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  • Sarina D
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    Originally posted by NETTY12 View Post
    Sarina - you TRULY are an inspiration for all of us! I am speechless and even to the point of crying to see what an accomplishment you did! I have friends and family that the only way they have been able to lose weight, was to cheat by having surgery and they weren't to where you were. I am so proud of you and I can't stop congratulating or feeling so much praise for you. It has been a long journey, I'm so happy that you made it and I thank you from the bottom of my heart to allow me to hope and know that it is possible to reach your goals!! Much love and happiness to you always
    Wow, thank you Netty....you're too sweet!!!!! It has been quite the journey and it's certainly not over yet....mind you...it never is really over is it?!?!?!?! Once I reach goal then the maintaining will kick in (which will take work) and the tightening of loose skin will kick into high gear and take at least a year if not more...it's all good and I look forward to the point I can say I made goal.

    We attended another family funeral on Friday and it was absolutely amazing how many family members didn't recognize me. One of Harold's aunts told me the day after the viewing at the funeral that the night before although she had spoken with me had absolutely no idea who I was until that evening after everyone had left someone told her it was me...she was stunned! I found myself having to introduce myself to family that haven't seen me this past year....we had some very big laughs once they realized who I was. It's a pretty amazing feeling to say the least. Each and everyone of them were so encouraging and very happy for me...what a great feeling. As I've shared on this thread...not all encounters have been positive but I have to say this last one and the one before this have been great. The last family funeral we were at (about one month ago) family didn't recognize me there either and thought Harold had a new girlfriend...the looks he received were pretty amusing. He had to re-introduce me at that time as well.

    You keep up the great work yourself Netty...it is most certainly possible to reach our goals and we're going to be doing that together! When you get a chance be sure to drop me a line and let me know how things are going for you. I look forward to your updates!

    Hugs,
    Sarina
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    Heaviest weight - 403 lbs. (2007)
    April 1, 2008 - 387 lbs. (This is when I initially started to lose weight…but was not on Atkins at this point)
    Atkins start weight – 347 lbs. (July 19, 2008 – began Atkins)
    1st major goal met -----100 lbs. lost as of Oct 2, 2008 - Hit 300 lbs. on this day – From April 1-08 when I initially begin to lose weight.
    2nd major goal met - 151 lbs. lost as of Jan 13, 2009 - Hit 249 lbs. on this day.
    3rd major goal met - Wed, May 13-09 - Reached losing 200 lbs. in just over a year and a couple of months.
    4th major goal met – Reached “Onederland” June 6-09 – 198 lbs.
    5th major goal met - My 1 yr. Atkins anniversary - Weighing 184 lbs. this day
    Current weight – 183 lbs.
    Goal weight - 150 – 160

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  • Sarina D
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    Originally posted by bradybunch View Post
    Great job Sarina, you have inspired so many on this board. I hardly ever log in any more but when i do i always check your posts and get the updates. I am always amazed., again, great job girl !!!
    Well thank you for sharing what you have with me! I'm thrilled to hear that you're still logging in from time to time and that you visit my thread when you get the opportunity....that is wonderful to hear...thank you for that! It's feedback like this that really helps when bumpy times roll around...and they do come up from time to time along the journey to great health...thanks a million for sharing that with me....I really appreciate it!

    How are you doing with this woe lately? I would love to hear an update about how things are going for you.

    Thanks so much for the rep point! That was most kind of you..what a lovely surprise!

    Do keep in touch when you get a chance...I hope you'll find more time to log on in the future....it's great to see you back online.

