DCFS

[sweetspirit241]

Im having a problem with feelings right now, Im goin thru a hard time with my 2 teens right now (who doesnt?) I always use to use food or drugs to comfort me and numb my feelings, but now emotionaly I feel kind of raw, my boy is going thru truancy court and the schools and even the judge has told me Im a great mom, well today a dcfs worker (that i volunteered for) came and totaly told me I am a bad mom and was very rude all because my som stayed home from school today because i took him to the hospital, he has a doctors note but she said when her girl got sick she took her to the doctors and then strait back to school with her meds. then when she kept putting me down i started crying, then she said "whats wrong with you, are you off your meds?" very sarcastic! I told her she was being very rude and she had no right to talk to me this way. she just said alot ao uncalled for things to me, she ended up being very nice after that and even telling me how everyone has said what a good mom I am ect, then she complimented me on how assertive I was with her when I got upset?????? its like head games! anyway why am I so upset by what one person says? I take things so personaly, now I dont know if I should just let it go or report her to her supervisor, she kept saying she could take my kid away if he dont straitnn up, he did nothing wrong, he was sick. sorry I guess I just needed to vent

[CherTLC4u]

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I've been in your shoes. That lady should be reported immediatly!! That was totally uncalled for! As moms, we do the best we can do. Taking your son to the hospital is not taking him to the doctor and getting meds.

Remember: People put other people down to make themselves feel superior. (Altho it makes them look stupid)

For us females, certian times of the month give makes us moody and we tend to cry easier.

[jsj0305]

All I have to say is "You go girl!!!" I'm so proud that you stood up to that evil :censor and gave her a piece of your mind! I completely agree that you should report her. And taking your child to school with meds after going to the doctor?? Those are the idiot parents responsible for half the school getting sick!!! As for your emotions, I truly believe that when we are judged as a bad mother, all **** breaks loose. How dare a stranger judge your parenting skills. Has she been in your shoes? I don't think so!! You are doing the very best you can which seems damn good too me. I wish my parents were there for me like that. So long as you know in your heart of hearts that you are a great mother, then brush it off. Misery loves company and being that she seems to be a miserable person, don't join her. Don't allow this rude woman to get you down. Just know that you are awesome and continue to do what works for you. You are in my prayers. And if you ever need to talk or vent, I am here for you, anytime!! :hug

[cleochatra]

This is precisely one of the reasons state agencies like that need to be brought down off of their mighty horses to county level. State level agencies prove time and again that they not only have no clue what is happening on a local or individual basis but that they are cavalier and ignorant at the state level.

Put them at county level and we can hold local elected officials responsible, care becomes localized, and the workers will know the people they're working with and answer to taxpayers more directly.

I'm so sory you have had to deal with that level of incompetence and stupidity, and that they have had the unmitigated gall to abuse you verbally.

I agree that you must file a complaint. And not just one. File more than one.

Seconding jsj... You go girl!

[Elizellen]

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Definitely put in a complaint to her imediate superior as well as at Director/Head Office level.
Also insist that she is taken off your case and refuse to deal with her again!!
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[sweetspirit241]

Thank you for all your support, I was just going to not say anything but then I ended up calling and Im soposed to write a letter of all that was said and the court intake probation officer is going to submit it to the court and DCFS, she says her and all the other persons who have worked with us will back me up, that made me feel good, she says its up to me if I want to drop DCFS or not because Im already doing all of the right things and I volunteered for it, I may just take another case worker because they have this thing called family preservation, A counciler will come into my home in the evenings and give my son individual and all of us family counciling, it sounds good to me, anyway I know this is an atkins forum but thanks for the advice and support
Love ya all
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