i hate myself

[pluorvee]

isn't that sad? i feel like i should be seeing someone....this really seems to be a problem. I know the reason i can't stick to this is because somewhere deep down i think i'm not worth it. A few years ago i did this and lost 30 pounds. I felt better about myself back then. Now, still below my highest weight, i fell even worse about myself.

any tips on how to get out of this?

thanks

[gillybaby]

Hi, i understand how you are feeling, i have got through this myself and i know your hurting. But first of all well done :clapping for coming to ha as this is the first step.

You need to start convincing yourself and being very strict withyourself that you and your body have a right to feel good and you owe it to yourself to start loving the person you are, and to look forward to the person you will become if you stick with this Way of eating.It shows that you have done so great in the past, if you did it then, you can do it now.You just need a push and then you be fine.But the more you sit and feel down the worse it will be to fight these insecurities.I let mine get so bad that now i take Prozac.Do you want to be ill, no you dont, you want to feel good, to look at yourself and not be unhappy. The only way you can do this is by dusting yourself off, start believing and i mean really believing that you deserve this and if needed even shout at yourself and say "come on, i can do this if only i believe in myself and believe that i deserve to feel better".
No one can do this for you, unless you learn to belive in yourself. Get up, dust yourself down, take some deep breaths, but on the song that makes you feel good and you go for it!!!!! do everything you can, and thenn im sure little by little everything will fall into place.

[sassygoddess13]

Have you thought seriously about seeing a therapist? I can't tell you how much it helps. Medication saved my life too. Good luck.

[tabekat]

you shine

let me offer you a big hug. :hug
you aren't alone dearheart.

many people, myself included have moments when they feel some self-hatred. it is, in my opinion an effort at the gut level to try to compensate for overwhelming feelings of guilt and failure.

the problem with self hatred is that it keeps us stuck in the same dismal place rather than provide us empowerment.

don't you know that just sitting there breathing you are a perfectly beautiful sparkling ball of beautiful light?

If you have done some things that you consider self-sabotage, chock them up as a learning experience and move on.

i have discovered for myself that self-hatred can be an addiction too. I am shedding it along with the frankenfoods.

the way out is to be very loving. patient and gentle in the way you talk to yourself. never give up. you have friends here who care.

[spazzyhilo]

you hate yourself, is it true? You're not worth it, is it true?

Really examine these questions - what is reality? It may feel or seem true if you don't examine your thoughts, but in reality, is it true that you hate yourself?

Can you see any peaceful reasons to keep these thoughts?

Now try turning them around, You don't hate yourself - In fact you might just love yourself enough to ask for help and support - and you've done so by coming to ADBB.

You ARE Worth it, Otherwise why the cry for help?

Could these last two statements be just as true - or truer?

[JTsBlackqueen21]

Hey, i know exactly how you are feeling. :yes I first started Atkins the end of 2003 early 2004 and the first three weeks I had lost 15lbs. I was so excited about it and felt great. Then I fell off and the weight started to pile on. I hit a high of 215 and I thought it wasn't that much big of a deal since I'm 5'7 and i wear a size 12. But then I was slowly creeping to a size 14/16 and my clothes didn't fit anymore and I became depressed. I wanted to re-start Atkins but I thought I wasn't worth it. So I said to myself, i need to stop feeling sorry for myself..am I going to continue eating the wrong food and gain more weight or do something about it? I decided to go back on Atkins..it's hard, let me tell you but I have to do it for my health and myself. Don't worry, you can get through this. :yes

[sassygoddess13]

Re: you shine

let me offer you a big hug. :hug
you aren't alone dearheart.

many people, myself included have moments when they feel some self-hatred. it is, in my opinion an effort at the gut level to try to compensate for overwhelming feelings of guilt and failure.

the problem with self hatred is that it keeps us stuck in the same dismal place rather than provide us empowerment.

don't you know that just sitting there breathing you are a perfectly beautiful sparkling ball of beautiful light?

If you have done some things that you consider self-sabotage, chock them up as a learning experience and move on.

i have discovered for myself that self-hatred can be an addiction too. I am shedding it along with the frankenfoods.

the way out is to be very loving. patient and gentle in the way you talk to yourself. never give up. you have friends here who care.

It truly is a viscious cycle and almost impossible to jump out of.