Ugh, I cheated AGAIN

[tickletussler]

I've just been in my journal, and had to post here because I need some OWLers support....

I just cheated AGAIN!!! Honestly, it wasnt a craving even. I am tired, drained, and saw the chips in front me of, so I ate the rest - 2oz of chilli potato chips, and I was even making dinner in the background.

Sometimes I just so want to BE already at GW and doing Maintenance. I feel impatient, I feel tired of it, and so my resolve just gives in, esp when I'm tired. I am impatient with the pounds and inches coming off so slowly, my next goal to do this by Christmas, now seems so so far away. *sigh*

Ok, sure I'll pick myself up again tomorrow and start again, but I can't do this alone...

Please, if you do pop into this post, I would appreciate a word or too, I seriously need help because the length of time between cheats just seem to get shorter and shorter. I really need some ongoing encouragement :sadblinky

[clairebear]

I know exactly how you feel!

I did the same thing tonight. I had just put my husband on a plane and was heading home to my empty house when I decided I needed to prove that I could still live well and enjoy myself in my own company.

So I went home via the bottle shop, grabbed a chilled white and headed to my local thai and ordered a dish with chilli jam, cashews and a serve of jasmine rice and washed it all down with a sweetish riesling.

I'll admit, the food was delish and I forgot just how amazingly good jasmine rice but add this to the yum cha we had earlier for a belated mothers' day celebration and boy my tummy is bloated and my ketosticks are decidely not purple.

So, I'm boiling some eggs and steaming some greens to take to work for lunch tomorrow.

I'm laying out my sneakers and gym clothes and setting the alarm for 05:45.

I know that in a day or so, I'm going to feel amazingly healthy again. I'll have gotten rid of the bloat that I've had since I broke a couple of days ago (for me, the word cheating doesn't seem right).

I'm hoping to finally break that 80kg mark and stay below it.

I hate to sound like a punisher, but use the remorse. Next time you reach for the chips or the chocolate or whatever, ask yourself if the taste is going to be worth the guilt-trip you are going to lay on your self afterwards.

You have done really well to get this far, I bet you have already done better than you expected. Use that to know you can keep it up! :hug

[Laurenfra]

I am so sorry, drink extra water and walk it off.

[Effie]

Re: Ugh, I cheated AGAIN

The fact that you cheated doesn't concern me, as I don't think it's the cheat that is the problem, but how we handle the cheat. The part that concerns me is this:

I am tired, drained, and saw the chips in front me of, so I ate the rest - 2oz of chilli potato chips, and I was even making dinner in the background.

Sometimes I just so want to BE already at GW and doing Maintenance.

I hope you're not thinking that once you're at goal, you'll be allowed to eat potato chips on a whim? This is the kind of dangerous thinking that causes us to hit goal and then immediately start to gain. Don't be one of those people!

[ttdriver]

I hope you're not thinking that once you're at goal, you'll be allowed to eat potato chips on a whim? This is the kind of dangerous thinking that causes us to hit goal and then immediately start to gain. Don't be one of those people!

WELL SAID! As a person who has maintained for going on 4 years, I can tell you, there is NO GOING BACK TO JUNK FOODS, EVER.

This is about changing your eating HABITS .. much more than just losing the weight. To successfully reach your goal, you have to FOCUS.

I call it a 4 step program:

Induction = Desire
Ongoing weight loss = Drive
Pre-maintenance = Discipline
Lifetime maintenance = Dedication

THIS IS FOR A LIFETIME. Its not only changing the way you eat, but changing the way you think. You didn't get overweight in a few weeks and you're not going to reach goal in a few weeks either. Its work. HARD WORK. But your health is at stake. Your future is at stake. Be the best you can be for the long-haul. YOU CAN DO IT!

Betty

[sillygirl]

Tickle.........I hear ya! Check out my journal for today's lack of weight loss complaints! Hang in there. Keep asking for support here, I know that's part of what keeps me on track, even though this has been very slow going for me! There's so much inspiratin on this board!

