Is she jealous?

[rail1983]

ok so since i been on atkins exactly one week i have went from 273 to 265! I have heard a lot of negative talk about this diet from the media and people so i decided that i wasn't going to tell my friends how i'm losing my weight. So last friday my best friend offered me some strawberries and i told her no because i could not eat them. she asked why and i told her that i'm on the atkins diet. She started being so negative about it and saying that its not healthy and that any dietian can tell you that its not healthy. She said i;m giving upa regular diet because i'm not seeing the results i want to see. Then i watch weightloss stuff on tv just to stay motivated! she told me that i'm getting on her nerves with all this weight loss talk. Remind you i have a 3 month old infant at home so i'm still trying to lose baby fat. My friend weighs 300 plus pounds and now she is 4 months pregnant so she has more weight to gain. She told me that i'm acting as if i am morbidly obese and i told her that i am. i am 100 pounds over weight for my height and age which is 25. is she jealous or what? what do you do when you have negative friends like that?

[carbless_in_seattle]

Re: Is she jealous?

yes. She has decided that the diet is too strict for her to follow, she doesn't have the willpower or the determination to succeed, so she doesn't want to see others succeed either. Although, she can't really do atkins because she is pregnant anyway.

That being said, just inform her. Atkins is not unhealthy. People who do the diet wrong have given it a bad name. They think that all we eat is meat and fat. They don't know that we eat a ton of veggies, and we eat healthy fats. Eventually you can eat whole wheat breads too. It's actually the diet that nature intended. You think God made us thinking we'd go hunt and gather a bunch of twinkies and baconators?

[cherribom1]

Re: Is she jealous?

Be prepared, there are many people who are against this WOE. Educate the ones who want to learn and ignore those who don't. When I first started losing the weight people would say "don't lose too much weight now", or "I think you looked better when you were heavier" or spread rumors that I had tapeworm, I looked like a crackhead or I was bulimic. I guess people just can't believe you can lose weight through healthy eating and exercise and quickly.... and maybe some are a lil jealous. So don't take offense just keep doing what you are doing if you see results and feel this WOL is right for you!

[tangotori]

Re: Is she jealous?

I soooo hate to say this, Rail... you won't benefit by the friendship of people who you can't count on, who don't support you, who bring negativity into your life.

I'm not saying drop your friend... but I am saying that you should have a conversation with her explaining what kind of friendship you're looking for from her. Hopefully she'll come through for you!

Good luck with this!

[rail1983]

Re: Is she jealous?

We have been friends for 12 years now. when growing up before i had children i weighed about 170 and it looked good in high school because i'm tall and i've always had big breast. Its all well porportioned not all bad body ( a florida out of shape slang word) and ugly! My friend has always been big always and so she is comfortbale i guess being her size. but back when i was smaller i got all the attention from guys when we would go places. now that i am bigger i dont. She is bigger than i am but she has a better looking face than i have so she gets lots of attention even at her size. i'm wondering if she feels threatened if i get smaller again? I'm loseing that weight for me. at 25 i have high cholesterol and my doctor threaten to put me on long term medication at age 25!! thats crazy and i can't have it!! i have to change things now! i have three children. My family supports it and encourage me to stick with it! i'm just not going to talk about weightloss around her. She will just have to see my change

[cherribom1]

Re: Is she jealous?

If this helps motivate you at all, after I had started Atkins, my total cholesterol went from 220 to 159!

[carbless_in_seattle]

Re: Is she jealous?

I have a friend who works out everyday, but doesn't change her eating habits ever, and she has a huge BLT for lunch everyday, and she eats pastas and tons of carbs, and eats at olive garden all the time, etc.

She wants to get thin (she's about 210 pounds), and she thinks that working out everyday should work, but it isn't because she hasn't changed her diet.

She hates on me all the time for being on Atkins. She says it's so unhealthy-- and that I'll always be on a weight roller coaster because atkins is not something any normal person can actually stick with.