    Talk with you soon!
    Sarina
    ---------------------
    Heaviest weight - 403 lbs. (2007)
    April 1, 2008 - 387 lbs. (This is when I initially started to lose weight…but was not on Atkins at this point)
    Atkins start weight – 347 lbs. (July 19, 2008 – began Atkins)
    1st major goal met -----100 lbs. lost as of Oct 2, 2008 - Hit 300 lbs. on this day – From April 1-08 when I initially begin to lose weight.
    2nd major goal met - 151 lbs. lost as of Jan 13, 2009 - Hit 249 lbs. on this day.
    3rd major goal met - Wed, May 13-09 - Reached losing 200 lbs. in just over a year and a couple of months.
    4th major goal met – Reached “Onederland” June 6-09 – 198 lbs.
    5th major goal met - My 1 yr. Atkins anniversary - Weighing 184 lbs. this day
    Current weight – 183 lbs.
    Goal weight - 150 – 160

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  • Sarina D
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    Originally posted by mkline71 View Post
    Thanks a lot of the great words, I'm going to try my best to keep it up. What the doctor said was really great to hear. I think I'll give it a year after I reach my goal and if need to go under the knife then I will. I agree we have earned the right to get rid of loose skin.

    I am doing cardio too. I lift four nights a week and on those nights I do 60 minutes of cardio. On the nights I don't lift weights I try to do 80-90 minutes of cardio.

    I started lifting hard in late May and my weight loss did slow down in June. It could have been the weights but I was also eating a Julian Bread sandwich every day. Jimmy Moore got me hooked

    YouTube - LLVLC On YouTube: Low-Carb Julian Bakery Smart Carb Bread Recipes Part 1 (Episode 77)

    So I dropped the bread and still do the weight lifting. I lost more but still not as much as before the hard lifting. In the end this is for my lifetime so doing both cardio and weight training are going to continue.

    I do take off 1 night a week from the gym. That night is sort of my "cheat" night. That is an atkins cheat night. Meaning that I do have a Julian Bread Sandwich and an Atkins bar.

    Tony Little will use you in a heartbeat...you would sell a ton of gliders.

    Hopefully my pictures will be posted here in 2010
    Hi Mike!

    Sorry about replying so late, I've kept in mind to reply back to you each day but we've been dealing with a death in our family and I'm behind on replies on my thread as well as pm's....sorry about that

    Yes indeed, I too found my doctor's explanation regarding loose skin to be very encouraging....we'll see what one year after reaching goal brings us!?!??!?! I think we'll be pleasantly surprised!

    I'm glad to hear you're doing cardio, that is terrific. I won't give up on either the cardio or the weight training. I was suppose to do my weight training tonight but I was sooooo incredibly tired from the last couple of days...both physically and emotionally...I ended up just running for my 70 min on the glider and 30 min on my stationary bike and I walked around the lake earlier this evening. I was going to do the weight training but thought I had better not because of how tired I feel...wouldn't want to end up risking an injury due to the fact that I wasn't really up to it. Later today I'll finish my cardio routine and then add the weight training to my abdominal training that I'm scheduled to do....that way I won't miss it.

    Well, I have to say...I ate WAY too much on Saturday...or at least I felt like I did...crazy...I haven't done that for a very long time and won't be doing it again any time soon. Everything was legal...just too much

    Yes, good for you for dropping the Julian Bread. What rung are you on? Are you on the grain rung? You certainly don't want to slow down all that you've accomplished or even stall out due to being on a rung or food group you shouldn't be on Hey, have you checked out the flax cookies and stuff like that you could make...even flax crackers!! There's some pretty amazing recipes in the recipe section to choose from. Just a thought.

    Keep up the great work Mike, you're doing awesome...I'm so proud of you! You're a great inspiration to all of us here....keep it up!!! I'm very much looking forward to your pictures....that will be awesome to see!

    Be sure to keep in touch, it's great talking with you.

    All the best,
    Sarina
    -----------------------
    Heaviest weight - 403 lbs. (2007)
    April 1, 2008 - 387 lbs. (This is when I initially started to lose weight…but was not on Atkins at this point)
    Atkins start weight – 347 lbs. (July 19, 2008 – began Atkins)
    1st major goal met -----100 lbs. lost as of Oct 2, 2008 - Hit 300 lbs. on this day – From April 1-08 when I initially begin to lose weight.
    2nd major goal met - 151 lbs. lost as of Jan 13, 2009 - Hit 249 lbs. on this day.
    3rd major goal met - Wed, May 13-09 - Reached losing 200 lbs. in just over a year and a couple of months.
    4th major goal met – Reached “Onederland” June 6-09 – 198 lbs.
    5th major goal met - My 1 yr. Atkins anniversary - Weighing 184 lbs. this day
    Current weight – 183 lbs.
    Goal weight - 150 – 160
    Last edited by Sarina D; August 16, 2009, 05:51 AM. Reason: Took a suggestion out...research required!

