doubt

[pools_mib]

hi,

its day 17 for me and everything has gone really well until today.

i havent cheated or anything but today a co worker made a comment about me and its put a doubt in my mind about what people see and what i see in the mirror.

i look at myself and can see a difference in my appearence and my clothes are way looser but he obviously doesnt.

then i think i must have been massive in the first place and have a heck of along way to go before other people can tell.

i sent my wife photos of me as she has not seen me for 3 weeks and she says i look fantastic but i have that doubt now.

it is stupid but i want it to be 3 months down the line and too have lost a load of weight and for people too tell me. sorry for the sob story but just feeling depressed for the first time.
thanks
mike

[Sherri]

Re: doubt

Aww Mike,

Remember,
It's not what other people think or say. It's what you Know and Beleive!
CONGRATS ON THE POUNDS GONE FOREVER!
Three months will be here before you know it. At the rate you're going there will be at least 30 more pounds less of you by then. I lost 100 pounds in ten months. This is possible for you as well. Hang in there! All that matters is how you feel. Doesn't this lifestyle just make you feel awesome? So much energy and overwhelming Well Being. That's all that matters.
NOT WHAT OTHERS THINK OR SAY! Oh By the Way

Sincerely, Sherri

[Carb Addict]

Re: doubt

I am sorry that you feel like what you have achieved is not a good thing. The applause of people is alluring. We all want our families and friends to notice. If you are truly feeling better, your clothes are looser and mentally you feel in a better state of mind, then what you are doing is worth it! Atkins is a tricky way of eating. There are alot of false assumptions about it and the dangers etc. They hear the false tales and chose to believe them. For me, I have chosen not to tell too many people about my eating habits because I am concerned that they will make comments that will take the wind out of my sails. I am losing the weight for ME. I want a better quality of life.

I would encourage you to spend your energy in the company of those who want you to succeed. There are plenty of people here who have walked in our shoes and do sincerely want you and I to succeed and live the life we were meant to. Read as much as you can and chose to fill your tank with good stuff! Don't give up! Stay the course!

[*Emma*]

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Mike, it took about 40 lbs for anyone to see a word to me, but then the compliments started rolling on in!

remember these people see you all the time, its hard for them to tell a difference, even now 70+ pounds lighter, my boss who sees me 6 out of 7 days has never ever mentioned me losing weight and when anyone says to him, "wow, your PA lost weight" he shrugs... dont stress them! you know its working, keep up the fab work!!

[Elizellen]

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It is rotten when a chance comment from someone can bring you down like that, Mike And probably that person has no idea that what they said affected you either.

Like Emma, I found no-one said anything till I had lost over 40 pounds - in fact it wasnt till I bought smaller sized clothes that my loss was obvious to anyone except my husband.

[Debi2007]

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I totally know how you feel, but don't let that shift your mood. I saw some family for the first time in weeks after losing 60 lbs and dropping two sizes and they just smiled like they were humoring me and didn't notice at all. It was so shocking to me. I expected huge kudos and praise. I look back at it and I don't know why they didn't make a bigger deal of it, but some people are just like that. It really hurt at the time, but what was most important was my husbands opinion and my opinion of myself. Keep your focus on that!!!

[pools_mib]

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thanks everyone for the kind words and advice . i feel ok today and woke up this morning and thought " im doing this for me and nobody else".

i think because i havent weighed myself since starting i dont know for sure how much iv'e lost and that is putting doubt in my mind after that comment, but i CAN see a difference and my clothes are LOOSER so stuff my so called friends and im still determined to succeed.

once again thanks for the comments and sorry for feeling sorry for myself im ok now though!!!

thanks
mike

[dreamof145]

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I'm sorry your co-worker brought your mood down. I'm sure it wasn't intentional. We can't control the actions of others, only our own...so don't let others have such high priority over you. You are doing fantastic..you look and feel great and the people who matter in your life are noticing. Look forward...go to goal and let the positive comments surround you. Your weight loss is a positive thing so be proud of yourself and use motivational thoughts to keep you going over the hurdles. We're here for you!

[FatBottomGirl]

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Glad you are feeling better today Mike -- just remember as everyone else said: it doesn't matter what your coworker thinks - its how you feel about yourself and how YOU view yourself -- the fact your wife see's a difference & is proud of you (and other than you & I think is the only other person that counts) -- I think you are a success in the making.

By the way - could your coworker be jealous of your success and possibly not want to you to suceed? Or need glasses (or like me new prescription)

[MrsBrittney]

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The thing I've noticed most about people, unfortunately, is they can be either very unaware or downright bitter. My coworkers and I are all relatively heavyset (oh ok, we're fat) and have, for years, journeyed down the "lets all lose weight" path and no one does it. In fact, everyone maybe eats low fat for a day and then quits and brings in donuts.

So I announced I was doing Atkins - which many can atest gives you many rolled eyes or downright rude comments - and now, 5 days in, I'm 5.8 lbs lighter. And when people ask how I'm doing, with a tone of hoping to find it isnt working merely because they themselves don't have the willpower to do it, there's almost dissapointment in their voices to hear its working and they might be being left in the dust.

So I focus on the folks who are supportive and find it fabulous and interesting: my hubbie, a few coworkers who are now INTERESTED in buying their own copy, etc.

I'm a STAC'er and the first time I did Atkins, it was relatively unheard of but was slowly gaining its "all cheeseburger, cardiac arrest diet" lies, and my coworkers were very unsupportive. By the time I'd went from 165 to 145, there were 7 of us on it. LOL. And when I hit 115 lbs, even my most skeptical friends were asking to borrow my book.

So keep that chin in the air and remember, if YOU see it then its happening. We are our hardest critics and we should easily ignore coworkers who maybe, even not maliciously, say something that we don't find helpful.