesty of it, very interesting...

• Have YOU personally noticed more attention as you get slimmer?
• Do you find slimmer people more attractive? (and hands up, guilty as charged on this one)
• Do you think it has more to do with confidence than weight? Like as you get slimmer, you feel better, thus attract more glances?

1. YES. I think it is human nature to be somewhat shallow, so to speak. When I dropped down into onederland the first time I was on Atkins, you wouldn't believe how many people would hit on me right in front of my hubby even. Keep in mind, I also dressed much differently, with the confidence to show off my...ahem...assets.

2. Not usually. My hubby is very very tiny, and I obviously think he is attractive, but when I see a head turner, it is a tall, thick, burly type guy...I guess it is the manly-man thing.

3. YES. Confidence is projected. I have only lost 10 lbs so far this time around, and I already carry myself differently. I think confidence is much more magnetic than weight.

[Scooterjam]

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From a guys point of view, I started this WOL about a year ago. I weighed 295 pounds. I am a married man. (A friend (female) of mine once said, I can walk into a room and tell you which of the men are happily married in here, the heavy guys are happy, the skinny guys are looking!) Now, that being said, I've lost 65 pounds, still a bit heavy, but very very happily married. The odd thing is this...

As most of you know, I'm a musician, guitar player and singer, I play at restaurants and bars, solo artist. When I weighed 295, I was basically a machine, pumping out songs, hardly noticed in the background. Filling a (largely filling haha) time slot. I always put out a tip bucket, I'd walk away with a couple bucks from time to time. I would only play out 4 -5 times a month.

Now my schedule is 10 - 15 times a month. I get the pretty bar girls, flashing eyelashes..., tables of girls, giggling, yada yada yada, oh Scooter will you play 'Brown Eyed Girl' for me...(I really hate that song...haha). I have been approached several times for private parties and weddings (this has resulted in many many new jobs), something that never happened before I lost the weight. And get this, a bad night is when I walk away with only $20 or so in tips. I don't get it either. My wife says (just as Juliarama says about herself) it's because of my confidence in my appearance, and it reflects in my performance. People say it's fun to see me perform.

Go figure.

[sallyseachange]

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Wow Scooter! What a cool upturn for your career!

[Scooterjam]

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Yeah, I didn't really plan it that way, but man am I ever glad I shed those pounds. I couldn't have been able to keep such a greuling schedule. Believe it or not I have a regular '40 hours' a week job too! Staying busy is good.

I absolutely love Music though. It's my passion.

[Lady_Hawke]

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Yeah, I didn't really plan it that way, but man am I ever glad I shed those pounds. I couldn't have been able to keep such a greuling schedule. Believe it or not I have a regular '40 hours' a week job too! Staying busy is good.

I absolutely love Music though. It's my passion.

Hi Scooter - what kind of music do you sing? Oooo would you sing Brown Eyed Girl for me LMAO. I'm just teasing. I've had that sung to me so many times, I don't like it anymore. Do you sing country?