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  • NETTY12
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    Sarina - you TRULY are an inspiration for all of us! I am speechless and even to the point of crying to see what an accomplishment you did! I have friends and family that the only way they have been able to lose weight, was to cheat by having surgery and they weren't to where you were. I am so proud of you and I can't stop congratulating or feeling so much praise for you. It has been a long journey, I'm so happy that you made it and I thank you from the bottom of my heart to allow me to hope and know that it is possible to reach your goals!! Much love and happiness to you always

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  • bradybunch
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    Great job Sarina, you have inspired so many on this board. I hardly ever log in any more but when i do i always check your posts and get the updates. I am always amazed., again, great job girl !!!

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  • mkline71
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    Originally posted by Sarina D View Post
    Hi Mike,

    I know I'm really proud of you...well done, you're a great inspiration to all of us here!!!

    As far as the loose skin goes for me...yes it's there but you know what...not NEAR as bad or as much (so far) from how I visioned it was going to be.

    On another note but having to do with the same subject, my family doctor and I were talking about how much weight I've lost a few weeks ago and the topic of loose skin came up. He thinks my loose skin will come back (the thought of that is truly mind blowing and amazing to me considering how large my stomach, my legs and my arms were). He said that the key is giving the skin a full year AFTER reaching goal to come back...even a year and a half.

    Have you incorporated cardio into your routine? You mentioned that you were walking at one point...are you still? If you aren't...try to incorporate some aspect of cardio into what you're doing for a month

    No, I've not written to Tony Little....you never know, I just might yet! LOL! I am onto my 2nd glider, I wore the first one out so I would indeed have some suggestions for him on how to improve his technology!

    Sarina
    -----------------
    Heaviest weight - 403 lbs. (2007)
    April 1, 2008 - 387 lbs. (This is when I initially started to lose weight…but was not on Atkins at this point)
    Atkins start weight – 347 lbs. (July 19, 2008 – began Atkins)
    1st major goal met -----100 lbs. lost as of Oct 2, 2008 - Hit 300 lbs. on this day – From April 1-08 when I initially begin to lose weight.
    2nd major goal met - 151 lbs. lost as of Jan 13, 2009 - Hit 249 lbs. on this day.
    3rd major goal met - Wed, May 13-09 - Reached losing 200 lbs. in just over a year and a couple of months.
    4th major goal met – Reached “Onederland” June 6-09 – 198 lbs.
    5th major goal met - My 1 yr. Atkins anniversary - Weighing 184 lbs. this day
    Current weight – 183 lbs.
    Goal weight - 150 – 160
    Thanks a lot of the great words, I'm going to try my best to keep it up. What the doctor said was really great to hear. I think I'll give it a year after I reach my goal and if need to go under the knife then I will. I agree we have earned the right to get rid of loose skin.

    I am doing cardio too. I lift four nights a week and on those nights I do 60 minutes of cardio. On the nights I don't lift weights I try to do 80-90 minutes of cardio.

    I started lifting hard in late May and my weight loss did slow down in June. It could have been the weights but I was also eating a Julian Bread sandwich every day. Jimmy Moore got me hooked

    YouTube - LLVLC On YouTube: Low-Carb Julian Bakery Smart Carb Bread Recipes Part 1 (Episode 77)

    So I dropped the bread and still do the weight lifting. I lost more but still not as much as before the hard lifting. In the end this is for my lifetime so doing both cardio and weight training are going to continue.

    I do take off 1 night a week from the gym. That night is sort of my "cheat" night. That is an atkins cheat night. Meaning that I do have a Julian Bread Sandwich and an Atkins bar.

    Tony Little will use you in a heartbeat...you would sell a ton of gliders.

