Curious

[jtbull21]

I've been on Atkin's for a little over a month now. Bought the book....did a clean induction and have moved into extended induction.(I have been reading message boards here for a while now...this is my first post). My problem has been my girlfriend's lack of support. We are both on weight loss programs right now, but she is cutting calories and excercising. She is pleased with my results, but constantly gives me a hard time and says one little cheat isnt the end of the world. I find myself constantly explaining to her how important it is to me to do the right thing and how the science behind Atkin's works. Needless to say, she made Thanksgiving very difficult for me. I was just wondering if anyone out there experienced any problems similar to mine and how they handled it. Thanks for your help.

[Laurenfra]

Re: Curious

Yes all the time DH is underweight and gives me a very hard time. So the other day he decideds he is going to be understanding and make me dinner after work. I told him I can eat ham so he makes a big ham which he cooks with honey, brown sugar and OJ. Then gets pissed because I am ungrateful when I wont even try his chocolate pie. He says I am noit really on any kind of diet otherwise I wouldnt eat butter!

[Bren]

Re: Curious

I found that I no longer "discuss" my way of eating. After almost three years of walking the "walk" people no longer poo poo me and now ask...........Tell me how you did it! I want to!! At first it was HARD, as I come from a large family and all my brothers and sisters told me I was nuts. Well, not any more!

[squiff]

Re: Curious

I may be absolutely off the mark here, so please do excuse me if i'm wrong. And i'm assuming you're a chap, so apologies if you're not.

As i'm sure you know, we women are odd things. We sometimes have little strops at things you chaps just sail right through.
Your girlfriend and you are both trying to loose weight, and she is doing it a different way to you. diet and excercise are a fantastic way to both shed pounds and increase fitness. She's working HARD. Now; look at it from her point of view; she's sweating her backside off and you're sat munching away on lard and you're loosing weight...can't be fair, right? She;s probably just annoyed at that...

So, the point is that you want to support each other. Support can make all the difference with a lifestyle change, for you and for her.... Forgive her a little grouchiness - she's working hard and that is a big thing, especially if she's not used to lots of excercise.

Tell her how well she's doing, tell her she's looking gorgeous. Make a joke out of the fact that you're just not dedicated enough to do it the way she is (I know that's not true, but we're looking for domestic harmony here, bear with me) Work together. turn it into an experiement: Atkins vs calorie counting and excercise. Weigh in together each week and whoever 'wins' treats the other to a night out at the cinema, or whatever you guyss like to do.
My point here is two-fold. One: don't try to understant women's emotional pecadillos - you'll go mad. Two: work together and forgive each other the small stuff.

[squiff]

Re: Curious

oh, and her saying 'one little cheat doesn't hurt you' actually translates into FemaleDoublethink as 'one little cheat won't hurt me but i'm annoyed that i cheat (for which read fail) and you don't....

....gosh. i should be a counsellor...