She is insanely jealous of me, my boyfriend says it's ridiculously obvious in the way she talks to me/treats me. She treats me very poorly, like a puppy she gets to beat, whenever I'm losing weight.

I hate it. We're barely friends anymore.

[widget246k]

Re: Is she jealous?

Sometimes when people are jealous, they try to sabotage your efforts and make you feel bad about your successes. They try to bring you down with them and they think, "Well, maybe if she feels bad enough, then she'll join back in with me eating junk food and I won't be the only heavy one." I've had many people do things like this to me throughout my journey, so I know what it's like. Just stick to this WOE for yourself and know that you're committing to a healthier lifestyle and a better quality of life. Sorry your friend is not supporting you in this.

[superunknown]

Re: Is she jealous?

Ask your friend what healthier,lugging around an extra 100 lbs. or having some will power to get yourself into shape.I'd say her attitude isn't very healthy..

[ceemarie]

Re: Is she jealous?

You have to decide how important this friendship is versus that of your health. If you choose to keep the friendship, perhaps you need to avoid food situations aound her unless she can respect your decision to folloe Atkins.

[chilee1]

Re: Is she jealous?

I can really relate to what you are saying here, especially with my husband...when we met, before we were married, before we dated, he was thin, I was heavy. I started Atkins shortly after meeting him and lost a lot of weight, he gained a lot of weight, and then when we started dating and he badgered me so much about Atkins saying I was full of ketones (this was long after induction) and that it was not healthy, and then he would start in on me with "ice cream was our thing and now you won't spend time with me"...it was like our whole relationship was initally started out with food...he liked the way I looked, but not the way I ate...he badgered me so much I quit the WOE and gained more than half the weight back..he never lost the weight either and he loves to tell me how to lose weight, but never does anything consistent for himself to lose weight, so I started ignoring him and I'm back on track this time and I'm sticking to it...sorry about this long story, but my point is that you need to do this for YOU, no one else, don't listen to the negativity, just smile and be quiet...I don't even tell people I follow a low carb eating plan, I just tell them I'm watching what I eat and that seems to satisfy them. Hang in there, you can do it!

[rail1983]

Re: Is she jealous?

I agree with you there so i'm just going to not talk about it with her anymore. she can just watch me change right before her eyes

[Chad's Wife]

Re: Is she jealous?

I can't say if she is jealous or not . But if you don't set her straight now . She could be a road block for you . I myself would just not talk about your woe around this one person . Instead find someone who can be more supportive for you . If this "friend" is a friend she'd shut her mouth . And realize that you are trying to get healthy and stay healthy . And she should be happy for you , not shoot you down .
Surround yourself with more supportive people ........ And quick !

[DLS]

Re: Is she jealous?

I believe that a lot of people get defensive feeling and therefore lash out at the ones doing better than they are. They "KNOW" that have to lose the weight, but they just can't seem to commit. I remember feeling jealous of others that were succeeding in their healty lifestyles and here I was sitting on the couch with a giant bowl of cereal and soda late at night watcing tv.
I would just politely tell her that you know what is best for you and that you are doing your best to be the best you that you can. You will want to run and play with that precious baby of yours and not be so winded that you can't.
Stick with it. We are here for support and we have all been there! If we hadn't....we wouldn't be here!

[Kamikins]

Re: Is she jealous?

I agree. Don't let her drag you down. I have heard and read all about how unhealthy the Atkins is. It's true that we take in fat and calories, but 75% of our card intake is vegatables! So many people hear Atkins and think it's a whole consumptions of Meat and cheese. It's honestly the natural diet. What neanderthals lived on. They were strong and healthy beings. Just because we can eat meat and cheese, doesn't mean that's ALL we eat. Unhealthy? I kind of have to roll my eyes at that, because wasn't Dr. Atkins a cardiologist? ( heart surgeon ). Don't let her discourage you! I really do think that she's jelous that you're sticking to something faithfully enough to get some results! I know that it sounds mean, but it's the truth.