    Hopefully my pictures will be posted here in 2010

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  • Sarina D
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    Originally posted by Laolady View Post
    congratulation
    Thank you very much!
    I wish you all the best in your weight loss journey.
    Sarina
    ------------------
    Heaviest weight - 403 lbs. (2007)
    April 1, 2008 - 387 lbs. (This is when I initially started to lose weight…but was not on Atkins at this point)
    Atkins start weight – 347 lbs. (July 19, 2008 – began Atkins)
    1st major goal met -----100 lbs. lost as of Oct 2, 2008 - Hit 300 lbs. on this day – From April 1-08 when I initially begin to lose weight.
    2nd major goal met - 151 lbs. lost as of Jan 13, 2009 - Hit 249 lbs. on this day.
    3rd major goal met - Wed, May 13-09 - Reached losing 200 lbs. in just over a year and a couple of months.
    4th major goal met – Reached “Onederland” June 6-09 – 198 lbs.
    5th major goal met - My 1 yr. Atkins anniversary - Weighing 184 lbs. this day
    Current weight – 183 lbs.
    Goal weight - 150 – 160

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  • Laolady
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    congratulation

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  • Sarina D
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    Originally posted by mkline71 View Post
    Great job on the loss!! Like everyone else is saying...INCREDIBLE!!

    I'm at my 11 month mark and have gone from 406 to 280. My before and after pics will come when I hit 200.

    Are you having any issues with loose skin? I know that can be a problem with that much weight loss. I'm guessing if I do get to 180-200 I'll need a tummy tuck myself. I've been lifting weights a lot over the last 3 months and doing a lot of ab work and maybe that will help some.

    On another note...you also have great teeth.

    I started walking at night too, then my local apartment gym, now for the last 6 months a "regular" gym. It is nice to be back in the main stream.

    Have you written Tony Little and showed him your pics. I think he would use you for sure. Who knows you may make some decent $$$

    Thanks for sharing your story and pictures.

    Mike
    Hi Mike,

    Thank you for popping by and taking the time to share in my adventure!!

    I appreciate your lovely comments and support, they mean a lot to me.

    I have to say Mike, you are MOST amazing....just look at what you have accomplished in 11 months...you've lost 126 lbs!!!!!! Good grief you should be so proud of what you have done...I know I'm really proud of you...well done, you're a great inspiration to all of us here!!!

    As far as the loose skin goes for me...yes it's there but you know what...not NEAR as bad or as much (so far) from how I visioned it was going to be. I credit it to all the cardio, weight training and specific body zones that I train. Weight training and cardio are equally important so I won't skip on either one. I was mentioning a discussion on this board with a few people regarding something my specialist shared with a little while ago when he was talking to me about my weight loss. He said that it's the cardio that really burns the fat and gets rid of it....the weight training is important but the cardio is what sheds the weight. I know for me, this has been the case. I know this because I tested it a couple of times and each time I reduced my cardio but kept up in the weight training...my weight loss slowed (one month it came to a near stand still)..but I increased my cardio portion again and the weight started to come off again and my body overall looked better. My stomach has come down so much and I know it's because of the cardio I do.

    On another note but having to do with the same subject, my family doctor and I were talking about how much weight I've lost a few weeks ago and the topic of loose skin came up. He thinks my loose skin will come back (the thought of that is truly mind blowing and amazing to me considering how large my stomach, my legs and my arms were). He said that the key is giving the skin a full year AFTER reaching goal to come back...even a year and a half. That was very exciting news to me. But hey, the reality of it is...if after reaching my goal and giving it the time he suggests I still have some loose skin...I have no problem having it removed.... I think by then I will have earned it!

    Keep up all that you're doing with eating properly and exercising the way you are...that will help in continuing to tone your body as well. I know that they say one can't spot train...I do understand their reasoning for saying that...HOWEVER, I just have to disagree to some point with that statement. I know from my exercise routine that my body certainly, in no way what so ever would look like it does if I hadn't exercised and spot trained (abs work, tricep work, inner thigh work). The way it has worked for me is I have spot trained and I've developed a lot of muscle under the fat which I think has been very important because as the fat comes off I am seeing my body contoured and shaped in ways I know would not have happened without training certain areas....absolutely no way.

