Anyone else having this problem?

[maxima]

I decided to go back to extended Induction because I started out with a desire to lose 70-8- pounds and want to lose the first 20 - 30 as quickly as possible and then chose to start the OWL. I am very comfortable at this stage also, so I don't feel like I can't do it for longer. If I do begin to feel that way, I will simply start the OWL.

This is my question or "problem" - since starting this diet, my husband brings in the most enormous amount of gooey desserts in the history of our (long) marriage. Seriously, I'm amazed - he has always had a little something after supper, but now he is eating a tremendous amount more and a much greater variety at a sitting. Last night he ate 4 pre packaged chocolate cupcake things and defrosted a Sara Lee cheesecake and ate half of the darn thing!

He brings this stuff into the house, not me.

I teased him last night about it, I stated that here I start this very strict diet and he is bringing in all this stuff?? Nicely, but I made my point. He was just shocked that I was surprised and very nicely told me that if it bothered me, he would quit eating it around me.

I don't feel that I should impose my own new eating habits upon him - but I find it just amazing what is going on. I do worry a bit that it will be so easily available should I ever feel myself on a 'crash and burn' type of emotion as far as this diet goes. I have felt emotionally sick of it (not the diet itself, but the "comfort eating" of junk I used to indulge with and am trying to learn how to deal with comforting myself in other ways now - part of this journey I'm on.

Any thoughts on this odd behavior? He is thrilled with this determination I'm showing and supports and encourages me as I stick to this diet.

[Kiko2]

Re: Anyone else having this problem?

I would like to say to you that you should convince your husband that your diet is not just a way to loose weight but a <healthy eating plan> to prevent many health diseases like diabetes, hypertension, cancer ect. and that he should also do it, but this is a long run thing...

But a reality you will have to face (and now is the perfect timing) is that there is not only your husband that will eat all these sweets in front of you... but the rest of the world! I realized that I have overcome my <carb addiction> and related weight problem when I could have an entire table of people eating a cake around me (and being the only one not having some) and feel extremely comfortable with others comments about me not having some... AND also having all the forbidden food at home <for these others> without feeling that there is a danger for me to fall back into eating them.

Until you will have faced your own demons, nobody else is responsible for your choice of eating the right food for your health. Hard reality.

Of course, it is easy to write...

[2big4mysize]

Re: Anyone else having this problem?

since he offerred I'd take him up on it.

You might also ask him if anything is bothering him since he is suddenly eatting more of those comfort foods.

[poobears1972]

Re: Anyone else having this problem?

I think many times our spouses try to sabatouge (sp?) us even if they don't realize they are doing it. Yes they honestly want you healthier but they don't want things to change. Stay strong and I bet he goes back to normal after a while.

I'm not one that believes in wiping the house of all temptation because I need to learn to deal with it at home before I will ever be able to deal with it in public with others pressuring me.

If I binge or eat off plan it's no ones fault by my own. If the only thing keeping me from going off plan is the lack of available junk then I've really not learned any control and eventually that will come back to bite me.

[maxima]

Re: Anyone else having this problem?

I kind of agree about the sabotage thing Poobears. It makes a certain sense to me in a screwball kind of way. He has always been comfortable with the status quo and has had to adjust to change. I think I will leave this subject alone for awhile and see if it just fades away on it's own. If he keeps up this junk food binge for an awfully long time - say 30 - 40 days, it will have to be re-addressed.

What I love about this diet is that unlike any other I have tried, I don't seem to be bothered by the food I 'can't' have. That is one of the major pay-offs of eating this way. I've never experienced this before. I see the 'can't' more and more as a 'won't' and this is just amazing to me.

I still see myself as as being on a "diet" and probably will until I am further down the OWL and then it's simply my lifestyle of eating. Of course it's my diet in that I have a lot of weight to lose - but I'm embracing this new way of eating more and more as time passes. It doesn't seem like punishment nor is it striking me as "temporary" now that I have read the book.

I can't get over how good I feel without all that sugar/flour in my system, it's really simply amazing to me. The longer I go, the more reluctant I am to face all of that as the alternative. The pay off is so great that now the consequences of falling back seem higher and higher as time goes on.

Yes, I'm becoming an devoted fan of Dr. Atkins