I still feel fat

[Coffee Shop Girl]

Re: I still feel fat

[QUOTE=Pineapple]I've reached my goal, my doctor says to stay at this weight, my body fat percentage and BMI are ideal for my type- why can't I accept it?

I have trouble looking at myself in the mirror most of the time. I just focus on how fat I think I look. As finals approach I feel myself becoming more stressed. I want to rush out to the gym and burn 3000 calories, and eat skimpy meals. I haven't and I know I'll never do anything that drastic- I want to feel satisfied! It's taken me almost a year to lose and I'd like to feel like I've accomplished something.

Did this happen to anyone else? I'm sorry if I posted it in the wrong forum, it doesn't seem like depression and I can't put it under emotional eating

Thanks all![/QUOTE]

Pineapple~

Yes, I AM currently in the same shoes you're in. I've lost weight and reached goal..... but there was a time I continued to go down (and reached 13 lbs under my required goal weight) regardless of what anyone said. We aren't talking "do we feel fat today" as much as we are talking "I've lost weight and even though I'v reached goal, it's not enough." I DO understand.

I deal with these issues lately and have for the past 4 1/2 years. It's a daily dying to self thing. I am so strict on myself on some things with food and so overboard on others.

Continue to go to the gym~ it WILL help you stay focused and help you feeling good about yourself, however, try not to overdo or you will find yourself on the other side of the fence being tired and listless. Keep your energy up by eating properly, exercising and finding someone that you can confide in.

I don't believe you're depressed, I think that your body is readjusting. Sometimes when we diet for so long, then reach goal we feel like we don't have anymore goals to reach. Take up a new hobby, go to the library or go and do something that you've wanted to do for a long time. You've reach goal girl! Be proud!

If you would like to talk IM, email or chat let me know. Hang in there!!

[big_bad_john]

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When I'm fat I think I'm thin, when I'm thin I think I'm fat, when Im poor I think I'm rich and when I got money I'm a miser!

Stick with it and try getting dressed in front of the mirror. It really helps strange as it seems!

[drosa75]

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Well I am joining the ranks..I just had a moment where I saw the old 206 pd me in the mirror..boy this is depressing.

[Pie4me]

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Pineapple....

Your problem has been my problem for ages.....I have never been more than
25 pounds over my goal weight but to me 25 pounds is enormous and I feel
totally fat and depressed. I am 5'9 and most people said even with 25 extra
pounds that I was not fat by any means-and I really wasn't. BUT when I do
Atkins and loose the 25 pounds and get back to my realistic weight--to me
I STILL feel fat and that gives me an excuse to just dump the Atkins WOE
and eat again and gain the 25 back--then I am depressed again and it is a
very vicious circle. I guess I am lucky I only let it get to 25 and not more.
I am 48 years old and am having a hard time growing old(er). I want my body
to be a 20 year old one as I feel mentally young and it has been hard for me.
Try to appreciate your great weight loss accomplishment and give yourself a
break and enjoy the new found you. Eat to maintain and have fun at the gym
working out now that you have lost your weight. Good luck and congrats!

Pie4me
48 yoa
5'9
sw 168
cw 154
goal 143

[ex-barbie-doll]

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When I diet... I do so until I feel thin... and look thin to myself.... not to someone elses opinion of what I should look like... what I should weigh.... what is thin....

I know what my ideal weight is...since I have been down there many times..... 119 when I was 35 years old... I felt thin... looked great... and am only 5 pounds from goal right now.... I weigh 124 today....
While people told me I looked great at 145 lbs..... and that I did not need to lose any more.... I felt I did... and so I did... and I feel 100 times better than I did at 145....

[bluerain324]

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I think with how much we see ourselves, every single day, it never looks as though we are changing. Sure, when we shop we must get smaller sizes, but you're still the same person with the same feelings and emotions about yourself, regardless of what you have accomplished. I have never weighed what I do right now, not since I was probably 10 years old. I weigh myself, or I look in the mirror and think, holy crap, I was bigger than this?! I'm huge! How did this ever happen to me?! I know myself even now weighing at 194 seems like a whole lot of weight, but then I have to remember that i've worn a size 26 before. I will happen upon people I haven't seen in about 6 months to a year, and they don't say anything. At first I just didn't get it, like maybe they were upset or something, but now I realize I don't look the same. I know what I look like, I see myself everyday, so I haven't changed in my own eyes, but in the eyes of others is where the realization lies with me.

Pineapple, no one will ever be able to make you feel any better about yourself, not really. It's within your own head to conquer the evil fat thoughts. I think all formerly big people are this way, in some way or another.

[burtonator]

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Yeah.... I must admit I strugggle with this as well. Its becoming harder as I get closer to my target weight. I just look at myself and realize how much more weight I have to loose.

Of course I try to flip it around and say how AWESOME it will be once I meet my real goal. Even in the darkest tunnel there's light on the other side.

Kevin

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