[Isabeau]

I think it's great that you're getting back on the wagon. I know you can do this.

[tabekat]

take heart

It sounds like you needed something in that moment that was probably very different than what you gave yourself. A hug? Company? A nap? A walk? So many times we try to use food to pick us up when we feel tired, but it seldom works.

Anyway, here is a hug. :hug

Be kind to yourself and praise yourself for all the times you didn't cheat.
Junk food isn't the answer. It can't love you back.

Maybe you need to find something snacky but Atkins friendly that is close to hand like chips. Isn't that the most compelling thing about chips? You just tear open a colorful bag and snarf them down. So, so easy, and oh so deadly. lol...maybe I need to put some jicama in a chip bag, and keep that in the fridge....could work, could work!

Christmas seems far away, but it really isn't. Time goes so fast. Perhaps you could resolve to give yourself the best Christmas present ever - freedom from carb addiction. Just think how wonderful you will look and feel when you have 6 cheat free months under your belt! You can do this.

[tickletussler]

When I read Tabekat's post, I burst into tears. Some of you gave me a swift kick up the butt, others gave me empathy, encouragement and Tabbie hit the spot.

THANK YOU SO MUCH TO ALL OF YOU WHO HAVE REPLIED SO FAR :hug I'm going to try and PM most of your individually!

[tickletussler]

I know some of you like Effie & Betty are worried that I would just go back to eating junk once I've reached GW. Don't worry, that is NOT going to happen. I guess I didn't make myself clear enough. You see, before Atkins I was a big veggie & fruit eater - actually I ate all of the foods that are listed in the rungs and wasn't a big eater of potatoes or pasta. I guess you could say that I didn't put on the weight because I ate a lot of junkfoods, frankenfoods, sugars, refined carbs or flours, it was more the case of I would skip breakfast, didn't eat lunch when I was busy, have a lot of food later in the day, eat dinner really late and then go straight to bed. once I put on the weight, it was hard taking it off - meaning I'd maintain the weight, just have problems getting the fat off.

So when i said I was "tired" and wanted to be on Maintenance, I was more referring to being impatient, to wanting to eat the foods in the different rungs, to eat the foods I used to eat that belong in these rungs, and I sometimes find it hard to have lived so long without these foods I used to eat.

But I NEED to be patient. I've made 2 resolutions in my journals:

1. Go to ADBB every time I feel low, tired, crave, whatever to take my mind off food because ADBB really does that for me
2. Start a personal challenge of having as many consecutive cheat-free days as possible

[Effie]

Ah, sorry to have whipped out the attitude so quickly! :whip

How long have you been on OWL? Do you think you can start to climb the rungs to get those extra foods in now? I've noticed that almost everone does their OWL differently, so maybe you just need to experiment to find what works best for you. Who knows, maybe it'll even kickstart your weight loss too?

I also come on here when I'm bored, tired, hungry, all of the above. Sometimes you read someone else's post that answers questions you didn't even know you had, and that's what your post did for me. So, Thanks for your post! :hug

[FightingTheFight]

Sometimes these things we go through are required and are apart of the learning process. We battle different desires and wants daily, at the end of the battle is what we have to take a look at.

If you come across a craving and overcome it, you just learning how to fight another one in the past. One of the biggest obstacles I think to overcome is the desire for everything to be just done and overwith and I think this happens when we start to concentrate so much on the weight loss that it consumes our minds.

Ever hear about the Watched pot that never boiled? You gotta put it kinda on the back burner in your mind, sticking to it strongly, but not allowing it to overcome you helps the time and weight go by. I look back now to April 23 of this year when I started. Its now going on 2 months ago, and I know I would never want to start over, but I remember saying to myself during week one, how its going to take foreverrrrrrr! Ive learned how to overcome that, and I think it will help you overcome anything you are dealing with!

Good luck and May God Bless You :hug