how to stop worrying

[tichafa]

worrying is a kind of a disease, what do you think.

[Peytonn]

absolutely... and welcome!!

but if you find the cure.. let me know.. sometimes I do it too much!

[spirittalker]

My DH says "if there is no use crying over spilled milk then there is certainly no use crying over milk that hasn't even been spilled yet."

[tabekat]

the thought that kicks you out of heaven

i'm a byron katie fan - her simple philosophies have helped reduce many of my worries. (this is just my personal experience, I did not find her through Atkins)

>
The thought that kicks you out of heaven:

"Right now, sitting in your chair, as you breathe, notice that you're
> not doing the breathing, you're being breathed. You don't even have
> to be aware of it, you don't even have to remember to breathe,
> because that is supported too. Complicated and intricate as your
> requirements for existence might be, they are all being met. At this
> moment there's nothing you need, nothing you need to do. Notice how
> it feels to take in that thought.
>
> Now think of something you don't have. I'm sure you can think of
> something. . .
>
> The Thought That Kicks You Out of Heaven
>
> The thought that kicks you out of heaven could be "I'd be a little
> more comfortable if I had a pillow." Or it could be "I'd be happier
> if my partner were here."
>
> Without that thought, you're in heaven—just sitting in your chair,
> being supported and being breathed. When you believe the thought that
> something is missing, what do you experience? The immediate effect
> may be subtle—only a slight restlessness as your attention moves away
> from what you already have. But with that shift of attention, you
> give up the peace you have as you sit in your chair. Seeking comfort,
> you give yourself discomfort.
>
> What if you did get a pillow? That could work (if you have a pillow).
> You may find yourself back in heaven again. It may be the very thing
> you needed. Or you could pick up the phone and convince your partner
> (if you have a partner) to join you, and maybe he or she would
> actually arrive. And perhaps you would be happier, and perhaps you
> wouldn't. In the meantime, there goes your peace.
>
> The thought that kicks you out of heaven doesn't have to be about
> comfort or happiness. It could be "I'd be more secure if . . ."
> or "If only it could always be like this," or it could be just the
> thought of a cup of coffee. Most people are so busy making
> improvements they don't notice they've stepped out of heaven.
> Wherever they are, something or someone could always be better.
>
> So, how do you get back to heaven? To begin with, just notice the
> thoughts that take you away from it. You don't have to believe
> everything your thoughts tell you. Just become familiar with the
> particular thoughts you use to deprive yourself of happiness. It may
> seem strange at first to get to know yourself in this way, but
> becoming familiar with your stressful thoughts will show you the way
> home to everything you need."

>

Sanity doesn't suffer, ever, ever! Isn't that lovely?" Byron Katie

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