    I am SOOOOOO proud of you for getting out in the public gym....you continue to hold your head up high, you have MUCH to be proud of...well done!!!

    Have you incorporated cardio into your routine? You mentioned that you were walking at one point...are you still? If you aren't...try to incorporate some aspect of cardio into what you're doing for a month (along with the weight training and abdominal work) and see if you notice a difference. You're weight loss has been tremendous so I don't mean in that regard but I am curious to see if you notice a structural change in your body...I know for me I did.

    No, I've not written to Tony Little....you never know, I just might yet! LOL! I am onto my 2nd glider, I wore the first one out so I would indeed have some suggestions for him on how to improve his technology!

    Thanks again Mike for writing and sharing with me your wonderful success. I am ecstatic for you and grateful that you've shared what you have accomplished...you are truly inspirational! Please keep in contact and drop me a line when you're able...I would love to hear how things are going for you and I CAN'T wait to see your pictures!!!!!!!!

    I wish you continued success and great health and happiness...keep in touch!

    Sarina
    -----------------
    Heaviest weight - 403 lbs. (2007)
    April 1, 2008 - 387 lbs. (This is when I initially started to lose weight…but was not on Atkins at this point)
    Atkins start weight – 347 lbs. (July 19, 2008 – began Atkins)
    1st major goal met -----100 lbs. lost as of Oct 2, 2008 - Hit 300 lbs. on this day – From April 1-08 when I initially begin to lose weight.
    2nd major goal met - 151 lbs. lost as of Jan 13, 2009 - Hit 249 lbs. on this day.
    3rd major goal met - Wed, May 13-09 - Reached losing 200 lbs. in just over a year and a couple of months.
    4th major goal met – Reached “Onederland” June 6-09 – 198 lbs.
    5th major goal met - My 1 yr. Atkins anniversary - Weighing 184 lbs. this day
    Current weight – 183 lbs.
    Goal weight - 150 – 160

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  • Sarina D
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    Originally posted by LastChance View Post
    You had such a beautiful face at 403........
    Well thank you LC, that is very sweet of you to say.

    I wish you all the best in your journey to great health, it's good to meet you and I look forward to hearing about your progress...keep up the great work!!!!!

    Sarina
    -----------------
    Heaviest weight - 403 lbs. (2007)
    April 1, 2008 - 387 lbs. (This is when I initially started to lose weight…but was not on Atkins at this point)
    Atkins start weight – 347 lbs. (July 19, 2008 – began Atkins)
    1st major goal met -----100 lbs. lost as of Oct 2, 2008 - Hit 300 lbs. on this day – From April 1-08 when I initially begin to lose weight.
    2nd major goal met - 151 lbs. lost as of Jan 13, 2009 - Hit 249 lbs. on this day.
    3rd major goal met - Wed, May 13-09 - Reached losing 200 lbs. in just over a year and a couple of months.
    4th major goal met – Reached “Onederland” June 6-09 – 198 lbs.
    5th major goal met - My 1 yr. Atkins anniversary - Weighing 184 lbs. this day
    Current weight – 183 lbs.
    Goal weight - 150 – 160

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  • mkline71
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    Great job on the loss!! Like everyone else is saying...INCREDIBLE!!

    I'm at my 11 month mark and have gone from 406 to 280. My before and after pics will come when I hit 200.

    Are you having any issues with loose skin? I know that can be a problem with that much weight loss. I'm guessing if I do get to 180-200 I'll need a tummy tuck myself. I've been lifting weights a lot over the last 3 months and doing a lot of ab work and maybe that will help some.

    On another note...you also have great teeth.

    I started walking at night too, then my local apartment gym, now for the last 6 months a "regular" gym. It is nice to be back in the main stream.

    Have you written Tony Little and showed him your pics. I think he would use you for sure. Who knows you may make some decent $$$

    Thanks for sharing your story and pictures.

    Mike

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  • Helena-in-England
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    You had such a beautiful face at 403........

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  • Sarina D
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    Originally posted by Mick2360 View Post
    Sarina, What a lovely and heartfelt post; beautifully written and so to the heart of the matter of how changes in ourselves effect others. It sounds as though your physician is a thoughtful and prudent man. You photos show a startling metamorphosis in size but in each of them you are a beautiful woman, no matter your size. Your husband obviously knew it all along and is likely the type of man to love on a soul level. It is a wonderful thing to have found the person you will walk through life with.

    The betrayal you have experienced from 'friends' is something else altogether. Heavy people are discounted, as if we are lesser than others and therefore objects of unspoken pity and scorn. It is an odd combination, isn't it? It sets up the dynamic that we are supplicants in relationships, never really able to sit at the 'cool kids' table, and never given the chance to be taken at our real value. I stopped buying into this a long time ago. I trust my judgment and instincts. I value my worth whether heavy, losing or soon to be in shape (thin? THAT ain't happening!).

    It is different for men in some ways. I think women are under so much pressure to conform to ideals of what is beautiful and sexy' from the time that they are adolescents until the end of their lives; it is mission impossible. I think that your doctor may also have been warning you that your new look is tremendously powerful; doors get opened for pretty women and there is a trap there for you in addition to the former friends that envy and resent your success. You are not a prop for them to play off of, you are competition....and likely too much so. There is a scripture from matthew that has something to say about entering the dangerous world; "behold I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves, therefore be as wise as a serpent and as gentle as a dove". Good advice.

    My final thought is this; you strike me as intelligent, sensitive and very well grounded. I am very sorry for your tears and i know that your heart aches for people who need you to be something other than who you are. Trust yourself, Sarina. There is a lot of ground to cover and you are in a good place to become the person you were born to be. I believe that God put each of us here for a reason and very often suffering is the price we pay for the wisdom and strength we will need to do whatever our special job in life is. At one point you needed to be heavy to be safe. That is no longer the case. Shed no more tears. Be happy for those who love you and have always loved YOU. You are bound for good things Sarina. Go get them done!

    Regards,
    Mick
    Hi Mick,

    I've pm'd you...I hope you received it.

    Thank you for what you have written above, I am deeply grateful for what you have shared with me...thank you so much.

    I hope you and your wife have a lovely and relaxing evening...please say hello to her for me and send her my best.

    Sarina
    --------------
    Heaviest weight - 403 lbs. (2007)
    April 1, 2008 - 387 lbs. (This is when I initially started to lose weight…but was not on Atkins at this point)
    Atkins start weight – 347 lbs. (July 19, 2008 – began Atkins)
    1st major goal met -----100 lbs. lost as of Oct 2, 2008 - Hit 300 lbs. on this day – From April 1-08 when I initially begin to lose weight.
    2nd major goal met - 151 lbs. lost as of Jan 13, 2009 - Hit 249 lbs. on this day.
    3rd major goal met - Wed, May 13-09 - Reached losing 200 lbs. in just over a year and a couple of months.
    4th major goal met – Reached “Onederland” June 6-09 – 198 lbs.
    5th major goal met - My 1 yr. Atkins anniversary - Weighing 184 lbs. this day
    Current weight – 183 lbs.
    Goal weight - 150 – 160

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  • Mick2360
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    Sarina, What a lovely and heartfelt post; beautifully written and so to the heart of the matter of how changes in ourselves effect others. It sounds as though your physician is a thoughtful and prudent man. You photos show a startling metamorphosis in size but in each of them you are a beautiful woman, no matter your size. Your husband obviously knew it all along and is likely the type of man to love on a soul level. It is a wonderful thing to have found the person you will walk through life with.

    The betrayal you have experienced from 'friends' is something else altogether. Heavy people are discounted, as if we are lesser than others and therefore objects of unspoken pity and scorn. It is an odd combination, isn't it? It sets up the dynamic that we are supplicants in relationships, never really able to sit at the 'cool kids' table, and never given the chance to be taken at our real value. I stopped buying into this a long time ago. I trust my judgment and instincts. I value my worth whether heavy, losing or soon to be in shape (thin? THAT ain't happening!).

    It is different for men in some ways. I think women are under so much pressure to conform to ideals of what is beautiful and sexy' from the time that they are adolescents until the end of their lives; it is mission impossible. I think that your doctor may also have been warning you that your new look is tremendously powerful; doors get opened for pretty women and there is a trap there for you in addition to the former friends that envy and resent your success. You are not a prop for them to play off of, you are competition....and likely too much so. There is a scripture from matthew that has something to say about entering the dangerous world; "behold I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves, therefore be as wise as a serpent and as gentle as a dove". Good advice.

    My final thought is this; you strike me as intelligent, sensitive and very well grounded. I am very sorry for your tears and i know that your heart aches for people who need you to be something other than who you are. Trust yourself, Sarina. There is a lot of ground to cover and you are in a good place to become the person you were born to be. I believe that God put each of us here for a reason and very often suffering is the price we pay for the wisdom and strength we will need to do whatever our special job in life is. At one point you needed to be heavy to be safe. That is no longer the case. Shed no more tears. Be happy for those who love you and have always loved YOU. You are bound for good things Sarina. Go get them done!

    Regards,
    Mick

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  • Sarina D
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    Originally posted by andilsk5 View Post
    Thanks Sarina, for your detailed post on the exercises you do (and for all your other inspiring posts).

    Your comments about someone close to you acting differently towards you really reminded me of a time, about 6 years ago when I was a lot thinner than I am now. I had lost about 50 pounds through lots of exercise and perfect eating (or what I thought was perfect eating) and was pretty close to my ideal weight. I went to dinner with some coworkers and when I came back to the table after going to the washroom, one of the women at the table said "oh, are you back from throwing up your dinner? How else could you have lost so much weight so quickly?" I was devastated by that comment. But then I realized that all the comments and bad reactions I was getting were because those people were unhappy with themselves and jealous of my success. I couldn't change them or how they felt about me at all. I am glad you realize this too - you should never let anyone make you feel bad about you. You have done amazing things and no one should be allowed to diminish that or cause you to feel like you might like to schedule a cheat day. It, and they, are not worth it!

    Thanks again for all your posts that are so inspiring to so many of us.
    Andie
    You're most welcome Andie, I hope that what I have shared regarding my exercise routine is helpful.

    Thank you for sharing what you did regarding the restaurant episode...how horrible. I find it amazing that people can be so miserable within themselves that they strike out to hurt others, it's very sad isn't it? I'm sorry you had to go through that.

    No worries about the "scheduled cheat day" looking back at it, I was more day dreaming about it then actually considering it....in the moment it felt like a planned cheat day but I didn't and wouldn't have done it. I would only be hurting myself and I won't give this person or anyone else the satisfaction of me going backwards As mentioned earlier, we had a very sudden and tragic death in our family which rocked us this weekend....and then the situation with someone who I am close to came to the surface and of course...emotions bubbled up...and I use to be an emotional eater so where does my mind go to....directly to food. I'm usually pretty good and have come a long way from where I was but even being in as much control as I am and being so disciplined...the thought of emotional eating can still re-surface from time to time. It's all a learning process...how to do things differently and continue along that path....so far so good

    Thanks for popping by and thank you for the encouragement regarding this situation...after sleeping on it, I am dealing with it much better today....it still hurts but it's not my issue and I can't take it on.

    Sarina
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    Heaviest weight - 403 lbs. (2007)
    April 1, 2008 - 387 lbs. (This is when I initially started to lose weight…but was not on Atkins at this point)
    Atkins start weight – 347 lbs. (July 19, 2008 – began Atkins)
    1st major goal met -----100 lbs. lost as of Oct 2, 2008 - Hit 300 lbs. on this day – From April 1-08 when I initially begin to lose weight.
    2nd major goal met - 151 lbs. lost as of Jan 13, 2009 - Hit 249 lbs. on this day.
    3rd major goal met - Wed, May 13-09 - Reached losing 200 lbs. in just over a year and a couple of months.
    4th major goal met – Reached “Onederland” June 6-09 – 198 lbs.
    5th major goal met - My 1 yr. Atkins anniversary - Weighing 184 lbs. this day
    Current weight – 183 lbs.
    Goal weight - 150 – 160

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